Wait a minute... can someone please clarify, then, why it was necessary to have a very public international scandal to test her again??? If it was simply to satisfy the public desire to see this poor woman "verified", then I am even more disgusted than before. I did not even think that was possible.
I don't know that I'm mad at the coach. If he was aware of the request for the test and just wanted to spare her the humiliation by lying about what it was for I could support that. I don't understand how it spiraled into a worldwide media shitstorm?
This whole thing is so fucking disgusting. She is a gifted athlete, but as a woman, if you can't look "pretty" while kicking ass and taking names, you're not a real woman. That's what I'm getting here. And you know what else? I have this awful fear that after all this mud-dragging, she'll give up on the world and fade into obscurity. And I wouldn't blame her, either. Can you imagine the shame and rage and disillusionment she must be feeling? I can't. She's being blatantly discriminated against because she wears pants, for fuck's sake. Give me an Excedrin. All these anger bubbles are hurting my brain.
I can't imagine how she feels right now. To be really, really amazing at something you love, and to have your accomplishments marginalized and brought under scrutiny because what you are doesn't match the norm? Like you said, I hope she keeps running because she's so young and has a fantastic career in front of her, but I wouldn't blame her at all if she quit :(
@tankearae: It's such a common thread in the world, like a woman has to make up for the fact that she are good at a traditionally dude-centric endeavour by kicking her femininity signifiers into overdrive. I fucking hate it, and I'm sorry they are putting Semenya through this as well.
This whole situation just breaks my heart for this girl. I can't even imagine doing something that I love and that I'm good at only to have people lie to me and humiliate me.
Great work, coach! Way to undermine your star runner's confidence, that's really brilliant.
Poor Semenya. I hope she keeps running, but I wouldn't blame her for quitting if people are lying to her and making claims about her body so egregiously.
I don't tell my boyfriend when I eat fast food, because he's very health-conscious and anti-corporate. I admit that I actually admire these qualities in him, and it's not like I think fast food is good for me, but sometimes I just really need a fried food fix.
In general, I'm not a fan of lying. I work in public relations, and occasionally feel pressure to tell half-truths and gloss over issues with reporters. I try to be as blunt as I can, and just refer it up the chain of command if it's going to put me in a compromising position.
In other news, a few months ago I caught my dad out in a bold-faced lie to me for the first time in my life. This was pretty upsetting, as I've always admired him for his forthrightness. He has also told my mom some half-truths about their finances, and it's causing a lot of strain in their marriage. This is basically why I'm in therapy right now.
I wish my boyfriend would lie about liking PBR. I hate the stuff, and I'm a beer snob, and he's so proud about seeking out cheap crap beer. It's so embarrasing.
@MoonJewel: My boyfriend buys cheap beer, including PBR sometimes. I do not like most beers, and he knows this about me. So I order the $5 bourbon, he orders the $1.50 beer, and it all evens out.
I lie by omission to the bf about his parents. His mother is a religious conservative who's a single issue voter (abortion) and once got into a screaming argument with two of her sons because they said WalMart was evil (no joke). When his father heard his oldest son's girlfriend was pregnant with what would be the family's first grandchild, his first comment was "Has she stopped drinking yet?" Nice. They are not evil people, and in fact, are generous and well meaning, but also rigid and judgmental.
It's easier if my bf doesn't know exactly how much they drive me crazy when they start a fight over whether the pregnant girlfriend should eat bread pudding for dessert because the sauce contains bourbon. He doesn't need to know what I'm thinking then.
I've lied about being jealous or angry. I try and approach things rationally and hope that they'll just dissipate...I then usually end up very quiet and sullen and then a few hours later, end up telling the truth. I've also lied about my family's house, just how poor my family was (which was a lot more than I alluded to in relationships or friendships) and sometimes an O.
I'm generally very honest in relationships. I look suspicious though because I lie to my mom about everything. It's just easier for me. Of course because I lie to her, sometimes I think my exes were lying to me about various things. I'm insecure but then again, who isn't? And it never helps when my paranoia ends up justifying itself with the outcome. Sigh. Right now, I just want it to be the truth when I say that I'm happy with how things are between me and my now ex.
Really? I was under the impression that any number between 15 and 21 was generally acceptable.... is there some particular number we should all be claiming?
@gold_gato: Indeed, I fall outside of that "acceptable" range, so according to that scale I should be lying about it (but I don't...I was 25 - who cares?).
Thankfully the recent ex had awesome bands. But I cannot tell you how many music guys I've had to pretend to like their music. God help me when it was a jam band with penchants for indulgent solos. God help us all!
@TransFat: I'm beginning to think I'm a bitch because so many of these white lies people are describing here are ones I've never even considered telling. My ex KNEW I despised all his favorite black metal bands. Including, uh, the band he was in. No wonder I am perpetually single...
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I don't know that I'm mad at the coach. If he was aware of the request for the test and just wanted to spare her the humiliation by lying about what it was for I could support that. I don't understand how it spiraled into a worldwide media shitstorm?
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I can't imagine how she feels right now. To be really, really amazing at something you love, and to have your accomplishments marginalized and brought under scrutiny because what you are doesn't match the norm? Like you said, I hope she keeps running because she's so young and has a fantastic career in front of her, but I wouldn't blame her at all if she quit :(
09/08/09
[uk.eurosport.yahoo.com]
Though this one really irks me:
[www.guardian.co.uk]
You can't see it without a subscription, but note she was given a make over. Wonder who came up with that idea...
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Way to kick ass Semenya!
09/08/09
Poor Semenya. I hope she keeps running, but I wouldn't blame her for quitting if people are lying to her and making claims about her body so egregiously.
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09/08/09
"Here I am with my hard-earned gold metal that a lot of you don't think I deserve."
08/28/09
In general, I'm not a fan of lying. I work in public relations, and occasionally feel pressure to tell half-truths and gloss over issues with reporters. I try to be as blunt as I can, and just refer it up the chain of command if it's going to put me in a compromising position.
In other news, a few months ago I caught my dad out in a bold-faced lie to me for the first time in my life. This was pretty upsetting, as I've always admired him for his forthrightness. He has also told my mom some half-truths about their finances, and it's causing a lot of strain in their marriage. This is basically why I'm in therapy right now.
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It's easier if my bf doesn't know exactly how much they drive me crazy when they start a fight over whether the pregnant girlfriend should eat bread pudding for dessert because the sauce contains bourbon. He doesn't need to know what I'm thinking then.
08/27/09
I'm generally very honest in relationships. I look suspicious though because I lie to my mom about everything. It's just easier for me. Of course because I lie to her, sometimes I think my exes were lying to me about various things. I'm insecure but then again, who isn't? And it never helps when my paranoia ends up justifying itself with the outcome. Sigh. Right now, I just want it to be the truth when I say that I'm happy with how things are between me and my now ex.
08/27/09
Really? I was under the impression that any number between 15 and 21 was generally acceptable.... is there some particular number we should all be claiming?
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