I Paid Someone $200 for Permission to Let My Baby Cry

In the spring of 2014, I paid a woman $200 for permission to let my eight-month-old son cry himself to sleep. Technically, what she did was (1) spend an hour drawing up a “sleep evaluation” based on a “walk-through audit” of my apartment and (2) have a brief chat with my husband and me. Those were nice touches, and…
Pilots Sue Frontier Airlines Over Breast Pumping at Work
Earlier this week, the American Civil Liberties Union and the ACLU of Colorado filed discrimination charges with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission on behalf of four pilots for Frontier Airlines. The charges allege that four pilots, Randi Freyer, Brandy Beck, Shannon Kiedrowski and Erin Zielinski, were…
After a 70-Year-Old Woman Gives Birth, Doctors Question Ethics of IVF Treatments on Older Women
Last month, Daljinder Kaur, a woman in her 70s, gave birth to a healthy baby boy. Kaur underwent two years of IVF treatments and, according to the Washington Post, she did so against the initial objections of doctors and her 79-year-old husband, Mohinder Singh Gill. After undergoing IVF at the National Fertility and…
Pregnant Women's Right to a Damn Drink Is Now Legally Protected in New York City
There’s a certain doom that sets in around the eight-month mark of pregnancy; an acknowledgment that soon the baby will be here, you’ll have no time for yourself, and the next few months will inevitably be spent in a sleepless, unshowered haze. It’s around that time that many expecting mothers decide that they need to…
Indiana Now Has 'Baby Boxes' for Abandoned Newborns
In February 2015, Indiana’s House unanimously passed approving baby boxes, climate-controlled boxes that function a bit like incubators where unwanted newborns can be safely left. The proposal passed earlier this year, and, late last month, baby boxes began to be installed throughout the state.
How Dare Chrissy Teigen Go Out to Dinner Without Baby Luna
On Saturday, neglectful new mother Chrissy Teigen had the audacity to go out to dinner with her husband John Legend, leaving her new baby at home. According to E! News, she has since been condemned for daring to have a life.
In Half of the United States, Daycare Is More Expensive Than College
It’s a well-known fact that daycare is a financial drain on working parents; despite the often low pay of daycare workers, the cost of tuition and enrollment fees can easily run thousands of dollars a year. Now, new research from the Economic Policy Institute shows that in nearly half of the United States, full-time…
Why Pregnant Women Are Saying “Fuck You” to the CDC—Even If We're Not Drinking

Curled up in bed reading a new novel about Vanessa Bell and Virginia Woolf called Vanessa and Her Sister, I came to a section about Bell’s pregnancy in which she is instructed by her doctor to wear a corset and drink champagne. In the middle of navigating my own pregnancy, I laughed out loud. Indeed just like all the…
Can Parents Keep Things From Getting Weird When Kids Have Sexual Urges?
When I was about five years old, my parents and I visited my dad’s extended family in Houston. For a family portrait, my distant cousin Jack, a beautiful dark-chocolate stunner with a bright smile, hoisted me on his shoulders for the photo. I remember feeling…something. Looking back, I understand that it was an early…
Two Kids, An IUD, and Then, An Abortion
A couple of Fridays ago, I walked my older son to school and then my younger son to daycare. Then I crossed over the ice-and-salt encrusted overpass to the metro station and headed downtown. As I emerged back up onto the street, I checked my phone and enjoyed a little lift of triumph. Getting places a bit early or…
Ciara Files $15 Million Defamation Suit Against Future for Calling Her a Bad Mom
Since Ciara and Future broke up in August 2014, it’s the rapper who’s had the most to say about it, up to and including his most recent album EVOL, which includes numerous allusions to what could be construed as his ex. (On “Little Haiti Baby,” he raps, “You want an R&B chick? Shawty, it ain’t nothin’ to get her.”)
My Maternity Clothes Struggle
On an extremely rainy night this past autumn, I stood under an umbrella, looking up at the generic chain stores of NYC’s 34th Street. New Yorkers know that you don’t go to 34th Street for shopping unless you’re a tourist; this mall-like thoroughfare exists to enable our passage elsewhere, period. But on this…
Task Force Finally Recommends Depression Screening for Pregnant Women and New Mothers
The United States Preventative Services Task Force—an influential panel of experts in primary care and preventative medicine—recommended on Tuesday that women should be screened for depression during and after pregnancy, the New York Times reports.
Why Are We Still So Paranoid About What Pregnant Women See?
There’s a scene on the CBS show Criminal Minds in which JJ, a pregnant FBI profiler, halts a conversation about a killer to put headphones over her pregnant belly. She tells the others she doesn’t want her child to hear the gory details of the conversation, as if talk of dismembered women will permanently scar the…

