
It was the Vogue profile of Pete Buttigieg that did me in. Early on, when the 37-year-old mayor of South Bend, Indiana, first announced the formation of an exploratory committee and then formally tossed his hat in the ring for the presidential nomination, I dismissed him as a forgettable center-left Democrat in the style of Cory Booker, who was also barely registering in the polls. Certainly Buttigieg would face the same fate, right? His name was too little-known, his policies (whatever they were) too modest to make a splash in such a crowded field. And while the prospect of the first gay president was exciting and felt meaningful to many, Buttigieg was a technocrat at a time when the Democratic Party’s most progressive and energized voters want more than Obama 2.0. And his resume—Harvard! McKinsey!—made me both yawn and roll my eyes. This was Build-a-Bear for middling Democrats, not the transformative candidate that could take the White House and spend four years battling a hostile Senate! But then the Vogue profile happened. (“Pete! Pete! Pete!”)
Suddenly he was everywhere: on the View, on podcasts, and in the pages of major magazines. He was unavoidable, the result of an all-out media blitz that was cynical on its face but absolutely worked: his dramatic and improbable rise in the polls soon followed.
And just like that I was supposed to care about Pete. To take Pete seriously. To feel impressed by his speaking shitty Norwegian or James Joyce references or a completely batshit plan for the Supreme Court. I resented it, and my resentment soon curdled into an extreme dislike. Pete Buttigieg fucking sucks, I found myself thinking. Each new credulous headline—every day he stayed in the top five of national polls—fueled me.
So when my editor and chaos agent Katie McDonough asked me to spend a week reading everything I could about Buttigieg as a way to see if I really hated his whole thing—Pete as a concept—as much as I seemed to, I agreed. After all, I am a person who is both constantly wracked by self-doubt and would also like to think my opinions are based on more than deeply felt yet possibly misguided emotions.
That week, a full seven days ago, I dutifully began my Pete Watch: combing through every major old profile and interview of Buttigieg, reading dozens of news articles as they were published, and watching every appearance of his, from his MSNBC town hall to his segment on Showtime’s Desus & Mero. Hours of my life, all in an attempt to answer the question: Am I the bitch in this relationship?
Let’s just get this out of the way: I have come to realize, much to my dismay and counter to my original impression, that Pete Buttigieg the person is very charming (my previous description of him as the human equivalent of a Shinola watch notwithstanding). I would even go so far to say that I like him as a person (though still not as a candidate). Mea culpa? I don’t know. But let’s talk about it.
The first thing that made me go, Oh fuck, I kind of like Pete, was an interview he did with NowThis, in which he shares that he doesn’t think a hot dog is a sandwich! That he used to be a dog sitter and loves his dogs! That he’s a nail biter, just like me! That his husband Chasten says he is a loud chewer! I watched and observed that his tie was an appropriate width, not too wide and not too skinny. I found myself nodding as he shared his views on religion: “When I go to church, the scripture I hear has to do with protecting the poor, and spending time with the prisoner, healing the sick, and caring for the stranger, which to me is another word for immigrant. It has a very clear set of moral and policy implications, none of which I would associate with the right wing.” As someone raised in a very conservative Southern Baptist church which I fled as soon as I could, it all sounded pretty great.
Buttigieg’s thoughtfulness, ease, and charm—the qualities that form a significant basis of his appeal—were also on full display during this appearance on the Ellen DeGeneres Show in April, where he talked (thoughtfully, naturally) about his criticism of Vice President Mike Pence, and this segment last Thursday on Desus & Mero, an almost de rigueur campaign stop nowadays for 2020 hopefuls, which ended with him swilling an unidentified bottle of liquor from a brown paper bag.
It turns out it’s easy to like Buttigieg, even when he comes off as extremely annoying (see: the didgeridoo and the curated whiskey collection while at Harvard, and the seemingly endless interviews in which he talks about his love for James Joyce). Buttigieg gets teary and emotional when talking about gun violence and school shootings, as he did during a recent campaign stop in Austin. His two dogs, Buddy and Truman, are adorable rescues; his husband Chasten, an extremely friendly teacher, comes off in profiles of the two as the more vibrant, lovingly exasperated foil to Buttigieg’s more measured calm. (“It’s sort of like always being in grad school,” Chasten has said of being married to Mayor Pete, which, ouch but also awww?)
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