Today Good Morning America interviewed Cynthia Shackelford, who won $9 million in a lawsuit against her husband's mistress last week. When asked what she'd like to tell cheating spouses, Shackelford puts all the blame on other women:
My main message is to all those women out there who might have their eyes on some guy that is married to not come between anybody... Lay off... It's not good to go in there. It hurts the children. My children are devastated. I'm devastated.
Hear that ladies? Stop targeting happily married men, drugging them, and forcing them to have sex with you. Think of the children!
But wait — is it possible mistress Anne Lundquist isn't the only one to blame for Shackelford's divorce? A jury in North Carolina, one of only seven states to allow "alienation of affection" lawsuits, certainly thinks she's at fault, but Allan Shackelford posted a statement (in the third person, no less!) on the Greensboro News & Record website. Note the twist at the end!
Allan Shackelford and Cynthia Shackelford had significant problems in their marriage for years, including three rounds of marital counseling that failed. Allan Shackelford had been involved in numerous affairs going back to the first two years of their marriage. Cynthia Shackelford told Allan Shackelford that she wanted to divorce him at least two years before he began a relationship with Anne Lundquist. Their marriage did not break-up because of Anne Lundquist. It ended because of the problems that Allan Shackelford and Cynthia Shackelford created for themselves. But, Cynthia Shackelford was never prepared to look in the mirror and take responsibility for her own mistakes. I know, because I am Allan Shackelford.
When asked about her husband's statement, Shackelford said she, "Had absolutely no knowledge of any of these other affairs. We had a great marriage. He was very affectionate. We have two wonderful children. I mean, this is all a shock to me."
What happened to Shackelford is horrible, and she probably is in shock and isn't thinking clearly. But just because she thinks the marriage was "great" doesn't make it so — it just means her husband was a really good liar. Sleeping with a man you know is married is a shitty thing to do, but someone needs to explain to Shackelford that her husband, not his mistress, is the one who broke a vow to be faithful.