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In June, a male juror claimed he hadn’t been swayed by the massive social media smear campaign against Heard—which was in part supported by a substantial ad buy from conservative outlet The Daily Caller, and PR direction from a former Trump communications staffer. The juror’s own words, nonetheless, exposed that he was very much swayed by his own misogyny: “The crying, the facial expressions that she had, the staring at the jury—all of us were very uncomfortable. She would answer one question and she would be crying and then two seconds later she would turn ice cold… Some of us used the expression ‘crocodile tears,’” he told GMA last month.

He continued: “A lot of the jury felt what [Depp] was saying, at the end of the day, was more believable. He just seemed a little more real in terms of how he was responding to questions. His emotional state was very stable throughout.” Heard couldn’t meet this individual man’s precise threshold of an appropriate emotional display after enduring years of trauma and abuse, so, therefore, she was lying. On the other hand, shockingly enough, a wealthy white man over 20 years older than Heard just so happened to “seem a little more real.”

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To be clear, despite this ruling in the U.S., a British court ruled in November 2020 that Depp had abused Heard. Throughout the trial in the U.S. this year, Depp admitted as much by characterizing the relationship as mutually abusive, acknowledging his own abusive acts and merely pretending Heard’s responses to this violence constituted abuse, too.

According to Amanda Kippert, director of editorial at Domestic Shelters, “most victims accused of being mutually abusive are just having emotional or even physical reactions to the abuse that they’re suffering.” Abusive partners will then “accuse their victims of being abusive, in order to shift the blame as a form of gaslighting,” Kippert told Jezebel in may.

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That a lawsuit from a male crew member who accused Depp of punching him in 2017 has largely slipped through the cracks—save for conspiracy theories from a few particularly obsessive fans—speaks to what the Heard-Depp trial was really about. The crew member’s lawsuit against Depp wasn’t alleging sexual or domestic violence; as a result, his claims weren’t held to the same innately sexist scrutiny. His suit wasn’t seen as an overarching threat to men’s power and privilege to do whatever they want to women, and still somehow emerge as the victim when women speak out against them—thus, it was unimportant.

Depp’s legal victory over Heard is about infinitely more than one celebrity marriage gone hideously wrong. For men’s rights activists and our misogynist society, it’s a triumphant warning shot to women and victims everywhere to shut up and know our place. For women and victims, it’s a reminder of how much society hates us—and through the endless, violent myths it’s validated in the mainstream, it’s a boon to our abusers for years to come.