Approximately one month after they started dating, reports are circulating that Ariana Grande and Pete Davidson have begun the arduous (yet not, I suppose, with unlimited funds) task of purchasing furniture, probably for a shared domicile. Yet this is not strange, since a week ago the two became engaged. Feels very on-schedule.
E! News reported that the two journeyed to a Restoration Hardware location in New York City to peruse expensive designs. According to Us Weekly, this was the couple’s first public jaunt since becoming engaged. Page Six reported that Davidson multi-tasked picking out rugs and showing off his abs. This was on Monday.
They also got tattoos.
Grande alluded to cohabitation with Davidson in an Instagram Story on Saturday, which featured a SpongeBob meme captioned “Us in our new apartment with no furniture 1 speaker and red vines.”
I’m rooting for these two, really I am!!
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Debi Mazar has criticized 13 Reasons Why for “romanticizing suicide.” Honestly have not seen this show.
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DISCUSSION
Alright. I’ve got some things to say about this (which probably no one cares enough to hear, but whatever, it’s the comment section).
Whirlwind romances can definitely crash and burn—and tbh matching tattoos never seem like a stellar idea—but my parents got engaged after a month of dating (together 30 years) and my grandparents got engaged after 2 weeks of dating and they’re all doing really well (ok the latter couple is dead, but they did well for all the decades before that!)
I got engaged after 2 weeks of dating and we’ve been together for 3 years (married for one).
Not saying it always works out, but since people are always down on quick engagements, I want to make a case for them. I don’t believe in soulmates, but I do believe that people are difficult and change. Sometimes, when you feel a connection that’s so strong at the beginning—and you can tell it’s just more than a lust thing—it can be good to get together early. You workout the kinks together when you’re in a more serious relationship. You can’t cut and run at a small thing. You can’t throw in the towel if your partner is just pissing you off lately.
Oftentimes that makes for a stronger marriage down the road, when you’re going to have to deal with more serious trauma and more serious circumstances. I’ve seen that with my parents and grandparents. That love at the beginning seemed to carry them through—knowing they were so sure that they made an incredibly serious commitment, made them push to communicate and to work together to improve their relationships.
Sure, that’s not the case for everyone. And if you feel that you’re stuck in a relationship that’s really bad for you, you need to be able to get out. But you have to go into an engagement like that knowing that if it is really, really bad, you can and should leave.
I guess what I’m saying is that if you’re mature enough to know what you won’t accept in a relationship, a quick engagement might actually not be a bad thing.