Weddings are such complicated business. Entitled people want cash, not gifts! Or, as this terrible Facebook message from a bride/horrible mean person demonstrates, sometimes people (perplexingly) do not want cash. Or at least, they do not want a paltry amount of cash. Like $100. $100 is not enough for some people.
The guest involved, Tanya, had just attended the wedding of an acquaintance. Tanya is a recent college graduate with student loan debt and only a part-time job, so she and her boyfriend generously gave the bride and groom a hundred bucks. Then, a week later, the bride sent this via Facebook message:
Hi Tanya, how are you? I just want to know is there any reason or dissatisfaction of Mike's and I wedding that both you and Phil gave 50$ each? In terms of the amount we got from you both was very unexpected as a result we were very much short on paying off the reception because just for the cocktail + reception alone the plate per person is 200$ (as per a normal wedding range with open bar is about) and Mike and I both have already paid for everything else including decor, photography, attire etc and didn't expect we had to cover that huge amount for reception as well. As I know you both live together and work, so I did not see any reason for that amount, when it comes to your wedding hopefully you'll know what I mean. I hope for the best as from what we receive is what we will give back. Anyways, good luck on everything.
1. [SIC] [SIC] [SIC] to all of that. Jesus God, am I alone in feeling that anyone who expresses his or herself so poorly in written language probably doesn't deserve a wedding present? "Is there any reason or dissatisfaction of Mike's and I wedding"? "In terms of the amount we got from you both was very unexpected"? The bride's purchase on standard English grammar and usage is perhaps even shakier than her grasp of manners. I'm actually impressed this woman managed to turn on her computer and spell Facebook correctly.
2. Much more importantly, when did people become this rude? Here is a list of the circumstances under which it is appropriate to criticize a gift given you by a well-meaning guest: Never, never, and the second Tuesday after never. That is all.
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