Men May Need More Cuddling Than Women

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According to new research, men may be mushier than they let on. A study found that men are more likely to be satisfied with their long-term relationships if there's plenty of kissing an cuddling involved. Plus, men are more likely to say they're happy with their relationships, while more women report being sexually satisfied.


Psychologists from The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University followed 1,009 coupes from the United States, Brazil, Germany, Japan, and Spain, according to LiveScience. The participants, who were all heterosexual, had been in relationships for one to 51 years, and half had been together for at least 25 years. The participants filled out questionnaires on the health of their relationship. The researchers found that the men in longer relationships tended to be happier. However, for women happiness trailed off between years one and 15 of a relationship, then started increasing again between years 20 and 50. Lead author Julia Heiman explains, "The period of less satisfaction seems to overlap with the period of raising children, during which other things really take a focus."

The researchers were surprised by their findings on sexual satisfaction. Women said they grew more pleased with their sex life over time, and men said kissing and cuddling made them happier in the bedroom. It's possible that both factors increased over time because relationships in which women are unhappy sexually and men aren't physically affectionate don't last very long. The psychologists plan to keep studying the sex lives of people in long-term relationships, but say they learned a lesson from incorrectly predicting men's fondness for snuggling. "The really useful message is, don't make presumptions about the genders," said Heiman. "Because there's no way to be sure you're going to be right in any way."

Study: Men Need Cuddles, Too [LiveScience]

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I might be outing myself right here but 16 years ago when I used to be a porn star, I used to work with Ron Jeremy. Before he could perform, I noticed that he likes to kiss and cuddle. Because he's fat and not very attractive, very few of the girls want to cuddle with him . I felt kinda sorry for him because he is a genuinely sweet person, so I would kinda hang out with him and give him a nice hug and kiss before he does his scene, and I felt he really appreciated that - a genuine human connection. Before you know it, all the boys on the set want a hug and a kiss from me, and some of them would cry after I give them a hug. I found it very bizarre, because all of these porn boys get tons of sex, but I think they are really looking for someone to connect to. They are rather lonely because porn is a dehumanizing business, especially for the men.

I left the porn business to pursue a career in technology, and I can tell you for a fact that there are a lot of lonely men in IT, but there are a lot more lonely men in porn. And they all want to cuddle with someone who is willing to look them in the eye as a human being.