Golden Showers in Netflix’s You Season 4 Are a Hot, Wet Take on Class Anxiety
While it's a plot point in a famously absurd show, a sex therapist told Jezebel that kinks are often platforms for exploring and inverting power differentials.
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Netflix’s You is back with a vengeance—and notably fewer fingers on Joe’s hands—and is armed with its infamously provocative sex scenes. In previous seasons, these have included an encounter between Love and Joe within moments of beating and locking up a couple with whom they were in the midst of a foursome moments earlier, and, of course, multiple snippets of Joe masturbating in his car. And in this first half of Season 4, we’re almost immediately treated to a golden showers subplot offering surprisingly incisive class analysis.
Since the events of last season, Joe has moved on to London and rebranded as a literature professor named Jonathan Moore, where he meets and is insinuated into a group of aristocratic, predictably obnoxious frenemies. This new circle includes socialite-influencer Lady Phoebe and her boyfriend, an American named Adam Pratt. While both are wealthy, Phoebe is substantially more so, leaving Adam more or less financially dependent on her. This doesn’t appear to bother Adam—until we (and Joe) see Adam getting it on with a busboy, whom Adam directs to urinate on him.
In episode 5, we learn—along with Phoebe—that class anxiety lies at the heart of Adam’s piss kink. When Phoebe offers to pee on Adam shortly after the couple becomes engaged, he stops her, explaining that his desire to be peed on is “about the person being beneath [him]” status-wise. For him, piss play is an outlet for both escaping and channeling his frustrations with the economic inequalities of their relationship. And while Adam insists that this isn’t “a big deal,” Phoebe responds, “Do you know where kinks come from? The deepest parts of your mind. And the deepest part of you is telling us exactly what we need to know: We aren’t equals in this relationship. We aren’t true life partners.” She then unceremoniously dumps him.