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funzette
11/03/09

In reply to What The Hell Is A "Lipstick Entrepreneur?"

"Whatever, Avon. Now, who here's interested in investing in my closet organization/life coaching company?"
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Rooo sez BISH PLZ
11/03/09

@funzette: I've PM'ed you. #lipstickentrepreneur
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whats_in_a_name
11/03/09

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E) a person who starts their own successful business melting down empty lipstick tubes to make items to be thrown at people who honestly use the term lipstick entrepreneur. #lipstickentrepreneur
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Kivrin
11/03/09

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I went to one of those cheesy Pure Romance sex toy parties awhile back, and the saleswoman told me that she was about to quit her "real" job and do Pure Romance full time. I'm guessing that qualifies as Lipstick Entrepreneurship, too—although Lubricant Entrepreneurship would be a more appropriate moniker…
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femmina
11/03/09

@Kivrin: Honestly, it's a market that isn't experiencing the kind of crunch some others are, or at least that seems to be the case. The sex shop I work in is pretty consistently making significantly more money than in previous years, and many people say that in lieu of spending money on vacations or whatnot, they send the kids to their grandparents'/friends'/etc house for the weekend. That said, I would so never buy anything from one of those parties. Marked up like woah, and the people selling it (by and large) don't know fuck all about what they're doing. #lipstickentrepreneur
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Kivrin
11/03/09

@femmina: Yeah, I bought some lube and a cute little hummingbird-shaped vibe (my first). Now that I'm no longer a sex toy virgin, I'll go to a shop (and support local businesses!) for future purchases. ;) #lipstickentrepreneur
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Kivrin
11/03/09

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I'm trying to imagine what complexion would look good with that orange lipstick in the middle of the photo. It would look ghastly on my pale self, but I can't imagine it looking good on my darker skinned friends, either. #lipstickentrepreneur
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Nancy Sin
11/03/09

@Kivrin: Actually, orangey-corals look pretty good on some pasty blond types. Okay, maybe not THAT one. #lipstickentrepreneur
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Nancy Sin
11/03/09

@Nancy Sin: (the phrase pasty blond type was a self-deprecating term if it didn't come across!) #lipstickentrepreneur
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la.donna.pietra
11/03/09

@Nancy Sin: January Jones, for instance. #lipstickentrepreneur
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Hana Maru
11/04/09

@Kivrin: I have chocolate brown skin and I have a bright tangerine lipstick that looks fantastic on me. It's a little bit sheer.

I saw Rose McGowan once with bright vermilion lipstick and it was stunning. It was actually what spurred me to check out some orange/corals, even though I thought it might be just for pale people like her. #lipstickentrepreneur
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sweet_communist
11/03/09

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Do lipstick entrepreneurs reside in lipstick jungles with their lipstick lesbian life partners? #lipstickentrepreneur
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prettycool
11/03/09

@sweet_communist: yes, and they own lipsticked pit bulls too. #lipstickentrepreneur
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boxspelunker
11/03/09

@prettycool: And pigs. Don't forget their lipsticked pigs, too. #lipstickentrepreneur
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NmgK
10/29/09

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For a long period of time I was working a full time job and sometimes an additional part time job and my husband was either a student or unemployed, so he did the majority of the housework when i wasn't home (when we were both working we basically shared it) and I admit, sometimes it was hard for me to let it go because it wasn't done just as I would do it. Particularly the dishes--they were always still dirty after they'd been washed. But when I really thought about why he sucked at dishes I realized that he had had a dishwasher his whole life before we got married and I never had! It was refreshing to know that it wasn't a man versus woman thing (I didn't want to believe that I was better at dishes by virtue of being a woman) but rather that he had just never had to do that task before and I had years of practice. Luckily I'm moving into a new apt with a dishwasher so our marriage will be saved! #housework
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AnotherJenn
10/28/09

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I don't think it's best to just give in to your SO's standard of cleanliness and come in behind him (or even her), fixing everything up to your standards. If you're going to live together you need to decide together what counts as a job properly done. After a few years of marriage where I felt increasingly frustrated and he fell into the "if you don't think it's good enough, you can do it" mindset, my husband and I sat down and hashed it all out. We seriously went room by room and decided what we together would consider a job well done. How often should the baseboards and fans be wiped down, what should be done in each room each week, all that stuff.

We both compromised, but he really had to compromise the most because he standards were awful. It took a while to establish the new guidelines. Like, he thought it was silly to add "wipe down the doors and light switches every other week" to the list of what should be done in each room. So I told him he was completely in charge of the bathrooms for three months. At the end of that time the baseboards, light switches, and area around the door handles were filthy. So he saw why that part of the job was important. He never knew it could get that way!

We don't have a set thing of who does what chore because our schedules are unpredictable and we need flexibility. But if one person says, "I'll clean the bathroom," we both know exactly what that means. #housework
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Snowbunny
10/29/09

@AnotherJenn: Light switches and door handles get super germtastic, especially in bathrooms and kitchens. The summer I cleaned hotels taught me infinite wisdom about what needs bleach spray. #housework
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krismry
10/28/09

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since housework is worth at least ten dollars an hour, no one who does housework on behalf of a domestic partner actually needs another job outside the house. if partner doesn't like this, he can hire someone to do the work at home at the going wage rate. until women refuse and say 'no deal' and go on strike nothing will ever, ever change. that's all. #housework
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queenieinmanhattan
10/28/09

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Does the desire to do these things perfectly arise the longer you do them? I certainly didn't give a crap about certain aspects of domesticity when I moved into my first apartment, but I'd be considered a model hostess these days. Granted, I'm single, and have never lived with anyone, so I've always done those things myself - but my care and joy in them came gradually, not as some innate part of my femininity. I've found this to be the case in guys as well - the longer they live alone, the more care they take. #housework
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Jill7
10/28/09

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Has anyone else experienced the graduate school/laundry symbiosis? When I was in graduate school, doing the laundry just seemed to fit with studying: study for an hour, fold a load of laundry, move another load around, repeat. When my husband started law school, he took over doing the laundry, for the same reason. #housework
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rah29
10/28/09

@Jill7: 110%. I mentioned in an earlier post that I think sometimes my boyfriend expects me to do more cleaning--not even necessarily consciously--because I'm home all day and he isn't. I certainly do the laundry a lot more often than he does. But this fails to account for the facts that a) doing a PhD isn't exactly a freaking party and b) I hate cleaning, and if I'm going to take a break from work it's going to be for a sneaky glimpse at The Hills or an impromptu dance around the house, not to scrub the damn toilet. For cleaning, I need the moral support of having the lad in the house too (and having given him a task!--yes, I do mastermind the cleaning, though he cooks, and makes a right mess of it too I might add). #housework
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foolish-rain
10/28/09

@Jill7: I am many years beyond graduate school and you can still tell when I am working on a big project by how clean the house is. Little tidying chores are the perfect break from work because they are tiny and finite. #housework
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baboonbutt
10/28/09

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Although many seem to be quick to post about how skilled and exacting the males in their lives are with the laundry, how many of these fellows are responsible for the household laundry? When it is the girlfriend's/wife's/boyfriend's/kid's clothes do they have the same standards? #housework
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boxspelunker
10/28/09

@baboonbutt: We took turns in my apartment (we don't live together anymore, so it's just me and now I do 100% of it). He did a load, I did a load. Usually. There were times when shit got out of hand or I got too picky about something or he decided that he was going to wash everything in the damn place. #housework
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odinsraven
10/28/09

@baboonbutt: I do my laundry, he does his. If he doesn't have a full load, then he tosses in some of my stuff as well and vice versa. We also always mention to the other - "Hey, I'm throwing in a load of laundry. Anything you need clean?" Easy. We don't have kids, but I'm sure we would just trade off depending on who was already throwing something in the wash.

This division is probably simplified by the fact that we have two separate closets and hampers, so our dirty laundry is naturally separate. #housework
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Miss Scarlett is sad at humanity lately
10/28/09

@odinsraven: This is exactly how we do it. We both have smallish loads of whites so we do that as a shared load and most everything else is separate. #housework
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funnyface
10/28/09

@baboonbutt: I'm usually the one to start a load, but if we're both home and the dryer goes off, we usually both go into the laundry room and fold together. Same goes for unloading the dishwasher. Very rarely does one of us unload it all by ourselves. #housework
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NotMandatory
10/28/09

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My problem isn't so much that my husband isn't domestic - we're pretty evenly matched in that department. What bugs me is that my mom is always 'joking' about how mean I am to my husband because I 'make' him do dishes and laundry. I think she's jealous because my dad has always been horribly lax about home stuff (I can't believe he hasn't died of ptomaine since he and my mom split up) and she resented doing the homey stuff.

Even though I know it's so much bullshit, I still feel really guilty when she makes comments like that. #housework
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Black Irish
10/28/09

@NotMandatory: I was having drinks with some family friends and a similar comment pissed me off. I mentioned that my husband and I each do our own laundry. We mostly do this because we each know what needs washing, what can't be dried, etc. One of the guys said "Wow, nice teamwork," in a totally sarcastic, I must be a terrible wife type of way.
I was and still am pissed about this, both because of the guilt he tried to lay on me and because of the expectation that a good wife must do laundry and other supposed "wifely duties." #housework
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Fishbear
10/28/09

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My boyfriend is always like, astounded by how comfortable and pleasant it is in our apartment after we do some cleaning. Yet he just completely fails to connect that to behavioral changes like "we should clean regularly" or "we should make an effort to pick up after ourselves."

I hate always having to ask him to do his part because it makes me feel like a nag, and I hate always having to shoulder more of the burden, so basically it's an arms race to the squalid bottom which makes me annoyed and which he doesn't notice. #housework
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rah29
10/28/09

@Fishbear: I am in the same boat. My boyfriend cooks, but he cooks like a bit of a showman, and he'll mess up every damn thing in the kitchen. Meanwhile, he loves when the house is clean, but HATES cleaning. I mean, what, do I love it? I loathe cleaning, but I do it, because otherwise it's gross. He doesn't notice if there are still crumbs on the kitchen counter, or if the toilet hasn't been scrubbed in a while, or if things are badly folded, whereas I do (and I'm NOT a neat freak). So of course, who winds up cleaning? I've been away for a few weeks and am pretty convinced I'll return to find things filthy.

The subtext to this, of course, is that I'm at home most of the time working on my PhD, while he goes to an office. So he comes home and doesn't want to clean, and I think on some level he resents that I'm home all day and he isn't, even though it's not as if I'm like, partying it up. I despise feeling like a nag, but I wind up nagging anyway. It sucks. #housework
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BytheSea
10/29/09

@rah29: Get out of the house. Go to the library, go to starbucks, go to school. Do not sit at home all day if you hate it and you hate that it's making your husband resent you. If you work outside thehouse, even just part of the day, you're giving yourself an outside the house job. #housework
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Kayleigh R. Carter
10/28/09

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My boyfriend hates wrinkles, he irons his clothes. Also he likes to look "fresh and clean," smells good, have the shoes match the shirt, the works.

But his room is an explosion of dirty clothes, I am constantly tripping over his huge shoes (big ass man feet).

What I'm saying here is that a man is capable of doing something right if he wants to. It's not about gender, it's about personality.

Lets be honest, the only reason my room is clean is because if it wasn't I'd have a stress attack falling all over my shit. #housework
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HighSchoolFearleader
10/28/09

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Actually, my dad is better at doing laundry than all of the women in my family combined. He's also amazing at bed making, vacuuming, and cooking, in addition to his ability to make our yard and pool look like they're taken care of by professionals. Maybe housework isn't a man vs. woman issue, it could just be a person to person thing, the same way any other set of skills is looked at. #housework
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sybann
10/28/09

@HighSchoolFearleader: My Dad WASN'T always able but he got good at it when my Mom got lackadasical and started just shoving things in the washer without separating... OMG! We'd been had! She knew exactly what she was doing when she shrunk my sweaters!

bitch. #housework
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