Woman Recounts Heartbreaking Story of Growing Up Fat

Wow, this is a tough listen. I want to give little VJ all the hugs.

I'm pretty sure most fat kids can tell you the moment they first learned that being fat was bad and wrong, and what a transformative experience that was. I sure can. I was a very happy, very outgoing child until I reached middle school and was passed a note that just read "lard ass". I turned it into the teacher, and she just threw it away and reminded us all not to pass notes in class. Thanks for the help, Ms. Brown. I'll never forget you. No matter how many hours of therapy I spend trying.


Most children feel like they don't belong or fit in or that there's something wrong about them sometimes. But fat kids, that feeling is often validated by the kids and — much worse — the adults around them. It really sucks to have the people you look up to tell you there's something wrong with you, especially when the solutions they offer — if they do offer any — are more detrimental than anything else.

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This is heartbreaking. And I can relate. When I was younger, I wasn't actually fat, just of large build. I thought I was really obese because of what others said to me (thanks, dad!) and then, out of futility, I actually became overweight.

This may be taboo but imma say it anyway.... I am morbidly obese and I just really really feel ashamed and hopeless about it and can't help feeling that being thin would make it go away. Is it wrong to feel that losing 100lbs would make everything better? Will I still carry the shame inside that I do now if I do lose it?

Also, how do we get away from shaming fat people but still get the point across that fat does lead to health problems?