OK, while the term "all babies are beautiful" gets thrown around a lot, let's be honest: there have been times when you've seen an infant and thought, "Ew."
Look, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and sometimes those eyes are sideways, checking out that disgusting garter belt thing you put on your bald daughter's head to make her look more feminine. Not everyone is going to think your son's weird ears are endearing, or recognize the charm in how your wrinkly little girl is the spitting image of her elderly grandfather. Also, if it comes as a total shock to you in 2013 that people on the Internet are capable of being complete assholes, then you are a pitiable rube.
That being said, making fun of people for how they look is certainly not nice. So it was no surprise that when a private Facebook group—initially intended to sell and trade toddlers' clothing, but turned into a space for people to get really real about the physical appearance of strangers' kids—was discovered, there was outrage at the meanness of it all. Because everybody expects mothers to be kind and nurturing and benevolent, even though there's plenty of evidence to the contrary.
Naturally, a mother is protective of her child, and doesn't want her kid to be called ugly. But at the same time, it's also probably because she thinks her child is beautiful, and lends a certain amount of importance to the issue. (Don't we all, really?)
However, the stuff on that Facebook group (which has since been deleted) didn't seem all that bad, as far as Internet nastiness goes. Mostly, the moms were making fun of the kids' clothes and the parents' choice of stupid picture as their profile photo, commentary that doesn't really have much to do with the kids at all.
And the meanest stuff was still kind of hilarious:
Does anyone else look at some photos and think that no matter how much money you pay for an outfit, it's not going to help your child look cute? I'm probably going to hell for saying that....
Most of us will be there with you then
No just no
An ugly baby thread. I have died and gone to heaven...why can't you guys live near me so we can do this over cocktails?
Before I address this...It...I want to point out that it makes my heart happy that you have a Mean Girls tab in your computer. Good stuff. Now, # 1 is this a he or a she...You absolutely can not fix ugly. This is a God given example of such.
One post compared a little girl's face to the mean boy in Toy Story, which majorly pissed off her mom, who made it a point to post that her daughter is developmentally delayed because she was born prematurely. What that has to do with anything is anybody's guess. Maybe she was trying to garner some sympathy? Was that her way of explaining away her own daughter's face? It's almost like she's admitting that her kid isn't cute, but that there's a reason for it, which is actually more fucked up than what the mean moms were doing.
Facebook group bashes toddler and baby photos [Fox Phoenix]