I have NEVER given KFed a pass. To me he's always been nothing more than a rent boy. He thought he was doing well with his first baby mama because she was on Moesha (I think it was Moesha) but he really hit the jackpot when he swung his dick Brit-Brit's way. The poor thing was so fucked up, she probably liked the idea that she was 'stealing' KFed. It probably helped her to validate herself as a independent woman. No wonder she broke down when she realized that the person she had alienated so many people for wasn't worth shit. I really could care less about Ms. Spears but I do feel sorry for her and wish her luck in her recovery. From what I can see, the best thing for her would be to move back to Louisiana, raise her kids and forget about the rest. She's got enough to last forever.
I don't have children and never will so surely some will think this is "judgey" but you know what, it all comes down to poor choices.
Britney CHOSE to have this man as the father of her children. She had a hurried courtship with him (if you can even call what they had a courtship), barely got to know him, married him too fast, and got pregant too fast...TWICE.
If he's a shit father, she shares some of the blame...just like any one else who chooses to have kids with a deadbeat assbag.
@clevernamehere: Uh yeah she totally does. These are the risks of rushing into having kids with someone you barely know. I didn't say Kevin wasn't responsible for his own shitty fathering. I said Brit isn't off the hook here as she could have made a better, more thoughtful choice about who she brought children into the world with.
Looking back she was seemingly pretty cavalier about the whole thing...
Anyone remember the Funny or Die video with Will Farrell and "Pearl" the landlady? That was supposedly Adam McKay's kid and I think only Bill O'Reilly got his knickers in a twist because of what she was taught to say for the cameras.
Seriously, neither of them should be getting parent of the year awards any time soon. To be brutally honest I think they're prime examples of people who just shouldn't have had children, or at least not at the stages they were at in their lives, mentally. K-Fed may be useless but I agree, this post just comes across as ''all men are shit!!!'' Britney isn't, in any way, a poster child for being the best parent either.
@Calraigh: I wholeheartedly agree with you. However, no matter what, Britney received a hideous drubbing by pretty much everyone. Meanwhile, Kevin, who was certainly thought to be an absolute turd, all of a sudden was elevated in status b/c he finally showed up. It's fairly ridiculous.
It might be a combination of cultural expectations of motherhood, where anything short of Madonna--by that I mean Mary, not Madge--doesn't cut it, and equally low expectations of fatherhood, in which dads get props if they don't leave...forget about abuse/neglect/indifference. He stayed. Gud 4 him.
I think the point about the double standard is completely valid, but I also don't think it's really any more appropriate to make assumptions about Kevin Federline as a father because his three year old kid doesn't always pay attention or follow directions in class. That sounds like most little kids I've ever known, to varying degrees. Maybe he's a crappy father and maybe he isn't, but that quote isn't really evidence of either.
I agree that the media joyfully created a 'perfect dad' image of Federline when Britney was at her lowest, because it made her look even worse, like she was the female equivalent of the the dad from Angela's Ashes or something.
"From this, it sounds like Federline is giving the kids minimal attention and not caring if they act up or misbehave in class."
Eh, I didn't take that much from it. Plus, with all the monitoring and paps surrounding both of them, if he did something blatantly irresponsible, I think it'd be reported.
@BlondeGrlz is having a BlondeBoyz!: and ps - I am in my full faculties and regularly have a hideous time installing my child's booster seat in the car. You need an engineering degree to figure those fucking things out.
The kids could have ADD or just as easily learned the words from their classmates. Still I hope for the children's sake they are BOTH doing their best at parenting.
As a mama who's had some difficulties in the past, I feel for Britney. I also feel nail-spittin' mad at the idea that Kevin gets a free ride from being called a class-A jerkwad. Not only was Britney coming unglued, he appeared to do nothing but smoke Newports at the gas station and go party with his friends.
Fathers are regularly lauded for showing up, going to the store, cooking them dinner, dropping off the kiddos at school, etc...and yet, they are SUPPOSED TO! It's their fucking job, too.
Meanwhile, as a mama, you're not only expected to do so, but any slight change in the order of things makes you a BAD mama. It's total & utter bullshit and not only does it make me angry, but crestfallen that the expectations of women are still so goddamn stilted.
@rosasparks: there is still a part of me that thinks that he saw how she was "coming unglued" and saw it as an opportunity and took it, and maybe even facilitated some of the unglue-ing with his behaviors...and if K-Fed is definitely one thing - an opportunist.
@rosasparks: I hear you. But Britney's illness was far more serious than reported in the media. I mean, I've got friends in Social Services, and from what they can tell, Britney had to be in pretty deep to lose custody of her children. The father was naturally next in line to get custody.
@rosasparks: Have you seen the Chris Rock comedy schtick where he talks about men doing what they're supposed to do and wanting special credit for it? Truly hilarious.
@ceejeemcbeegee: I know, sigh. For a mother to lose custody means that pretty much, the bottom just dropped out. But suffering from mental illness, which I know all too well, doesn't mean you're a bad parent. It means you're ill and cannot function, in any aspect.
To calrify: I do believe there are double-standards here, but just not sure I really want to go after people for making what are, frankly, minor parenting mistakes. When Jayden has a serious drug addiction by age 9, get back to me.
How about we try not judging either parent? Looking at a family through a paparazzi rumor-fueled lens isn't getting an accurate view of their lives anyway.
PS. I could give a shit about KFed but, uh, kids learn a lot of foul language from *gasp* other kids. It's called socialization. Not necessarily a result of bad parenting.
Also, sometimes swearing doesn't make you a bad kid. I cussed like a sailor as a kid. And I told the truth, shared, got straight As, went to an Ivy League School (for whatever that's worth), and have yet to be arrested.
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Britney CHOSE to have this man as the father of her children. She had a hurried courtship with him (if you can even call what they had a courtship), barely got to know him, married him too fast, and got pregant too fast...TWICE.
If he's a shit father, she shares some of the blame...just like any one else who chooses to have kids with a deadbeat assbag.
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We are responsible for our own actions, including Kevin.
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Looking back she was seemingly pretty cavalier about the whole thing...
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You got ALL that from two sentences?
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I agree that the media joyfully created a 'perfect dad' image of Federline when Britney was at her lowest, because it made her look even worse, like she was the female equivalent of the the dad from Angela's Ashes or something.
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Eh, I didn't take that much from it. Plus, with all the monitoring and paps surrounding both of them, if he did something blatantly irresponsible, I think it'd be reported.
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Careful how you judge....
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Fathers are regularly lauded for showing up, going to the store, cooking them dinner, dropping off the kiddos at school, etc...and yet, they are SUPPOSED TO! It's their fucking job, too.
Meanwhile, as a mama, you're not only expected to do so, but any slight change in the order of things makes you a BAD mama. It's total & utter bullshit and not only does it make me angry, but crestfallen that the expectations of women are still so goddamn stilted.
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But, agreed: K-Fed is getting a LOT of passes.
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Cheers!
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PS. I could give a shit about KFed but, uh, kids learn a lot of foul language from *gasp* other kids. It's called socialization. Not necessarily a result of bad parenting.
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Also, sometimes swearing doesn't make you a bad kid. I cussed like a sailor as a kid. And I told the truth, shared, got straight As, went to an Ivy League School (for whatever that's worth), and have yet to be arrested.
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