Frank Ocean will allegedly release his second studio album, Boys Don’t Cry, today. Many people on the internet will have opinions about it, and about Frank. But ours are the best.

Before moving to the city that salsa commercials of my youth used to make fun of, I was just a Texas boy who spent his life in tennies, flip flops, and occasionally—because mom wasn’t about to let me go into church looking like a heathen—dress shoes. I reluctantly abandoned the flip flops soon after taking my first…

Because one’s mother so often, ultimately, gets the last laugh, I have turned into somebody who spends her weekends binge-watching whatever’s on HGTV, which means I’ve recently spent quite a few hours watching Chip and Joanna Gaines renovate homes in Waco, Texas on their show Fixer Upper.

This weekend we crossed the threshold into a new month, and the New York Times, paper of record, has marked the occasion with a new condemnation of millennial culture. On April 30, 2016 their Opinion section ran a piece by Molly Worthen entitled “Stop Saying ‘I Feel Like.’”

I find it impossible not to respond to Elinor Burkett’s New York Times opinion piece, “What Makes a Woman,” in which she fumes against exactly one comment made by Caitlyn Jenner and goes on to complain that trans women are “undermining women’s identities, and silencing, erasing or renaming our experiences.”

Giving birth to a human being—however it happens—is a visceral, memorable and profound life experience. Why do so many people feel entitled to pass judgment on the way that anyone else makes it through?