'Cool Dad' Takes Son's Porn Problem to Reddit

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When a dad found his 13-year-old son’s malware-infested porn stash, he wrote a the kid a letter and posted it on Reddit; it quickly became one of the site’s most popular posts. In the letter, he tells his kid that porn is A-OK but the computer-killing spam that often comes with it isn’t; therefore, the son should look up porn on the included list of dad-approved porn sites. I’m not sure if that’s better or worse than walking in on your parents having sex in the middle of your first day of school in front of the guy you have a crush on. Tough call.

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I’m all for parents being open about sexuality with their children; my parents avoided the subject and so I didn’t even know where the penis resided on the male body until I was about 15, but I kinda wish this father had added a p.s. that was like, “p.s. Watching this shit when you’re so young will only leave you with bizarre and hilarious expectations of what sex is and should you ever ‘get with’ (‘cool dad’ vernacular!) another human being, you’re gonna be really confused about what’s happening. Also, respect women. PEACE!” You know?

I’m not the only self-proclaimed sexpert (ugh) who thinks that — Amy Lang, a sexual health educator, told Salon, “Internet porn is generally way too much information about sex for a 13-year-old boy. He really doesn’t have the emotional or intellectual ability to make sense of what he’s viewing.”

I think it’s cool that the dad is hoping he did the right thing and reaching out for advice, even if it is to Reddit, and it’s definitely good that we’re dialoguing about this stuff, but man, it was so much easier when we had to steal issues of Playgirl from the grocery store and rub up against lamp posts to figure this shit out.

I found porn on my son’s internet broswer. Did I go about his correctly? [Reddit]
Finding Your Kid’s Porn [Salon]

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DISCUSSION

WillRogers3000
WillRogers3000

I was just thinking: as far as internet porn being too much, is it really that much different from a movie or a game?

Someone below wrote that their boyfriend thought they'd enjoy anal sex because women in movies scream about it. For a long time I've known that what happens on a screen (movie, TV, game) doesn't accurately reflect real life. And I watched a shit load of porn from a young age. Weird stuff, too.

Things aren't universal either: just because women in porn scream and shit doesn't mean just any girl will.

Am I being insane, or does it seem like most people should be smart enough to know the difference between a movie and real life as well as knowing that they need to be respectful of the person they're with?