Sex As A Power Play? Not For This Woman

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Jamilah Lemieux (aka Sister Toldja) speaks about the power language has to cast fucking as a power struggle rather than a mutual experience. [The Beautiful Struggler, Image via Carlo In The Round Peg on Flickr]


I love the idea of moving the language surrounding sex from something that one does to another (I nailed him, he fucked him), to something people do together. Because even when sex is, on the surface, uneven (BDSM, role-playing, etc), if it's being done well, both players hold equal power within the event, and, when each holds equal power, you're farrrrrrr more likely to get off.