I don't know from these 'men's groups', so I have no comment there. I do remember, quite clearly, doing some research on behalf of a male friend who was being physically assaulted and threatened by his mentally ill wife. Repeatedly, on websites discussing domestic violence (including public programs/shelters), the language used presumed that men were the abusers and women the victims ("If he does this to you", etc). That did NOT amuse me. It would have been so easy to make the language gender-neutral, and so much more inclusive for the male victims (yes, that's what I said) who found their way there seeking help.
I don't get why these people rail so hard against feminists. I identify as a feminist, and I certainly recognize violence against men. In fact, it seems like in any conversation I have where I mention custody biases, males being raped, or women abusing spouses, it is more likely people who are non-feminist identified who will scoff and act like those things almost NEVER happen. . . But they're serious problems, just like when they happen to women. It honestly seems like these MRA groups biggest issue is just that they don't want women to ever call the shots about anything. I mean, in terms of custody and child-raising-- imo an important aspect of feminism is that neither gender is really particularly more suited to different activities, or is more naturally "nurturing" to children. But it feels like they just want women as a whole to shut up about issues with men who don't contribute, but on the other hand make special efforts to make sure that men get everything in a custody agreement that they want. #mensrights
Slow clap. This was an awesome post. So much of mens' rights seems reactionary. Fathers' rights groups don't ask for paternity leave, they seek to diminish child support awards upon divorce. As far as domestic violence, it's so bizarre to see them pit it as men vs. women. Like you said Anna, women's groups aren't trying to fight claims of abuse by men, but rather help women who have been battered. Why couldn't men's groups do the same thing, and stick to helping battered men? It's definitely an issue, as is equitable custody agreements.
I worked in DV at the DA's office, and one fed-up judge, when talking to a male victim who wanted to drop charges said something along the lines of: "I rarely allow women to do this. Just because you're a man doesn't mean this isn't serious, I don't think you're getting the victims' resources you need." Women frequently refused to testify against men, and wanted to drop charges, and if we could, we still prosecuted. But men overwhelmingly were the abusers, and as Anna pointed out, were the ones who killed and stalked. #mensrights
Just because you know/ are related to/ married to some guy who has experienced an instance of unfair treatment, doesn't mean that there is a systemic pattern of top down discrimination against men in our society. #mensrights
@bluebears: And, while I too has known a guy who was treated unfairly, and therefore joined a group much like fathers 4 justice, there was no denying that many men, in that particular group, at least, were abusers. And one thing many abusers have in common is blaming others. Their partners, society, whatever. #mensrights
I'm going to say something that sounds kinda weird, but hear me out.
They have a point, in a certain sense.
Now, let me clarify, because I know that seems awful after what the article has just presented us with.
The basis of their arguments is not necessarily untrue - men are more often denied custody, men who are victims of abuse are more often unable to find/willing to seek help when they need it, do not have their sexual assaults taken seriously (especially if they were assaulted by a woman), more men are victims of homicide (I think, but I might be remembering that incorrectly - please correct me if that is so), etc.
But they go about addressing these problems in the craziest, counter-productive way possible, and that's where their point ends, and they really, really need to start talking to people other than MRAs.
My male friends who have been sexually assaulted have not been willing to seek help - they figure that they will just be mocked and thrown back into the situation. The shelter I volunteer for will not take male victims of abuse (safety and trauma issues, which I agree with), and unfortunately, we don't have enough funding (whoops, looks like the shelter-as-free-income thing is a lie!) for a men's shelter. So any man who requires shelter has to be put in a hotel/motel room, which makes him feel even more alone. That is terrible. Victims of violence should always be taken seriously and I wish that we had far more resources than we do, but alas, MRAs are the ones working against us to take away funding. Good job, assholes, you've not only hurt a lot of women, but you've undermined one of the few resources the men you're talking about could have utilized.
The fact that these men who have been abused exist should never be used to minimize the epidemic of violence against women, but the fact that the majority of violence is enacted upon women doesn't mean that we should ignore the minority of men that are affected by it. In these kinds of discussions, I have seen a few people throw it out, because they are the minority. We, as feminists (and I do not know if those who were arguing that point were feminist or not), should be willing to fight for equality of all minorities, even if they are privileged.
MRAs take a legitimate complaint and turn it into a fucking circus that not only works against them, but harms everyone involved. I am so angry with them and their movement. Yes, there are abused men and women who hit their partners. That doesn't mean that every single one is lying. Rape happens. To a lot of people. To men as well as women. But they are willing to undercut and destroy the resources that victims of violence have. They're willing to uphold a rape culture, because they don't see themselves as part of it. They are completely unsympathetic to the plight of anyone else, including the people they're talking about and claiming to fight for.
Gender equality and mutual respect are the answers to these problems. They need to bring to light that anyone can be sexually assaulted (with respect to the numbers, of course, to give greater understanding as to why most people view it as a "women's issue" and all that), that men deserve to be equal parents, fathers matter, men deserve to have full access to their emotions, and all of that stuff. WAIT A SECOND THAR, SKIPPY, THAT SOUNDS A LOT LIKE FEMINISM.
Well, that's because it is.
Stop fighting gender equality and the rights of others. Start fighting for gender equality and the rights of others. And I guarantee that you will see more progress to the solutions you're seeking. #mensrights
@boxspelunker: Beautifully put! I am sick to death of the feminism = man-hating framework.
The hysteria of the MRAs also reflects the fear that ensuring more rights or protections for one oppressed group can somehow take away from everyone else's rights (ahem, marriage equality haters).
You're absolutely right that protecting all people, and all domestic partners, is the ultimate goal here. #mensrights
@molo_lola: Exactly this. MRAs think they have to erode resources for female victims of domestic violence to assist male victims. They seem to be treating power and attention like a zero-sum game, which it isn't. How about more resources for all victims? #mensrights
It is important to remember that domestic abuse does come in all forms: husband-wife, parent-child, sibling-sibling, child-parent & wife-husband. I greatly believe that some men (in the form of husbands, sons, or brothers) are afflicted with various forms of domestic abuse (especially emotional, verbal or financial) from family members. This is a societal problem that is largely ignored, thanks to the strangulating standards of masculinity--- a man/boy who is in an abusive environment is already perceived as weak, or emasculated-- seeking help would only augment that perception.
Unfortunately, men's rights advocates have no interest in redefining the standards of masculinity which would allow society to help those in this position. Instead, they clamour for some perverse form of 'equality' while ignoring the roots at the bottoms of the problem.
@boxspelunker: A lot of it is a problem in marketing, so to speak. True, gender equality would greatly benefit the vast majority of both men and women, but when is this ever really pointed out to these types of guys? They're the ones who need to hear it.
It's unreasonable to expect people to support a movement if they don't understand why it benefits them. "It's the right thing to do" just doesn't cut it. I personally think that using terms like "gender equality" instead of "women's rights" would do wonders for making inroads to men whose masculinity is getting in their way. #mensrights
@Ms.RantyPants: Wouldn't it? But instead, they want to be a bunch of whiney turdbuckets. Good job, MRAs. You aren't very smart.
@molo_lola: Thank you! I am sick of that framework, too. They could do a lot of good if instead of just slamming women/feminists over and over, they actually addressed some of the reasons that men are afraid to get help for abuse.
@Melpomene: Right on! If they really cared so much about the plight of abused men, you'd think they'd start shelters, reach out, or challenge the idea that abused man = weak man. But they don't. Which implies to me they aren't really that concerned about it.
@CaptFamous: You're right - that's why it's so important to talk about the men's side of domestic violence, and people like Jackson Katz are so important. Men need to hear it from other men, and we need to hear how it can affect anyone, regardless of who they are. When we stop seeing "men's" issues and "women's" issues, we'll be a lot better off, I think. Men and women don't operate in separate spheres, so why would their problems have no overlap? #mensrights
@boxspelunker: The reality of these groups are not based on justice. They are fundamentally based on injustice (i.e. not wanting to pay child support because who is the court system, and those fucking mothers, to be taking their money). These are the anti-choicers of the family justice movement. They don't care about the welfare of kids they only care about the welfare of their pockets and their right to do what they want with it independent of helping their children. Shouldn't they be doing something about dead beat dads if they really give a shit? They don't fight for the rights of kids because they don't give a shit. End of fucking story. #mensrights
@goodcheapfun: I am kindof a softie at heart and I like to believe that people are trying to do something good. I want to believe that MRAs are doing this because they see something unfair, and then process it in the wrong way. All of your points are dead on, it's just difficult for me to accept that a group of people would be so callous and crappy to the rest of the planet, and use something like civil rights to do it. #mensrights
@boxspelunker: As a feminist, I actually reached out to some of these guys to try and find shelter for a battered man. And by the way, when you're talking about male abuse victims, you have to bite back the urge to yell because while women will talk about broken bones, blood, miscarriages, ruptures, and concussions, so-called battered men will often talk about...harsh language. Yeah. So. Anyway.
I worked the phones for two weeks, and I dealt with at least one famous 'Mens' Rights' Asshole who claimed he just wanted to help battered men. Despite having been convicted of DV himself repeatedly in the past. Anyway. He just was not interested. Couldn't give a shit. Not a whit. But, boy, get him talking about how evil feminists were and he just would not shut up! He was just utterly indifferent to this victim. I must have had a $400 phone bill that month, because I wound up calling foreign countries. So...was that feminism's fault, or the fault of this guy who was using DV as a shield to hide behind while he attacked the sort of women who helped his victims (past wives and his children) escape him? #mensrights
@Ginmar Rienne: Wow. What a royal turdbucket prize that guy was. I hope your last question was a dig at the guy, and not at me, because of course I blame him. He chose his actions, and did a terrible thing. #mensrights
@boxspelunker: Yeah, obviously, that was directed at him. And it wasn't the first time, either. I've tried to help battered men---those that genuinely need it, because so much of what these guys complain about is pure luxury to me---and they've been utterly indifferent. I looked up this guy because he was in Time Magazine, which evidently just swallows whatever crap any old dude feeds them.
He claimed he sheltered some guys, but I really doubt it. #mensrights
@Ginmar Rienne: Oh, whew! I did not want to bring your wrath upon me! :D
And I think it's great that you've done outreach with men, too. Like I said before, abuse can happen to anyone, and that person will always deserve the opportunity to get help without being ridiculed.
I have only had one call on the crisis line I volunteer for that was from a man, and all he wanted to know was if his protection order was in place yet. It was, I told him so, and that was that. Other than that, it's all been women or girls. And I've seen some pretty grisly stuff, which makes me very angry when guys like the one you described suggest that these women are conniving assholes. It's like, dude, I held her hand all through the rape kit collection process because she was scared. I'm pretty sure no one invites a stranger into the room while something so personal is happening if it's fake, you know? #mensrights
As a guy who was routinely beaten by his wife, I can say without reservations my claims of abuse to the cops and doctors were ALWAYS disregarded, based on the fact that I am large and muscular.
You can argue about 'cherry-picked studies' , but unless there is some empirical data out there then the discussion is moot because people will simply point to whatever 'cherry-picked studies' out there that support their claims.
FTW
@matthewteaguemiller001: I think that feminism in it's intended form works to combat this too. It seems pretty clear that our arbitrary gender roles (Male: Powerful, breadwinner, emotionally distant, sexually hyperactive Female: Submissive, stays at home, maternal, hyperemotive, non-sexual/perpetually innocent) hurt both men AND women. I'm sorry that your abuse was disregarded, but I would say that the attitudes of the doctors and police officers were coming from the fucked up views of gender and violence we as a society see. #mensrights
The reason mens rights advocacy groups are often so often off target is the same reason "Black Power" and "White Power" mean different things. Some groups exist in order to fight years of oppression and work to gain rights and equality while others seem more aimed to continue the privileges they have received because of inequalities. #mensrights
@kctomorrow: I don't completely agree. Discrimination against black people doesn't equally hurt white people. However, discrimination against men often is reinforcing the gender roles that equally hurt women and vice versa. I think these men's groups are off-base because while White Power groups aren't going to get their goals advanced by supporting Black Power groups, as Anna pointed out, men could benefit from supporting feminist groups.
But I think your point is right on for why feminism and Black Power groups are prima facie more acceptable- they are railing against centuries of discrimination. I just don't see the (claimed) goals of these men's groups as detrimental to women, the way that the goals of racists are detrimental to minorities. #mensrights
can we just address that god-awful poster?!? "Don't let labour stop you being a superdad"?!? Don't let your rush to be misogynistic assholes stop you from checking sentence structure. #mensrights
@bleedingmouths: I think it should be "stop you from being a dad". Without "from" in there, it sounds like a lolcat to me. Maybe it's just me, though. #mensrights
@boxspelunker: Nah, it is widely used, and correct, British syntax. "She's going to stop him going to the ball game," is correct, for example. But an American would put a "from" in there. I'm trying to think of other verbs besides "stop" that would be used that way, but I'm drawing a blank right now.
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Battered women's shelters are running a racket?
Oh yes, because the few months I lived there I saw tons of money floating around. I didn't see women that had to be shuttled to different shelters because their abusers found the location. I didn't see terrified women who couldn't even bring themselves to be around men (and that was the rule no men allowed in the building). I didn't see women who could barely speak English and were therefore unable to seek help until their kids grew old enough to know the language. #mensrights
@DutchessOfDork: Hwwaaaaaat? Joking for sure! I know that the shelter I bring victims of violence to is a fricking palace. I mean, it's covered in gold leaf and leather cured with the tears of men. We eat bon-bons and laugh, mocking the pain of those outside. Women just come and go as they please, no curfews, and of course, roll in piles of money and doubloons and sleep in giant pillow forts.
(I am hoping you catch the sarcasm, because I have seen the inside of many shelters - they do the best they can with what they have, which isn't much, and it's hard all around. And from your statement, it sounds like you were a client. If so, congrats on getting out, because that is so hard and difficult.) #mensrights
These guys are assholes, and the best way to marginalize them is to take away the legitimate beefs they're using -- mainly relating to unfair child custody arrangements. I definitely agree that feminist groups are a major help in this regard by breaking down rigid gender roles, but I don't see our custody system catching up any time soon unless feminists (of all genders) really put some weight behind a push for change. #mensrights
I wrote a paper for a law class on a very similar subject. I was inspired by the legal battle experienced by my partner's family. His father raised his 3 very young children alone after their mother left. She re-emerged years later and was offered custody of the children, courtesy of the Canadian legal system (but only if they wanted to go, which they didn't).
I was shocked to see that such a dedicated father could have his children offered away at the drop of a hat, to a woman who was so uninvolved in their upbringing (she left again and has not seen her children since, over a decade later).
With that in mind, I set out to explore discrimination against fathers in the legal system.
In the end, I concluded that there IS a bias in Canada against fathers in legal proceedings. But DAMN, those father's rights groups hurt their cause more than help.
And they really, really hurt it. No one is going to side with those sick fucks. And I am not one to use that kind of language lightly. I had to read through a lot of so called "Father's Rights" manifestos to write that paper, and they are hate filled, counter-intuitive garbage.
I agree with their cause (at least, what they CLAIM their cause is, seems to me like it's eradicating feminism), and I hope their people read this, so I can ask them to stop what they're doing right now.
Stop arguing against abuse victims.
Stop arguing against feminism.
Don't you see that by promoting equality Feminists support your cause?
By arguing against victims of crime, you appear hostile and violent. You destroy your credibility. You hurt your cause. STOP IT!!!
*Ahem*
Sorry for the rant. I had to spend a lot of time thinking about this issue and in the end it is a truly sad state of affairs. #mensrights
I've seen it work against women as well.
I quote "Stepdad only abused you and your daughters madam and not your/his son, so he has the right to see his son."
And then, there were hte women in the shelter that I stayed at who had their husbands granted partial custody. #mensrights
Complete sentences or no, it is utterly unsurprising that a movement in which "a lot of the leaders are still convicted batterers (page one of the XX article)" will claim that domestic violence laws are too stringent. #mensrights
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I worked in DV at the DA's office, and one fed-up judge, when talking to a male victim who wanted to drop charges said something along the lines of: "I rarely allow women to do this. Just because you're a man doesn't mean this isn't serious, I don't think you're getting the victims' resources you need." Women frequently refused to testify against men, and wanted to drop charges, and if we could, we still prosecuted. But men overwhelmingly were the abusers, and as Anna pointed out, were the ones who killed and stalked. #mensrights
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They have a point, in a certain sense.
Now, let me clarify, because I know that seems awful after what the article has just presented us with.
The basis of their arguments is not necessarily untrue - men are more often denied custody, men who are victims of abuse are more often unable to find/willing to seek help when they need it, do not have their sexual assaults taken seriously (especially if they were assaulted by a woman), more men are victims of homicide (I think, but I might be remembering that incorrectly - please correct me if that is so), etc.
But they go about addressing these problems in the craziest, counter-productive way possible, and that's where their point ends, and they really, really need to start talking to people other than MRAs.
My male friends who have been sexually assaulted have not been willing to seek help - they figure that they will just be mocked and thrown back into the situation. The shelter I volunteer for will not take male victims of abuse (safety and trauma issues, which I agree with), and unfortunately, we don't have enough funding (whoops, looks like the shelter-as-free-income thing is a lie!) for a men's shelter. So any man who requires shelter has to be put in a hotel/motel room, which makes him feel even more alone. That is terrible. Victims of violence should always be taken seriously and I wish that we had far more resources than we do, but alas, MRAs are the ones working against us to take away funding. Good job, assholes, you've not only hurt a lot of women, but you've undermined one of the few resources the men you're talking about could have utilized.
The fact that these men who have been abused exist should never be used to minimize the epidemic of violence against women, but the fact that the majority of violence is enacted upon women doesn't mean that we should ignore the minority of men that are affected by it. In these kinds of discussions, I have seen a few people throw it out, because they are the minority. We, as feminists (and I do not know if those who were arguing that point were feminist or not), should be willing to fight for equality of all minorities, even if they are privileged.
MRAs take a legitimate complaint and turn it into a fucking circus that not only works against them, but harms everyone involved. I am so angry with them and their movement. Yes, there are abused men and women who hit their partners. That doesn't mean that every single one is lying. Rape happens. To a lot of people. To men as well as women. But they are willing to undercut and destroy the resources that victims of violence have. They're willing to uphold a rape culture, because they don't see themselves as part of it. They are completely unsympathetic to the plight of anyone else, including the people they're talking about and claiming to fight for.
Gender equality and mutual respect are the answers to these problems. They need to bring to light that anyone can be sexually assaulted (with respect to the numbers, of course, to give greater understanding as to why most people view it as a "women's issue" and all that), that men deserve to be equal parents, fathers matter, men deserve to have full access to their emotions, and all of that stuff. WAIT A SECOND THAR, SKIPPY, THAT SOUNDS A LOT LIKE FEMINISM.
Well, that's because it is.
Stop fighting gender equality and the rights of others. Start fighting for gender equality and the rights of others. And I guarantee that you will see more progress to the solutions you're seeking. #mensrights
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Let's just break down stereotypes - on BOTH sides! #mensrights
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The hysteria of the MRAs also reflects the fear that ensuring more rights or protections for one oppressed group can somehow take away from everyone else's rights (ahem, marriage equality haters).
You're absolutely right that protecting all people, and all domestic partners, is the ultimate goal here. #mensrights
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It is important to remember that domestic abuse does come in all forms: husband-wife, parent-child, sibling-sibling, child-parent & wife-husband. I greatly believe that some men (in the form of husbands, sons, or brothers) are afflicted with various forms of domestic abuse (especially emotional, verbal or financial) from family members. This is a societal problem that is largely ignored, thanks to the strangulating standards of masculinity--- a man/boy who is in an abusive environment is already perceived as weak, or emasculated-- seeking help would only augment that perception.
Unfortunately, men's rights advocates have no interest in redefining the standards of masculinity which would allow society to help those in this position. Instead, they clamour for some perverse form of 'equality' while ignoring the roots at the bottoms of the problem.
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It's unreasonable to expect people to support a movement if they don't understand why it benefits them. "It's the right thing to do" just doesn't cut it. I personally think that using terms like "gender equality" instead of "women's rights" would do wonders for making inroads to men whose masculinity is getting in their way. #mensrights
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@molo_lola: Thank you! I am sick of that framework, too. They could do a lot of good if instead of just slamming women/feminists over and over, they actually addressed some of the reasons that men are afraid to get help for abuse.
@Melpomene: Right on! If they really cared so much about the plight of abused men, you'd think they'd start shelters, reach out, or challenge the idea that abused man = weak man. But they don't. Which implies to me they aren't really that concerned about it.
@CaptFamous: You're right - that's why it's so important to talk about the men's side of domestic violence, and people like Jackson Katz are so important. Men need to hear it from other men, and we need to hear how it can affect anyone, regardless of who they are. When we stop seeing "men's" issues and "women's" issues, we'll be a lot better off, I think. Men and women don't operate in separate spheres, so why would their problems have no overlap? #mensrights
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I worked the phones for two weeks, and I dealt with at least one famous 'Mens' Rights' Asshole who claimed he just wanted to help battered men. Despite having been convicted of DV himself repeatedly in the past. Anyway. He just was not interested. Couldn't give a shit. Not a whit. But, boy, get him talking about how evil feminists were and he just would not shut up! He was just utterly indifferent to this victim. I must have had a $400 phone bill that month, because I wound up calling foreign countries. So...was that feminism's fault, or the fault of this guy who was using DV as a shield to hide behind while he attacked the sort of women who helped his victims (past wives and his children) escape him? #mensrights
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He claimed he sheltered some guys, but I really doubt it. #mensrights
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And I think it's great that you've done outreach with men, too. Like I said before, abuse can happen to anyone, and that person will always deserve the opportunity to get help without being ridiculed.
I have only had one call on the crisis line I volunteer for that was from a man, and all he wanted to know was if his protection order was in place yet. It was, I told him so, and that was that. Other than that, it's all been women or girls. And I've seen some pretty grisly stuff, which makes me very angry when guys like the one you described suggest that these women are conniving assholes. It's like, dude, I held her hand all through the rape kit collection process because she was scared. I'm pretty sure no one invites a stranger into the room while something so personal is happening if it's fake, you know? #mensrights
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You can argue about 'cherry-picked studies' , but unless there is some empirical data out there then the discussion is moot because people will simply point to whatever 'cherry-picked studies' out there that support their claims.
FTW
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But I think your point is right on for why feminism and Black Power groups are prima facie more acceptable- they are railing against centuries of discrimination. I just don't see the (claimed) goals of these men's groups as detrimental to women, the way that the goals of racists are detrimental to minorities. #mensrights
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Oh yes, because the few months I lived there I saw tons of money floating around. I didn't see women that had to be shuttled to different shelters because their abusers found the location. I didn't see terrified women who couldn't even bring themselves to be around men (and that was the rule no men allowed in the building). I didn't see women who could barely speak English and were therefore unable to seek help until their kids grew old enough to know the language. #mensrights
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(I am hoping you catch the sarcasm, because I have seen the inside of many shelters - they do the best they can with what they have, which isn't much, and it's hard all around. And from your statement, it sounds like you were a client. If so, congrats on getting out, because that is so hard and difficult.) #mensrights
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I was shocked to see that such a dedicated father could have his children offered away at the drop of a hat, to a woman who was so uninvolved in their upbringing (she left again and has not seen her children since, over a decade later).
With that in mind, I set out to explore discrimination against fathers in the legal system.
In the end, I concluded that there IS a bias in Canada against fathers in legal proceedings. But DAMN, those father's rights groups hurt their cause more than help.
And they really, really hurt it. No one is going to side with those sick fucks. And I am not one to use that kind of language lightly. I had to read through a lot of so called "Father's Rights" manifestos to write that paper, and they are hate filled, counter-intuitive garbage.
I agree with their cause (at least, what they CLAIM their cause is, seems to me like it's eradicating feminism), and I hope their people read this, so I can ask them to stop what they're doing right now.
Stop arguing against abuse victims.
Stop arguing against feminism.
Don't you see that by promoting equality Feminists support your cause?
By arguing against victims of crime, you appear hostile and violent. You destroy your credibility. You hurt your cause. STOP IT!!!
*Ahem*
Sorry for the rant. I had to spend a lot of time thinking about this issue and in the end it is a truly sad state of affairs. #mensrights
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I've seen it work against women as well.
I quote "Stepdad only abused you and your daughters madam and not your/his son, so he has the right to see his son."
And then, there were hte women in the shelter that I stayed at who had their husbands granted partial custody. #mensrights
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