Woman Writes Brave, Honest Letter to the Baby She Will Never Meet

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It's an understatement to say that abortion is not a decision one takes lightly, nor is it one that is always easy. Even when it's the right choice, there's can be a lot of pain involved. One woman, who will be getting an abortion next friday, chose to say goodbye via an open letter.


Here's the letter in its entirety:

Little Thing:

I can feel you in there. I've got twice the appetite and half the energy. It breaks my heart that I don't feel the enchantment that I'm supposed to feel. I am both sorry and not sorry.

I am sorry that this is goodbye. I'm sad that I'll never get to meet you. You could have your father's eyes and my nose and we could make our own traditions, be a family. But, Little Thing, we will meet again. I promise that the next time I see that little blue plus, the next time you are in the same reality as me, I will be ready for you.

Little Thing, I want you to be happy. More than I want good things for myself, I want the best things for the future. That's why I can't be your mother right now. I am still growing myself. It wouldn't be fair to bring a new life into a world where I am still haunted by ghosts of the life I've lived. I want you to have all the things I didn't have when I was a child. I want you to be better than I ever was and more magnificent than I ever could be. I can't do to you what was done to me: Plant a seed made of love and spontaneity into a garden, and hope that it will grow on only dreams. Love and spontaneity are beautiful, but they have little merit. And while I have plenty of dreams to go around, dreams are not an effective enough tool for you to build a better tomorrow. I can't bring you here. Not like this.

I love you, Little Thing, and I wish the circumstances were different. I promise I will see you again, and next time, you can call me Mom.


Beautiful and heartbreaking.


Don't Give a Yarn

If my mother didn't have an abortion, I wouldn't exist.

A year before she met my dad - her now husband of 25+ years - she had just moved to a new state for a new job. When she realized she was pregnant, she made the choice to abort, because she knew she was not in an emotional or fiscal place to have a baby. Because she made that choice for herself, she was able to advance in her career enough that she was sent to the company's national conference where she met my father. Within six months they were married, and my dad - who had children from a previous marriage - said that he would be open to having another child so that my mom could have her own. A year later I was born.

This is why abortion matters - so women can make the best choices for themselves and their families so when - or if (as I know not all stories are like my mother's) - they are prepared emotionally, fiscally, etc. conceive and have a child, they are able to.