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05:38 PM
Literally within the last hour I told a friend of mine, only semi-jokingly, that I tolerate more creepster-level flirtation from guys I find hot than from guys I don't.
And I wonder if in some ways that makes me complicit in our societal acceptance of this kind of behavior toward women.
On the other hand, no one seems cute when he's intimidating me and using his power to assert his control over me and my body. So it's also possible that perception of a guy as attractive hinges on my feeling okay being around him, and not being threatened by it.
On the other other hand, sometimes the element of danger is itself attractive. So what are our responsibilities, as individuals and as a society, to solve these problems and to address these problematic (but complicated and possibly not always completely untrue) assumptions?
07:00 PM
I don't know exactly what you mean by "creepster-level flirtation from [hot] guys" Isn't it the part where they try to push past our discomfort what makes their behavior creepy?
At any rate, I think the responsibility rests on men to respect and not objectify or attack us since they have more physical and social power. I don't think you're at fault for perpetuating rapey behaviors.
05:37 PM
I watched all the videos, and the hip hop stuff really struck a chord with me. I've been a fan since I was a teenager, and will remain a fan, but this really reminds me how important it is to pay attention to the attitudes reflected in the music I listen to. When I was in high school, everyone was listening to Snoop. The girls I knew (myself included) liked it as much as the boys, but I remember feeling really uncomfortable hearing my boyfriend and male friends singing along to things like "Bitches ain't shit but hos and tricks." You can like the beats and the style, but you can't ignore the message. And that message is really insidious to young women.
This is not an indictment of all the positive hip hop out there, which gives you beats and style without a heavy dose of misogyny. But it does remind me to listen a little harder.
05:07 PM
If you'd like to read more, the program is going into high schools next year, with a $2 million CDC grant to back it. The grant will allow investigators to actually establish the efficacy of the program in creating attitude change and reducing acts of violence:
[uknow.uky.edu]
and
[www.newswise.com]
05:11 PM
/creeper
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04:44 PM
A quick google scholar search of John D. Foubert brought up 950 articles. This one seems to give a pretty good overview of what these programs aim to do and why they focus on some groups more than others. [publications.naspa.org]
These are programs people make money off of, but them seem pretty solid. Most college speakers make money anyway.
I can't find a link to his program, but I did find this one [www.jacksonkatz.com] for people who want to check out the training.
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In fact, the woman who did the assault talk spent fifteen minutes talking about which over the counter medications could be used like a roofie (she specifically talked about NyQuil). Then the next presenter was from the health center, and he handed out a baggie of sample medications... including NyQuil. ...and the whole back row of frat boys high fived.
04:48 PM
of course women should take measures to protect their own safety, but this type of approach seems like victim blaming before the woman is made to be a victim.
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03:31 PM
1. These are cases that would be covered in civil court, therefore the parties can agree by contract to arbitrate instead of using the judicial system.
2. There's no criminal aspect that can be prosecuted by the US courts because these actions are taking place in foreign countries so there's no US jurisdiction and no military court jurisdiction (since these are contractors).
That's how I understand it.
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03:53 PM
Arbitration can be appealed to a proper court as well, but only for gross procedural errors.
*IANAL - but I asked a litigator friend about this who has very recent experience in arbitration, after decades in court. Also - I am not "pro-arbitration" - just kicking a little info out there.
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Why do these things still suprise me?
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12:47 PM
The "GlennBeckRaped.... .com" resolution story is actually a great read, and includes the WIPO filings and the personal letter to Beck from the domain-holder:
[techdirt.com]
11:55 AM
I'm not sure if you all know this, but apparently feminists take everything to seriously, and have no understanding of the definition of the word. Well, that's what I gleaned from the conversation at least.
12:14 PM
It's so silly to get hung up on the meaning of words, isn't it? Sigh.
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Oh, wait ...
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#tips
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