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'When You Stop Caring...You Start Really Living': Amber Rose Just Penned an Op-Ed For Time

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Author and notorious hashtag creator Amber Rose is having a big week. After joining her exes Wiz Khalifa and Kanye West in of one of the most captivating Twitter fights since the service’s inception, she has published an op-ed in Time titled “How I Learned To Stop Caring What People Think.”

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It’s a comparatively underwhelming companion piece to yesterday’s tweets—just eight short paragraphs on a subjects she knows all too well: being judged for things men are praised for, and ignoring the fuck out of any and all haters.

Rose writes:

After my ex-husband Wiz Khalifa and I got a divorce, I’d go out for a date at a restaurant like any normal single human and people would say, “Man, she’s such a ho. She’s out at restaurants with guys.” Then they would see my ex-husband with a bunch of women. They would say, “He’s the man! That’s so cool.” So when I went on a date, I’m a whore, and when he’s piling girls in a car, he’s the man? There’s something wrong here.

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Her solution to the problem of being criticized both privately and publicly for her Bad Bitch ways was to stop caring. And now, Rose says she “sleeps like a baby” at night.

What I’ve realized is that, when you care too much, you’re not living at your full potential. When you really stop caring about what people say, that’s when you really start living. It’s such an amazing feeling.

Similarly amazing feelings include, oh, never mind.

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You can read the full essay over at Time.


Contact the author at bobby@jezebel.com.

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This is simplistic, no doubt, but she’s still right about the value of letting go of other people’s judgments. And I really like what she said in another Time piece that they link to in this one:

As for those who raise an eyebrow at Rose’s claims to expertise on running a successful business, she’s unfazed. “I am a mogul. I have a bunch of businesses, I’m now an actress, I’m an author, I went on an entire world tour and I don’t even sing. So if that doesn’t tell you that I am an entrepreneur, then I don’t know what does.” And as for those who diminish her achievements because of her past, she thinks they’re working on a double standard. “The fact that I was a stripper does not take away the fact that I’m smart, that I am witty, that I am capable of running my own business,” she says. “There’s famous guys that were drug dealers back in the day, and no one ever brings up that fact. But as a woman, they bring up the fact that I was a hustler. And it’s extremely unfair, and I just don’t tolerate it.”