"Lay Off" Married Men: Jilted Wife Successfully Sues Mistress

Today Good Morning America interviewed Cynthia Shackelford, who won $9 million in a lawsuit against her husband's mistress last week. When asked what she'd like to tell cheating spouses, Shackelford puts all the blame on other women:

My main message is to all those women out there who might have their eyes on some guy that is married to not come between anybody... Lay off... It's not good to go in there. It hurts the children. My children are devastated. I'm devastated.

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Hear that ladies? Stop targeting happily married men, drugging them, and forcing them to have sex with you. Think of the children!

But wait — is it possible mistress Anne Lundquist isn't the only one to blame for Shackelford's divorce? A jury in North Carolina, one of only seven states to allow "alienation of affection" lawsuits, certainly thinks she's at fault, but Allan Shackelford posted a statement (in the third person, no less!) on the Greensboro News & Record website. Note the twist at the end!

Allan Shackelford and Cynthia Shackelford had significant problems in their marriage for years, including three rounds of marital counseling that failed. Allan Shackelford had been involved in numerous affairs going back to the first two years of their marriage. Cynthia Shackelford told Allan Shackelford that she wanted to divorce him at least two years before he began a relationship with Anne Lundquist. Their marriage did not break-up because of Anne Lundquist. It ended because of the problems that Allan Shackelford and Cynthia Shackelford created for themselves. But, Cynthia Shackelford was never prepared to look in the mirror and take responsibility for her own mistakes. I know, because I am Allan Shackelford.

When asked about her husband's statement, Shackelford said she, "Had absolutely no knowledge of any of these other affairs. We had a great marriage. He was very affectionate. We have two wonderful children. I mean, this is all a shock to me."

What happened to Shackelford is horrible, and she probably is in shock and isn't thinking clearly. But just because she thinks the marriage was "great" doesn't make it so — it just means her husband was a really good liar. Sleeping with a man you know is married is a shitty thing to do, but someone needs to explain to Shackelford that her husband, not his mistress, is the one who broke a vow to be faithful.

Wife's $9M Message to Mistresses: 'Lay Off' [ABC News]
Spurned Spouse Gets Her Due [Greensboro News-Record]

DISCUSSION

Cinnamoncanuck1
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I was "the other woman". Go ahead and slut-shame me, I don't care.

Mr. Canuck was miserable in his first marriage. She was in denial about how bad things were, even though they were living with her parents with their toddler and another one on the way, because he couldn't find a job and she refused to work.

A few weeks after we met, he moved out into student housing (he was in grad school) and never went back except to visit his daughter(s, once DD2 was born).

He refused to let her blame me for the end of the marriage because he knew it was over long before we met. He just didn't have the courage to get out before.

I was out of the country for the first year of our relationship, so we did everything long-distance, which gave us each space to figure out where we were going.

She remarried and had another child before he and I were even engaged. She has exactly what she wants.

We have sacrificed much to get where we are now. I'm sure some would see that as the necessary punishment for him straying.

He has missed his daughters' landmarks and for that, he'll always be full of regret.

But, he's able to support them financially in a way he never could have before. And on the whole, they're happy, healthy girls. I would do anything for them.

And I love him and he loves me. That we've had to work for our happiness makes it that much more precious to us.

If you're unhappy in your marriage, and it's not working, get out. The sooner the better.

Maybe I wasn't the other typical woman, but then, ours hasn't been the typical history.

/end disclosure.