But but, what should Jewish and Jehovah's Witnesses dress up as to bring spice to their marriage? Cheerleaders? Or can you still celebrate Christmas if it's not your religion when it comes to sex play? I think Ann Landers would probably know.
I feel that dressing up as a sexy Santa and using the line, "Have you been naughty or nice this year?" would pretty much insure that I would be celibate for the foreseeable future.
Asking Ashley Dupre for advice about marriage and relationships is sort of like asking Paula Deen for advice on vegan cooking. I mean sure, she's a chef, but she'd probably end up having you marinate your tofu in beef stock or sleeping with your married three-bean salad.
I may have mixed up my metaphors somewhere in there.
@LaComtesse: Really any sort of special dressing up in the way that Dupre describes. Not that there is anything wrong with dressing up or wearing nice lingerie or clothes for a significant other, but doing it specifically, or at least not bothering to even attempt to hide the fact that it's all about sex kind of ruins the whole effect.
Well, I was planning on climbing down the chimney this Christmas, clad in nothing but a Santa hat, but her idea sounds much more practical and less likely to cause brick-chafing. Thanks, Ashley!
I'm one of those people who have no interest in even Googling someone, and I hate it when someone Googles me. I've had cashiers and baristas, total strangers who saw my name on my debit card, Google me and find out my age, my address, look at my house, read obituaries I'm listed in where the deaths were tragedies I'd like kept private, and so on. It's grossly intrusive. I realize this is how we live now but I'm sick of people knowing intimate details about me that I haven't told them. None of which I "put out" there - I don't do social networking, but a lot of stuff is online regardless. And when someone has a crush on you, or is jealous of you, it's scary how much info they can come up with.
I think as with many things, prevalence starts equating acceptability after a while. Personally I feel it's undignified and also destructive to people who get really obsessive about it. If I found out someone hacked into my voice mails or otherwise spied on me, I would pursue the most severe legal means possible to punish them. Privacy is becoming a lost concept. #aliwise
Excellent analysis, Jenna. I can definitely relate to the underlying tendency to obsess over people who meant a great deal to me in the past and are no longer in my life. Most 0f us wouldn't go nearly this far, but I can understand the impulse. Most likely once she overcame the initial ethical hesitation and hacked into the first voicemail, it was easier to justify the next one, and so on until she became compulsive. I'm sure on some level she felt shame for what she was doing all along. Kind of an amplified version of what I feel when I google that one mysterious ex for the bazillionth time, despite being in a happy relationship. #aliwise
one interesting thing i feel like no one's touched on is that Jenna is focusing on people who cheated on her -- i feel like in those kinds of cases, there is more impetus to know about the other woman, sort of as a way of finding an explanation for why the person you cared about hurt you. and i also think being cheated on can make it easy to fall into a feeling-bad-about-yourself cycle, and if that is how you are dealing with being cheated on, learning more about the person your bf cheated with can help provide fuel for that (especially icky) fire. #aliwise
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knowledge through boning?
YAY! I hope she screws a monk next, and learns how to STFU.
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I may have mixed up my metaphors somewhere in there.
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OK, I can't do this any more. I'm just not wild enough.
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I think as with many things, prevalence starts equating acceptability after a while. Personally I feel it's undignified and also destructive to people who get really obsessive about it. If I found out someone hacked into my voice mails or otherwise spied on me, I would pursue the most severe legal means possible to punish them. Privacy is becoming a lost concept. #aliwise
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