What's Your Sexual Orientation: Promiscuous or Monogamous?

For a long time, the construction of gendered sexual behavior went like this: Men aren't hardwired for monogamy, but women, being more invested in emotional bonds and offspring resources, are. But it's becoming increasingly clear that women aren't exactly thrilled with the same old every night either. Research shows… » 2/19/15 12:15pm 2/19/15 12:15pm

Dousing Men in Oxytocin Allegedly Allows Them to Have Faithful Penises

Researchers from the Bonn University Medical Center in Germany performed a new experiment that suggest oxytocin is responsible for strengthening monogamy in men. Dr. René Hurlemann, executive senior physician from the Bonn University Medical Center, notes that "an important role in partner bonding is played by the… » 11/27/13 10:10am 11/27/13 10:10am

Evolutionarily Speaking, Monogamy Isn't All That Romantic

We learned a lot about monogamy in mammals this week, specifically, that it evolved because it's good for the health of the species, which is usually why things evolved. Exactly how that works, however, is still up for debate. Is it because there's so much space on earth and males had to pick a lady to make sure they… » 7/30/13 11:30am 7/30/13 11:30am

The War Against Monogamy Is Bullshit

Is monogamy impossible? Yes, according to a spate of recent books and articles. After years and years of writing article after article about "affair-proofing" your marriage, advice columnists for women are taking a different tack. Stop pursuing the impossible dream of sexual satisfaction with a single person, and… » 2/08/13 3:40pm 2/08/13 3:40pm

Atlantic Runs Stupid Article About the 'Death of Monogamy,' Then Runs…

The latest Atlantic features an article called "A Million First Dates: How online romance is threatening monogamy"—a shallow, moony hagiography of "simpler times" trussed up like trenchant social analysis. Huzzah. Online dating, author Dan Slater argues, is destroying monogamy by giving people (he says people, but he… » 1/04/13 6:15pm 1/04/13 6:15pm

Urban Coyotes Are 100-Percent, Disney-Movie Monogamous

Urban coyotes may be many things, — fuzzy, wily, sinewy, menacing, disdainful of golden retrievers, purloiners of newborn infant sons — but you might not have known that they're also living, loping, and prowling Valentines. That's because urban coyotes are, without exception, entirely, 100 percent, meatball-nosing,… » 9/25/12 11:55pm 9/25/12 11:55pm

CDC Cracks Down On Our Slutty, Slutty Organs

New CDC organ donor guidelines could discourage many healthy people from donating — because they demand that any donor who's had two or more sex partners in the last year be designated "high-risk." » 12/06/11 10:10am 12/06/11 10:10am

Monogamy: The Board Game!

"You may have to erotic dance in one of your first moves, but you make up the rules to your ultimate game. The point is, this board game gets couples talking again. When you're in a relationship for a while, lots of couples stop asking their partners even conversational questions, like how are you. This game reminds… » 7/16/11 5:50pm 7/16/11 5:50pm

How To Talk About Non-Monogamy Without Losing Your Mind

Discussions of infidelity tend to freak everybody out. But contrary to popular belief, it is possible to talk about monogamy, non-monogamy, sex, and cheating in a rational way. » 6/30/11 6:30pm 6/30/11 6:30pm

What Do You Mean You're Not Monogamous?

Random fact — I never dated until last year, at 22. It sounds weird because I'd been in relationships before, so I checked in with one of my best friends from college and asked her if I ever dated anyone. Sure you did, she said, you married him. Luls. Dating for the past year has taught me important things about what… » 4/05/11 11:42am 4/05/11 11:42am

Everyone Is Cheating On Everyone

A recent Oregon State University study found that in 40% of heterosexual couples, one partner claimed that the coupling was monogamous while the other claimed that no such agreement existed. Marriage and children did not increase monogamy between couples. » 1/23/11 10:54am 1/23/11 10:54am

New Jersey Pastor Who Told Congregation that Facebook Encourages…

Mmm. Adultery to the tune of a three-way relationship with his wife and another male employee of his church. And it goes down nice and smooth. » 11/21/10 4:50pm 11/21/10 4:50pm

The Sensuality Of Celibacy

Author Helen Boyd, on how celibacy, monogamy and being picky (which can cause the other two) can be sexier (and more feminist) than actually doing it. [My Husband Betty, Image via Sarah G. on Flickr] » 10/17/10 4:25pm 10/17/10 4:25pm

Maybe Infidelity Isn't Such A Huge Deal

Women enjoy sex. Often, they like it as much as men do - if not more. As much as this seems obvious to us, this is still in many ways a radical statement. Just ask Holly Hill. » 8/04/10 6:55pm 8/04/10 6:55pm

Carla Bruni Flips The Script On Infidelity Rumors

Nicholas Sarkozy is making bizarre claims that "Anglo-Saxon financiers" are spreading rumors about his infidelity to destroy France, but the really unusual thing about the scandal is Carla Bruni's role in it. » 4/06/10 2:30pm 4/06/10 2:30pm

Genetic Testing Can Reveal Whether Or Not Your Guy Sucks

What if everything we've come to believe about the male brain is wrong? What it men are not, as conventional/casual wisdom suggests, genetically predisposed to dip their sex-obsessed pen in every well they can find? » 3/30/10 1:00pm 3/30/10 1:00pm

Swan Song

Swans are usually the most monogamous of birds, but a flighty pair of "married" swans have reportedly split, returning from their annual migration with new (but fortunately not younger and blonder) mates in tow. [DailyMail] » 1/25/10 10:30am 1/25/10 10:30am

"For Me, Pornography Is Performing": Sasha Grey On Sex, Work,…

Despite claims that her opinions are worthless because she does porn, Sasha Grey has a long and insightful interview with Dazed Digital about acting, relationships, sex, and prostitution. » 11/25/09 1:40pm 11/25/09 1:40pm

K.D. Lang Does Romance

"I don't believe human beings are necessarily monogamous. I've always felt that in nature there's every example possible, from asexuality to omnisexual... But I'm very happy in mine, and I think age has a lot to do with it." [Guardian] » 8/03/09 11:40am 8/03/09 11:40am

Is Polyamory Not Such A Retarded Idea After All?

So like, sometimes I want to tell you guys about a story that's, like, too nuanced and complex to distill into a cynical one-liner. And then I think "pageviews!" and just skip it. But what the hell: it's about a small polyamory convention going down somewhere in exurban Pennsylvania, and it kind of — I know, I know —… » 2/13/08 5:40pm 2/13/08 5:40pm