Breaking: Millennials Still Living with Parents, Still Cool with It

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Ah, another day, another trend piece about how basically everybody between the ages of 18 and 34 is an indolent jerk unwilling or unable to fully fledge and leave the parental nest, where things like premium cable and assorted breakfast cereals can be had for the price of awkward mealtime conversations about life choices and self loathing. Millennials, in case you haven’t heard, are choosing to live at home in record numbers, and they’re not even horribly embarrassed about it anymore. For shame!


Living at home, according to a fore-sure reliable survey from Coldwell Banker, is (if you’re lucky enough to have such an option) becoming such a culturally acceptable way to seek financial refuge for 20-somethings that an increasing number of millennials see a five-year, post-graduate stint in their parents’ house as no big deal. Survey respondents between the ages of 18 and 34 thought a five-year stay in their parents’ home was an acceptable maximum, contrasted with the three-year max favored by respondents 55 and older.

It’s not like millennials are the only resource-siphoning losers in the generational sandbox — Generation Z, whose oldest members are currently freshmen in college, think living at home until the ripe old age of 28 is totally fine. Men, as has been seen again and again, are more likely and more comfortable living at home deep into their 20s. Also, the economy still sucks, and living at home — rather than plunking down a hefty portion of your paycheck just to be able to crow proudly, “I am an independent adult who can poop with the bathroom door open!” — might be the most financially responsible decision young workers can make. At least, that’s the way the world used to work, back before the industrial, war machine-building sector couldn’t put enough Americans to work.

When Should Millennials Finally Move Out? [Forbes]

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THANK YOU actually for posting this, because I'm looking for advice.

I'm the middle sibling, and my sister moved out when she was 18, me when I was 20. Our younger brother didn't. He's now 28, lives at home with my parents. Which I might not have a problem with if he contributed or did anything. He pays no rent. He does not buy groceries. He does not help clean the house. My mother pays his cell phone bill. And my mother gave him a weekly allowance until the age of 25.

Finally, last year, he managed to nab a full time job after being unemployed for the whole 27 years of his life. I expected that after this happened that he would either move out or, at the very least, begin paying rent. My parents began bringing up the possibility to him . . . and he'd freak out. Absolutely freak out and tell them that if they wanted him to start paying rent that they would have to renovate the entire house to what he considers to be a "habitable standard."

I know. I know. So I told my parents that they should just tell him that if their house is so uninhabitable then he needs to leave. They tried, and he would again just throw a really huge fit — we're talking screaming, crying, telling them they don't love him — it's a mess.

Unfortunately, I really think this has broken both of my parents. They've completely lost the upper hand with him. They're not even trying to move him along anymore, and whenever I try to broach the subject with my mom, she completely changes the subject. I know my dad really wants to move, and I'm afraid my mom keeps putting it off because she doesn't know what to do with my brother. As a bystander, and as someone not close enough to my brother to have a serious chat with him (he burned that bridge a long time ago), I feel really helpless. Especially since I know his continued presence (and continued drain on their limited finances now that they're retired) is making them miserable.

So. Any advice, Jezzies? Thanks for listening! This has been a really sore subject for me.