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Zombie Ms. Skittles
12/02/09

In reply to United/Nations: Ghida Anani On Addressing Violence Against Women
I hate that being forward or standing up for myself is seen as being pushy or bitchy. So if I ever attempt to advocate for myself, I risk doing myself harm.
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BuffySummers
12/02/09

@Zombie Ms. Skittles: Nail on head.Also, I'll add: I hate knowing (some of the) men in my workplace will always I'm dumber than they are, no matter what.
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Cassidy_Bayou
12/02/09

@Zombie Ms. Skittles: This is number one for me. Take the abuse, or be socially ostracized for being "an opinionated bitch."
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curiousgeorgiana
12/02/09

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What do I hate most?

Knowing that I will often be held to a different professional and social standard than my male counterparts.
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PilgrimSoul
12/02/09

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"that I should be the one defending the country or bringing food to the table"

Hmm. So I don't disagree that gender roles are binding per se, but, umm, sometimes I hear things like the above from men and sort of think they are only interested in gender inequality insofar as it means that they won't have to "shoulder the burden" or whatever.
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Benevolent_Dictatrix (patently absurd)
12/02/09

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What gender role imposed by society do I hate the most? The idea that the most important indicator of my worth is whether or not men want to have sex with me.
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BuffySummers
12/02/09

@Benevolent_Dictatrix (patently absurd): This thread is making me stabby! You all are so damn good at saying the exact right thing.
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BuffySummers
12/02/09

@BuffySummers: clarification: stabby about all the annoying gender roles, not stabby out of jealousy of your awesomeness. Though, I have that too, duh.
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andromedeia
12/02/09

@Benevolent_Dictatrix (patently absurd): I hate that I have internalized that to the point of hating myself. :(
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tweak23
12/02/09

@Benevolent_Dictatrix (patently absurd):
THIS. It is both hilarious and heartbreaking that emotionally and physically HIDEOUS lunks think that by calling me sexually unnattractive to them, I will be sore offended.
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filet-of-swedishfish
12/02/09

@Benevolent_Dictatrix (patently absurd): agreed. i had a boss who made a point of criticizing my appearance every day (i have curly hair that frizzes sometimes, and very fair skin) until one day i was like "yeah mike. cause i care so much if im attractive to *you*." /dripping sarcasm @ mike.
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Mr.Gawn
11/25/09

In reply to Ending Violence Against Women: A Day At The U.N.
i think culture and religion would have to change before violence against women can be stopped...

as long as women are second class citizens, getting them equal treatment (they already have equal rights per say) is going to be hard to obtain... a lot of their values are engraved on their brains
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whynotshesaid
11/25/09

@Mr.Gawn: It's true that culture and religion need to change but I think that passing laws and ENFORCING them is a great first step. After all, think about how far we've come in the United States. It wasn't long ago that a man was legally allowed to beat and rape his wife. I don't have exact statistics but I would feel confident in saying that rates of marital rape and violence decreased after laws criminalizing those things were passed.

Culture almost always lags behind the laws, but it doesn't mean the laws are useless.
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Mr.Gawn
11/25/09

@whynotshesaid: too true, im with you 400%,

but this is a LONG battle, and i think education and teachings would be more of a driving force than laws...

if laws are the only thing that can be changed, ill sign my line on the dotted line and donate money, but laws only go so far....
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Agumen
11/25/09

In reply to Ending Violence Against Women: A Day At The U.N.
I think all the people who get involved and work to prevent violence against women are modern saints. And I think educating men is a good step as well, but I always want to point out that education isn't the be all and end all. Men know not to murder and steal, our whole society preaches against it, punishes it, yet it happens all the time. All the time. There will always be hateful people out there, stupid people, people who just lose control, and people who are, for want of a better word, evil.

It's also what bothers me about talking about 'ending' violence against women. We will never end it, it's impossible. We'll never end corruption, murder or rape either. The key is to do everything we can to prevent it, and take care of victims as well as we can. But a goal of ending violence against anyone seems pie-in-the-sky to me. That said, I'm just happy that there are people out there that work hard to prove me wrong.
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whynotshesaid
11/25/09

@Agumen: It might make you feel better to know that historians have found that, in European and American cultures at least, murder rates have dropped significantly over the past few centuries.

Violence may never go completely away, but it can certainly become less common.
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SwirlGirl
11/25/09

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It's nice to see this issue getting a focus. Is there any talk of how this will filter into the UN's other operations, such that preventing violence against women becomes part of the mission on the ground? While it's excellent to hear those in charge paying attention, it would be even better to see this become more than talk (for example, making sure that Peacekeeping missions include additional training on how to respond to situations where violence against women becomes a specific tool of conflict, etc) They may very well do this already, but was just curious about other ways to implement that leverage the UN's considerable program presence in many countries.
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Irin
11/25/09

@SwirlGirl: Really good question -- I will follow up!
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itsonreserve
11/25/09

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Not much money donated=me having sad face. Why can't countries see how this affects them?
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lermanzo
11/25/09

@itsonreserve: generally, issues of poverty receive very little funding across the board, regardless of their universality.

in 197o, roughly 22 nations in the UN promised 0.7% of their GDP to eliminate poverty and provide global aid. it was codified in a UN resolution.

we still have not reached that goal. the EU pledged to reach that target by 2015, giving 0.56% in 2010.

FWIW, the US gives proportionally less than any other industrialized nation, despite the fact that they give more dollars than any other nation. our high is 0.3%
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TheUptightMidwesterner
09/25/09

In reply to You Rang?
"Today I settled all Family business, so don't tell me you're innocent, [Hillary}."
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TeacherDee
09/25/09

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"i'm passing the note back. you were supposed to check 'yes' or 'no'."
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MizJenkins
09/25/09

In reply to You Rang?
*Ahmadinejad has morning wood, pass it on.*
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dirtybee
09/25/09

@MizJenkins: Damn that made me laugh so hard :-)
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futuremouse
09/25/09

In reply to You Rang?
The combined powers of Rahm and Hilary's staredowns could be lethal. Whoever they're talking about should be afraid. Very afraid.
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lavenderstain
09/24/09

In reply to True Colors
I wish I could have gone. My friends and family in Iran have repeatedly told me that the international support they recieve helps them go on, and all they want from us outside Iran is to show the world their struggle.
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Aesop's Foibles. YES.
09/24/09

In reply to True Colors
"A" for effort and all, but what's the point of even asking? He's a goddamn liar. I think everyone knows that by now.
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annewithaneee
09/23/09

In reply to Rock Of Ages
Reminds me of the "The Lottery."
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