Open Thread: How Are You Surviving Quarantine With a Partner?

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When I got married, everyone told me the exact same thing, the first year is the hardest. But, Lord love a duck, I had no idea the first year of marriage would involve a pandemic that canceled both my wedding ceremony and honeymoon and forced me inside where I’m currently trapped at home with my partner 24/7. I imagine many couples are going through a similar experience and discovering that their partner is actually the most annoying person on the face of this earth.


For example, my partner, who has no idea I am writing this, keeps forgetting to recycle his shampoo bottles and the cardboard center of toilet paper rolls. I gently remind him about recycling when what I really want to do is push him out of the window of our apartment, fourteen floors above ground.

In an effort to keep ourselves out of prison we have tried to pick up more “together” activities, which resulted in the purchase of several Assassin’s Creed games, on sale for less than 10 dollars. Assassin’s Creed is a video game that incorporates murder, history, and conspiracy theories broken out into several different trilogies that follow a similar thread. Mostly, the games chronicle a fictitious company called Abstergo and its plot to take over the world by hacking into the past via DNA. It’s wild.

Last week I purchased Assassin’s Creed: Unity, set during the French revolution, and Assassin’s Creed: Syndicate, set in London during the industrial revolution. The ease with which one can kill people in Unity has been an incredible outlet for my low simmering rage and has given my partner and me something new to discuss. The game has quite a few side missions and I’ll likely try to complete every single one in an effort to extend the mental vacation I get from playing.

I can’t recommend the Assassin’s Creed franchise enough. How are y’all keeping your relationships afloat?



You know, I was so glad to have the quarantine.

My husband of 43 years was dying during this time. He just passed last Sunday in fact.

The lockdown allowed me to focus completely on his well being and comfort. He had been sick with cancer for a long time and I had him on home hospice. Our world became a tiny one containing just the two of us, as I washed him, changed his depends, checked his pillows, gave him his medication, all the things we do for the dying.

. We were in a little bubble of just us and I have never felt such love and tenderness for him as I did when he was dying and I was tending to him in his final days. He died in my arms.

Mourning is different in this time of pandemic..but we didn;t plan to have a funeral anyway.

My friends and loved ones come one or two at a time and sit with me in the back yard and it’s very comforting. At a traditional wake, or aShiva, people come all at once..this way is slower, but suits me also lasts crush of people followed by silence.

If you are with your partner during this grateful.