Christian Men Beg Women Not To Dress Like Sluts

"Sometimes when I see a girl provocatively dressed, I'll say to myself, she probably doesn't even know that a 101 guys are going to devour her in their minds today," says pastor C.J. Mahaney in this sermon video on how women need to dress modestly for men's sakes, quoting a series of college guys. "Then again, maybe she does. To be honest, I don't know the truth... I don't know because I've never sat down with a girl and asked her why. All I need to know is that the way she presents herself to the world is bait to my sinful mind."

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The concept of, you know, female agency is nowhere to be found in this sermon by the author of a sex guide for Christian husbands. Except for his lady friend who mercifully decided not to buy a provocative blouse — for the sake of the poor, helpless men who find it so hard to control themselves. The idea that women might ever experience lust themselves, or that physical attraction often occurs irrespective of clothing choice, never quite gets broached.

Here's Mahaney's advice: "To the girls who are ignorant, please serve your brothers. Have your Dad screen your wardrobe. Ask him how you can better choose holiness over worldliness. He's a guy, he knows more than you do on the issue." They always do.

"Have Your Dad Screen Your Wardrobe." [Christian Nightmares]

DISCUSSION

slutberry
chasteberry

Hmmm. While I understand the initial "BITCH DON'T TELL ME HOW TO DRESS" reaction, I think the comments here are a bit over-reactive.

Yes, there are Christian guys who make excuses for their own behavior based on how girls are dressed, but for most of the Christian guys I've talked to, it's more of a "I really want to respect you and not objectify you, and it's really really hard when I can't keep my eyes off your boobs, and I know I need to learn to keep my eyes off your boobs no matter what, but it would be cool if they weren't all shoved up in my face!"

Unfortunately, a lot of Christian-speak doesn't really explain the principles for non-Christians. I think an Orthodox Jewish girl I once read a piece by said it best— she said, basically, that she likes dressing modestly because that puts the focus on herself, not on her body. And I think I'm going to take a lot of flack for it, but I feel the same way. I get a lot of unwanted attention for my body (I have va-vooom curves that show in EVERYTHING I wear), and dressing modestly makes me feel slightly less like people are talking to my boobs.

Just that... yeah, this kind of talk is often used as an excuse, but there are a lot of Christian guys who wish girls would dress modestly because they want to make sure they're always respecting them. And they can wish that without being douches. And they can still be awesome feminist-boys who say, in the words of my manfriend, "A girl should be able to walk home at night drunk and naked, and no guy should approach her, except to offer her a coat if it's cold."