Author and notorious hashtag creator Amber Rose is having a big week. After joining her exes Wiz Khalifa and Kanye West in of one of the most captivating Twitter fights since the service’s inception, she has published an op-ed in Time titled “How I Learned To Stop Caring What People Think.”
It’s a comparatively underwhelming companion piece to yesterday’s tweets—just eight short paragraphs on a subjects she knows all too well: being judged for things men are praised for, and ignoring the fuck out of any and all haters.
After my ex-husband Wiz Khalifa and I got a divorce, I’d go out for a date at a restaurant like any normal single human and people would say, “Man, she’s such a ho. She’s out at restaurants with guys.” Then they would see my ex-husband with a bunch of women. They would say, “He’s the man! That’s so cool.” So when I went on a date, I’m a whore, and when he’s piling girls in a car, he’s the man? There’s something wrong here.
Her solution to the problem of being criticized both privately and publicly for her Bad Bitch ways was to stop caring. And now, Rose says she “sleeps like a baby” at night.
What I’ve realized is that, when you care too much, you’re not living at your full potential. When you really stop caring about what people say, that’s when you really start living. It’s such an amazing feeling.
Similarly amazing feelings include, oh, never mind.
You can read the full essay over at Time.
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