"Incel" Misogynist Wants Government To Pay Women To Date Him

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It's the oldest story in the book: Person Who Hates Women Can't Figure Out Why He Can't Get a Date With a Woman. But this one has a twist!


A blog called Government Gets Girlfriends written by and for "Incel" (involuntarily celibate) men who suffer from social anxiety — suggests a rather Orwellian solution to the problem of these dudes not getting laid: use hard-earned American tax dollars to pay women to go out with them. So... insurance-covered hookers.

Government should offer women money to go on blind dates. These women would freely apply for such a program, as would incel men. Every woman would have a limit of 30 dates. If she doesn’t find a suitable partner during those 30 days she will be fired to prevent scammers – however, she would be paid the full sum, as would a woman who finds a partner during one of these 30 dates.

Using this program, many involuntary celibate men would get their first date or improve their chances of finding a partner.

The man who runs the blog — "a fucked-up kid from somewhere in Europe" — has clinical depression and identifies as a former incel. However, this isn't really the root of his problem. I'll give you one hint: he denies being a MRA, but one of his posts is titled "Hello, Angry SJW Feminists" and another one is "A word on Tumblr feminist invasion." Hello, chip on your shoulder.

Of course you need to pay women to date you; nobody would sit through your misogynistic rants over tapas for free. The only alternative is to assemble a woman-shaped thing out of Goretex and a Fisher-Price boombox that you can rant about the feminists at.

Third-wave feminism, starting in the 1980s is postmodernist denial of human nature and establishment of the totalitarian feminist police state.

While it is true that I called some women on Tumblr bitches, cunts and other names that has nothing to do with misogyny. [...]

Ohhh! Thanks for clarifying that, I was totally worried for a second.

Only advice one can get from a feminist is the advice all leftist morons give you- get therapy.


I gotta agree: Dude, get some therapy. One male commenter agrees:

Is…. Is this a joke?? I’m fat, pimply, out of shape, a WOW nerd and not to mention shy and even I can EASILY find women willing to have sex with me. (Yes, FOR FREE.) Some guys seem to believe that they’re entitled to any woman they want, at any time. Doesn’t work that way ... Try not being a self-centered jerk.


'Government Should Pay Women To Date Men With Social Anxiety, Says Man' [HuffPo]

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A long time ago, I was active on the original involuntary celibacy listserv. It was founded and at the time still administered by the lesbian third-wave-feminist women's studies major who coined the terms "involuntary celibacy" and "incel" in the first place. When I was there, it was an inclusive place. There were male, female, cis-, trans-, gay, straight, and bisexual members, and with very few exceptions, we treated each other with respect and nobody pretended the root causes of our romantic problems were gender-specific in any way.

The root cause, by the way, that we identified was this. People use a whole semi-verbal language to communicate romantic and sexual interest or lack thereof to each other. Speech patterns, style of dress, body language, that sort of thing. It's almost completely subconscious, but it's still learned behavior. Those of us who were not able to pick up that language in early adolescence for whatever reason—being a social outcast, autism-spectrum disorders, hiding and/or coming to terms with homosexuality or trans-sexuality, parents who weren't physically affectionate, social phobia, etc.—will have practically, if not absolutely, no romantic success until they learn it later in life. Trying to hit on someone without using that language invariably comes off as creepy, and if someone tries to hit on you, you won't notice if you don't understand the language.

That was the only real common thread in everyone's life story. Involuntary celibacy is not limited to one gender, or to the physically unattractive, or to nerds, or even to narcissistic assholes. It's a result of missing out on learning the language of attraction. And back in the day, on the listserv, we understood that. Hell, we were the ones who collectively figured it out in the first place. Back then, it was really helpful. It was a safe space for venting frustration to people who understand, and a place where we helped each other take practical steps to improve our lives.

I left for a while, and when I poked my head back in several years later, it had been completely taken over by MRA entitlement complexes. It was, and it clearly still is, just an echo chamber of anger and blame without comprehension. It's a shame, because it's hard to think of any psychological or social disorder better suited to the support group model than incel, and that can't exist any more because the name has been hijacked.