No Sex At Home For Massachusetts Divorcees, Says Bill

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A Massachusetts legislator has introduced a bill to amend the state's divorce laws to disallow divorcing parents from having sex at home until the divorce is final, unless they get court permission. Huh?


It reads, in full,

In divorce, separation, or 209A proceedings involving children and a marital home, the party remaining in the home shall not conduct a dating or sexual relationship within the home until a divorce is final and all financial and custody issues are resolved, unless the express permission is granted by the courts.

Apparently sex outside the home is fine? The agenda on this seems confusing, particularly since it was introduced by a man who has "reportedly has gone through a bitter divorce himself," and "is the former president of Fathers United for Equal Justice, which disbanded in the 1990s." Clear men's rights buzzwords, although the connection is obscure. And men's rights groups aren't backing him up, either.

Bill Would Ban Parents From Having Sex At Home While Getting A Divorce [My Fox Boston]
Divorcing Parents, Don't Try This At Home [Boston Herald]
Bill S00851 [MA Legislature]



The headline is wrong. This only effects divorces where minor children are involved.

You know what? This isn't a wholly bad thing in. At worst its an inconvenience for the person who didn't move out. This will go towards minimizing the power games that seem to go on during some divorces. Power games that can be harmful to children involved.

My parents are divorced and have been trying to punish each other since I was three. Since arriving at University five years ago multiple close friends have watched their parents get divorced. In all but one case they had younger siblings. In each case one of the parents moved out and the one who stayed in the home during the divorce. The one who kept the home had a new partner living in the home within three months. In two of the cases, the new partner was conspicuously present when the parent who moved out had to come by the house.

Kids, especially the younger ones sometimes need some time to adjust to what just happened to their family life, and bringing in a new person into the mix, doesn't help. Some parents can't seem to remember that.

Enforcement is a problem, and I doubt the writer of it had this in mind.