Maxim had Rousey answer a number of sex and dating-related questions and one of her responses is unfortunately off-the-mark.
In response to a question asking what a guy should always do in bed, Rousey recommends he “take his time.”
“In general, a girl takes a minute,” she says. “He needs to get her ready. You should never need lube in your life. If you need lube, than [sic] you’re being lazy... and you’re not taking your time.”
So, we shouldn’t expect our athletic heroes to be sexual health heroes too, but for the sake of journalistic integrity, Maxim shouldn’t have allowed Rousey’s answer to stand alone because it just isn’t true. Not all vaginas are as naturally moist, apparently, as Rousey’s and to suggest otherwise may make perfectly normal women suffer through unpleasantly-dry sex, which could potentially cause vaginal tissue to chafe or tear.
Salon’s Rachel Kramer Bussel asked around:
Sex and relationship educator Reid Mihalko said her advice is akin to “telling massage therapists that using massage oil is being lazy.” Aida Manduley, a social worker and sex educator, said, “Depending on the kind of sex being had, lube can be essential because not all our orifices produce the necessary fluids to ensure adequate slipperiness, especially for anal play. If someone is undergoing cancer treatments, going through menopause, or even taking certain medications, their natural lubrication production can dramatically change and decrease. For survivors of sexual trauma, even when emotionally feeling ready to have consensual sex, their bodies may be so dissociated that lubrication production is compromised. None of these things are about people being ‘lazy.’”
Moral of the story, use lube unabashedly and often.
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