

Some advice: If you are in a relationship where you feel you must change yourself to “be” the kind of person your partner would love, or that you are repeatedly put in situations you are not comfortable in by your partner—that is a bad relationship. You deserve better! Especially if your partner, for instance, is Ashton Kutcher, and he tells you that the threesomes he pushed on you were the reason he cheated! In her new memoir Inside Out, Demi Moore opens up about the “contortions” she put herself through to “fit the mold of a woman he wanted his wife to be.” Per People:
“I put him first. So when he expressed his fantasy of bringing a third person into our bed, I didn’t say no. I wanted to show him how great and fun I could be. […] They were good people, but it was still a mistake. I was strangely flooded with shame, I couldn’t shake the feeling that this whole thing was somehow my fault.
His justification reminds me of Thomas Middleditch, who recently outed himself as someone who coerced his wife into an open marriage. Anyway, Moore later explains that Kutcher used those threesomes—which were not her idea—to “justify” that he was cheating on her with 20-somethings. In reflecting on this cycle of unwanted threesomes and cheating, Moore writes that she “blinded myself and I lost myself.” She later relapsed, and spiraled into an addiction to Vicodin and alcohol. As people reports: