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TX School Tells Dad to Cover 5-Year-Old's Shoulders; Dad Is All, 'Nah'

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A Texas man wrote an impassioned blog post for the Houston Press after his five-year-old daughter was told by staff cover up her sinful shoulders and legs with a t-shirt and jeans.


Writer Jef Rouner sent his daughter to school last week wearing a full-length rainbow dress with spaghetti straps and carrying a backpack containing a change of clothes, so he expected she might have put them on eventually. What he wasn’t expecting, however, was the reason for it.

“Did you get cold, sweetheart?” I asked her.

“No,” she said a little crestfallen. “I had to change because spaghetti straps are against the rules.”


Rouner goes on to assert that the incident with his daughter is proof that “every school dress code that is not a set uniform is about policing girls and girls alone.”

Have you ever stopped to think how weird a school dress code really is? I went and checked out the one for my daughter’s school district and it’s amazing in how hard it tries not to say what it actually means. There are literally no male-specific guidelines anywhere on that list.


...a school dress code exists to prevent girls from displaying too much of their bodies because reasons.


While the student handbook does prohibit spaghetti straps, it was written to apply to the entire school district. The handbook offers no distinction between 5-year-olds and 18-year-olds, as is evident in the fact that the page with the dress code directly follows the student parking guidelines. And I assume they’re not talking about one of these:

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Rouner ends on a positive note, however, announcing that he will use the whole thing as a learning experience for his daughter.

The next time the kid wants to wear her dress I’m going to let her, and I’m going to tell her that there’s nothing wrong with it or her because she is dressed in a perfectly normal manner and cute as a button to boot. I’m going to tell her that some people think a girl who shows too much skin is wrong or dangerous, but that those people are, for want of a better term, lackwitted thugs living in a bad place. And if anyone tells her to change I’m going to advise her to ask why and to keep on asking that person “Why?” until she gets an answer she likes.


She’ll probably be asking for a while.

Images via Jef Rouner/screengrab.

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Love him! My 17 year old daughter wore a dress with spaghetti straps yesterday and when a school administrator told her to cover up she asked him if her shoulders were turning him on. She's a sassy thing and I love it.