Of all the problems to have in a relationship, dating a chain of men who are messing around with their sisters isn't one that comes up a lot. One woman, however, is on her second man with a crush on his sister and she needs some help. Desperately.
First, a disclaimer: This story may be fake and a bid to get other people to write about sex with sisters, but I have a feeling it might not be. Especially because having sex with siblings or having crushes on siblings, at least, isn't that rare. It happens in almost every one of V.C. Andrews' books and I'm sure it's talked about in therapists' offices all the time. But twice in a row might be too much? You decide.
Here's her post, taken from r/relationships:
My wonderful boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now. We took a break last summer for about 5 months. (that will play in later)
Well, two years ago my boyfriend and I were hanging out at my house and he decided to drink lots of vodka. He ends up black out drunk and I am taking care of him. No biggy though. However while he was drunk he tells me everything he was keeping from me. Others I won't get into because I respect his privacy.
But the thing I can't forget...that I wish he never ever told me. Is that he had a crush on his sister and while they were cuddling he got a hard on and wanted to have sex with her. He was 19 at the time. So shortly before dating me.
Over the years everytime he talks to his sister I get jealous or sick to my stomach and because of this he has cut down talking to her because of me. The reason this bothers me so much? Remember the break we took? Yeah, well during that time I dated an asshole who cheated on me...WITH HIS SISTER. Like had sex and decided to tell me like a week later. So this has stuck with me as you can see.
Not to mention I've heard many stories from my SO's family and friends that they act like they are in a relationship when they are around each other. Holding hands everywhere, cuddling, etc. Maybe this is normal with siblings? I'm not sure...
Well...my SO's sister is moving to an hour away from us and my SO wants to go spend the weekend with her (as well as lots of future visits). The thought makes me sick to my stomach and not even want to be intimate with my SO or even be around him. He's also not going to be able to pay some of his bills this month because hes sending her money even though she has someone taking care of her already. My SO's mother is scared that his sister is going to drag him down someday.
Basically I think it's freaking gross and I can't get over it. I wish I knew how to get over it. I think the first step I can take is to meet her...but I already know she hates me because "I took her brother from her". I told my SO if he/we go and see her that they can't cuddle or do what they used to do because it's werid and gross...and I just ugh. Thinking about it makes me so mad and disgusted.
Before you say "talk to him" I have, I've brought it up many times...but I am going to talk to him again about it tonight after work and try to work something out... In the meantime... how can I forget? How can I not let this get the better of me?
What would you say? My first thought is that those secrets didn't all come out by accident. I mean, I've been pretty drunk before and still known that I probably shouldn't tell others about some of my deepest darkest hidden quirks and desires, but I'm not this guy. But aside from that, it doesn't seem the boyfriend has resolved his issues with his sister, especially considering that there's still this "girlfriend stole him from the sister" narrative going on.
But then there's the added bonus of the fact that the writer has also had this happen before. How is that possible? Where in West Virginia is she living? Why doesn't she move? I know that deal breakers are essentially a myth, but I would consider this one. Cuddled with your sibling on the regular? OK! Got an erector while doing so? WeIrD, but understandable because of many different factors but weird! Other people telling you that your boyfriend and his sibling WHO HE IS SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO are always all over each other like they're dating? GO ON AND WALK OUT THAT DOOR! And then make sure that whoever you're dating next doesn't have any siblings or a too-close relationship with their mother or aunt. I don't know. I just can't get over the fact that this happened twice.
Unfortunately, this doesn't seem to be the only problem. In follow-up comments, the poster wrote this about the possibility of breaking up.
There are many things that lead me to think that we should break up. Such as hes a party person, I'm not. He hates kids, I want to have kids some day. Granted I am willing to compromise on things, but perhaps we aren't compatible and I don't want to see it.
The sister-loving? Lady, that's just icing on the cake.
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