Marry Him Author Lori Gottlieb Has Surprisingly Sane Take On Parenting

Lori Gottlieb wrote possibly the worst book about marriage of this young millennium. Now she's set her sights on parenting — and what she has to say is surprisingly non-terrible. » 6/14/11 3:32pm 6/14/11 3:32pm

Bald Men Rush Into Marriage Because They're Desperate and Afraid

That seems to be the takeaway of today's strange take-down of bald guys in the NY Times. "Because of the blow to their self-esteem, some balding men simply settle when it comes to spouses." Wills and Kate, explained! » 1/22/11 3:45pm 1/22/11 3:45pm

The Utter Pointlessness Of All That Marriage Advice

One researcher is claiming that women these days have less power in relationships, and so we'd all better get married young. But while relationship advice like this might make us mad (or anxious) it's not going to change our behavior. » 1/20/11 1:36pm 1/20/11 1:36pm

Settle For Mr. "Just OK" — While Your "Marital Value Is Still At Its…

Why It's OK To Settle For Mr. Good Enough. Sounds like the sorta assertion that might get the readers talking/chatting/generating the old ad revenue, eh? » 4/01/10 5:00pm 4/01/10 5:00pm

The Kids Are All Right

"Just don't fault my generation for a lack of trying. Fault Ms. Gilbert, Ms. Gottlieb and their ilk-those who project their own neuroses on to the rest of us." — Hannah Seligson, on Committed, Marry Him, and dating today [WSJ] » 2/26/10 5:40pm 2/26/10 5:40pm

I Don't Care About Your Band: A Dating Book We Can Get Behind

Julie Klausner's I Don't Care About Your Band is the anti-Marry Him — a celebration of self-love in the face of laughably bad dudes. » 2/17/10 2:20pm 2/17/10 2:20pm

By The Numbers

A math professor has apparently developed a formula for "the right age to fall in love," and claims it "does seem to fit a lot of couples." We smell a new Lori Gottlieb book. [Reuters] » 2/11/10 6:40pm 2/11/10 6:40pm

Fat Like Him: Self-Help Writer's Ex Speaks Out

After we mentioned Lori Gottlieb's 2005 essay "Fat Like Him" in our review of Marry Him, the "fat guy" in question approached us to tell his side of the story — and his experience dating a now-famous advocate of "settling." » 2/09/10 3:00pm 2/09/10 3:00pm

Today: Lori Gottlieb Claims Marry Him Is About "True Love"

On this morning's Today Show, Lori Gottlieb sugarcoated the bile that Marry Him, claiming that her pro-settling message is really "about finding true love." » 2/04/10 6:00pm 2/04/10 6:00pm

Marry Him: A Diet Book For Your Love Life

We've already argued at length against Marry Him's pro-settling premise, but reading the whole book reveals a whole new level of crazy. Lori Gottlieb's version of dating and marriage is basically calorie-counting for the soul. » 1/28/10 2:00pm 1/28/10 2:00pm

Just Because You Settle Doesn't Mean You Marry A Good Man

Nearly two years after Moe (and everyone else) criticized Lori Gottlieb's advice to just settle for Mr. Maybe, Gottlieb came back. And so did her critics, and some evidence showing why exactly her advice is crap. » 1/23/10 4:15pm 1/23/10 4:15pm

Do Women Actually Have Dating "Checklists?"

Lori Gottlieb has been spreading her particular brand of Cautionary Matron doomsaying since 2008, and now she's plugging her upcoming book with an appropriately creepy interview in Marie Claire. » 1/20/10 3:00pm 1/20/10 3:00pm

Old Wives' Tales: Or, Why We Should All Just Give Up Now

The New York Observer's Irina Aleksander coins a meme: the Cautionary Matron - basically a generation of women disappointed in their lives and passing on their tales of woe to impressionable youth. But can we handle the truth? » 10/21/09 1:00pm 10/21/09 1:00pm

Female Confessional Journalism And The Business Of Self-Hate

Hadley Freeman has a very smart piece in the Guardian today about a very disturbing phenomenon: female journalists publicly baring their depressing and ultimately unsuccessful battles with various forms of self-loathing. » 7/01/09 12:00pm 7/01/09 12:00pm

Oh look! Lori Gottlieb, anorexic uptight single mom advocate of settling for Mr. "Just Ok" is back in the news. And she's settled! On...a publisher for the inevitable book based on her "controversial"Atlantic piece. How great for her! But not so great for guy who spies the book in his fiance's nightstand. [Publishers… » 3/18/08 3:40pm 3/18/08 3:40pm

Lower Your Standards, Bitch

Okay, so that Atlantic piece by Lori Gottlieb on "why you should settle": We wrote about it. Everyone wrote about it. On Saturday, novelist Megan Daum wrote about it. You keep asking us to write about it again. Maybe I didn't quite nail what happened to be my problem with the story before, so here goes: this is a… » 2/25/08 5:00pm 2/25/08 5:00pm

Settle For Mr. "Just OK" — While Your "Marital Value Is Still At Its…

Why It's OK To Settle For Mr. Good Enough. Sounds like the sorta assertion that might get the readers talking/chatting/generating the old ad revenue, eh? Well that's a story in the latest issue of the Atlantic Monthly by a single mom (Lori Gottlieb, pictured) who dares to advance the iconoclastic argument that Rachel… » 2/08/08 5:40pm 2/08/08 5:40pm