Seems years of tacky gowns and pricey bachelorettes have finally borne fruit, and now there’s a bunch of of women who frankly aren’t very interested in being a bridesmaid, thank you very much. But there’s still hope! You can totally say no.
In the last 24 hours, I’ve seen not one but two pieces bemoaning the unpleasantries of being a bridesmaid and discussing how to escape this “obligation.” The first is at A Practical Wedding and is fairly reasonable—simply a woman worrying that it would cost her heaps of time and money. The second, at Elle, is more of a screed against the entire institution. A sampling:
But here goes: I can’t be your bridesmaid because I think bridesmaids shouldn’t exist. l think it’s cruel to expect your fellow besties to invest considerable funds and time into proving we’re your friend…at the very moment you’re entering a union that, by definition, means we’re stepping aside for your new “best friend and partner.”
Uh, not if you’ve picked your friends wisely. But wait, there’s more!
So yes—and yikes, sorry—I really do think we should ban bridesmaids. The concept is antiquated and further punishes women who haven’t taken up the (white, crystal-studded) veil.
Or maybe it’s an opportunity for the bride to include the women who mean the most to her in an important personal choice. Just spitballing here.
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