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11/13/09
surely the underlying cause of why men are afraid of vaginas and what they do every month is worth exploring. but in any healthy sexual relationship, you should respect your partner's comfort zone. that compassion will be returned. nobody should ever be forced into sexual activity they don't feel comfortable with.
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This story is why I can forgive him for being grossed out when he found my diva cup boiling on the stove. #periodsex
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I think your frustrations are shared by plenty of women, self-identified feminists or not. It's just another part of the 'superwoman' myth, only you've done a good job of showing that it exists well before women are expected to juggle kids and a career. Personally, I say to each her own, but in an ideal world 'pro-choice' (in everything from birth control to waxing) would be shorthand for 'pro-informed choice.' Women shouldn't have to apologize for every choice they make, but they shouldn't pretend they're making them in a vacuum. #periodsex
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Is that really fair? Some women aren't comfortable with their own menstrual blood. I agree that guys should be taught about menstruation early on, but the fact of the matter is that they haven't. It's different and frankly is kind of gross, just as a lot of bodily fluids are. Waking up covered in blood doesn't sound too great for either party, really, and that's what the guy should consider. Being grossed out about and being understanding of it are two different things. #periodsex
11/11/09
While I wouldn't advocate kicking a guy to the curb just because period sex isn't his favorite, I would wager that someone for whom menstrual blood triggers "post-trauma flashbacks" may not be a keeper. #periodsex
11/12/09
Probably taking it too seriously, but just bothered me. #periodsex
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I for one love my wife's body in all of it's phases and her period bothers her much more than me.
But that particular phrase seemed a little consescending to me as well. #periodsex
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But whatevs. Snark, not snark, I'm over it. #periodsex
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I had my period, went to the bathroom and put in a tampon and I guess I told him. Then about 1/2 hour later I had to pee so I got up and excused myself to the bathrom. He said "do you need another tampon." I told him that I didn't bc the other one wasn't that old. So he says:
"So do you take it out and put it back in when you finish peeing, or does your pee drip through it?"
... related to the article, I wouldn't surprise a guy with period sex for the first time, especially if we weren't in a swapping bodily fluids other than spit type of a relationship. But the long-term bf (not the one in the story, he's been gone for a loooong time) knows that if he doesn't want period sex, he's missing 25% of his chances.
11/11/09
Or you can suggest they try to fit a tampon into their penis.... #periodsex
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@cait98: uh, seriously? #periodsex
11/12/09
That's the problem with imprecise terms like "down there."
#periodsex
11/12/09
I think the point is that we actually don't learn enough about our vaginas. We don't see other women's vaginas (except in porn!) and we don't really talk about them (except in porn). Guys wee next to each other, and their dicks are more... obviously out. They know what eachother's dicks look like, and they know how theirs compares with other dicks. I think we need to see more vaginas from an earlier age! #periodsex
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Although to be fair to them they have since launched this website (NSFW WARNING!)
[www.channel4embarrassingillnesses.com]
Some of the comments on there are particularly illuminating. #periodsex
11/14/09
But that gallery is fascinating and awesome. And yeah, kind of relieving. Also, good thing I didn't read this at work, because sometimes I see "NSFW" and think, oh, it can't be THAT bad... #periodsex
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11/11/09
-Whines about purchasing feminine hygiene products on his own
-Gets "creeped out" by menstral blood
-Does not know the difference between a tampon and a pad
-Turns your sexual advances away because you're menstrating.
-Refers to being exposed to menstrual blood in the same tone or using the same wording as the guy in "The Godfather" who got a horse's head in his bed.
basically, any guy who acts like a complete twit when confronted with the fact that the female of the species ovulates and menstrates as a natural bodily function that is neither "unclean" nor "weird".
Dump them and hopefully if it happens often enough they'll get over this nonsense.
Of the women I've been with, it's about split on liking or disliking period sex. One partner said it helped with cramps, another said it made them way worse. Again, this falls under the "talk to the person you're fucking" catch-all of sex advice.
I have no preference. It does feel different, something like, I dunno, texture? It's hard to describe. And even if it is a heavy flow, you can always hit the showers :)
11/11/09
You can see him preform it on youtube here:
[www.youtube.com]
Bloodbath by Christian Drake
And it came in like the barking of dogs in your belly,
the lunatic dogs that bark every full moon on the dot.
The clock in you unwound, the little room collapsed,
and the blood trickled out in a thin red ribbon,
licking the white sheets.
They call it a period, but it’s really a run-on sentence
babbling on all week. It’s the definition of womanhood
reduced by repetition to the tedium of tampon commercials,
punchlines, and the day-long math test of cramps
shooting through you like swimmer’s stitches
while you’re in the middle of the river.
And I watch you fight to swim to the other side
of the bed, kicking, gasping hard between gulps of chamomile tea.
But when the blood is calm, it is beautiful
as a bone-handled knife. It dreams, and as it dreams
it drools like a baby. It’s the drip-drip of a faucet
as we go to sleep, it’s a bee beating itself against the glass.
It’s a presence, not like a ghost but like a memory
in your skin, changing the pitch and timbre
of your body to my ear as I pull my fingers across
your belly and you find my lips in the dark like a magnet
and I slip my fingers through your hair as gently as thoughts
and you say,
"Baby, not tonight. I’m on my period."
And I say,
Baby, I will make love to you until we look like a war zone.
Give me the sweet murder of your body
until they string up crime scene tape across the bedroom,
because period sex is awesome.
I will love you like surgery and I will transplant your heart.
I will love you like a horror movie,
’cause it’s about to be a bloodbath in here.
Because I need a hot transfusion of your love, type A-positive
because you can’t B-negative when I’m giving you my O, O, O…
I want to surf your crimson wave,
and invite your Aunt Flow for a threesome.
I want to reverse your curse, because the Red Sox are in town.
I want to make this a "special time."
I want to put my submarine in your Red Sea
and hunt for Red October, and do not hesitate
to ask me to go snorkeling down there.
Because if I’m going to order the finest steak,
I’m going to eat it rare.
Yeah, because I crave the taste of blood,
and I want your nerves raw like a bullet wound valentine.
And whether it’s hard or sweet, we’re going to leave
skid marks on the sheets
and handprints on the walls.
So throw that tampon in the air like a cotton Sputnik, just lob it,
’cause in the end, I want to be bloodier than John Wayne Bobbitt.
Your time of the month has perfect timing
because you open like the elevator doors in "The Shining."
I like some ketchup when I’m dining,
but I want to taste copper like I’m dying.
So let the woman in you make a man out of me.
Let’s get unclean. Because this lovemaking is no less perfect
than the moon rising in you, and this lovemaking is the gospel music
made by the rhythm of flesh and blood and flesh and blood,
and this blood is the closest I will ever be to making love
to your insides, sailing through your veins and arteries.
This blood on my skin is the photograph I take
when I visit your heart.
c. Christian Drake 2005 #periodsex
11/11/09
The article is highly misogynistic and places sexual satisfaction in the world of men. Males should obviously be the recipient of sexual pleasure and women should serve as the vehicles to provide them with this pleasure. He says that if women, or in his words, "lady friends," aren't going to perform anal sex (which he says he understands since "even some porn stars decline the deed") they should compensate men by giving them blow jobs for a week.
Though he states that he knows women are more sexually aroused during their period, he's clearly not interested in having a relationship in which there's mutual sexual satisfaction. His words are meant to be shaming, that women should be ashamed of a natural occurrence. #periodsex
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