There is a single 51-year-old entrepreneur in New York City preparing to be a mother for the second time — she had her first daughter at 49. Flush from her successful jewelry publicity business, Tracey Kahn is embracing motherhood thanks to IVF and doesn't care what you think.
In the New York Post, Kahn tells the story of how she worked and dated through her 20s and 30s without finding the man she wanted to have children with or marry. She was even engaged at 33 but called it off three weeks before the ceremony, returning the “elegant, $15,000, 2-carat, emerald-cut diamond ring.”
After that relationship, she continued working and dating and at 45, she accidentally got pregnant from a tryst with a man she’d only been seeing for a month. She lost that child — and she and the man stopped seeing each other — but she was so excited by the prospect of having a baby that she began researching IVF treatments on her own. Now she has two-year-old Scarlett and is pregnant with her little sister.
My daughter might only be 2, but she loves the idea of a sibling. And my pregnancy is no big deal to the staff at Reproductive Medicine Associates of New York, which regularly treats women over 50. If anyone else thinks it’s strange and unnatural, they’re entitled to their opinion — but I honestly don’t give a s – – t.
In total, Kahn says her fertility treatments cost about $75,000, but she would do it again without question. She began using intrauterine insemination (IUI) with donor sperm but eventually moved on to IVF with donor eggs and sperm because her “mature eggs were clearly not making the grade.”
As for how she parents, Kahn’s bank account is a large financial cushion that makes her routine easier. For example, with her first daughter Scarlett, she hired a $350-a-day nurse for the first three months, and now she’s got a full-time nanny. But Kahn says thanks to her $500,000 business, she’s good.
Now she's gleefully expecting Scarlett's little sister and looking forward to surprising people when they ask if she is her kids' granny.
It could happen in a few years, though I'll probably have some work — probably a face-lift — by then. "No, I'm their mother," I'll reply proudly. "And aren't they lucky?"