Yes, I realize this is a thoughtful article about a serious issue, but I must say:
Whoo Minnesota State Fair and the bizzare custom of carving people out of butter! One of my besties (Douglas County Dairy Princess represent!) still has most of hers. #attractiveness
And this is what irritates me about how little most people understand about ED's. They're a form of self destruction, and they're more about...becoming less, fixing something that needs to be starved out of you. A side effect is that, currently in our culture, thinness is equated with beauty...but only as long as you don't look like you're trying. The whole thing is really distressing.
Plus, ye old, "you should like yourself because men do" trope...yuck. Over it. #attractiveness
I'm probably the only person who never cared about shots. When I was little it sucked, but I was so damn shy that I just didn't have the guts to say anything or do anything to protest so I just went with it. It really only feels like a mosquito bite. My dad gets squeamish around shots. When I was 15 he took me for my check up and the doctor started talking about vaccines I needed so I asked if she could give me 2 in each arm that day to get it over with. My dad couldn't even watch! #swinefluvaccine
@mannequin: Me too! Last time I had a shot the nurse caught me watching, and said "you know, you don't have to look." I think she was more grossed out than I was. #swinefluvaccine
@jenrobe: I know right? Like, how will I ever learn to shoot up heroin if I never learn to find a vein? I thought they were there to HELP me!!! #swinefluvaccine
I'm interested to know if they studies different race or ethnic groups, or if they just went with white men. I'm a "big girl" (about 20 pounds of it is weight, the rest of it is just how I'm BUILT), my husband and best friend are Arab, and they go CRAZY for large women. I haven't yet met an Arab man who found white America's "ideal" skinny woman attractive, and from what they both tell me, "large" women are the standard for beautiful in their countries - in fact, they consider a woman who is 20 pounds overweight to look healthier than thin women.
@hollymar: Idea: date an Arabic man. My children will have fabulous hair and glorious skin tone and he will (evidence shows) love my body and make me feel beautiful. I thought they just liked me for my hair color in Turkey, no wonder theys alls was trippin'. #attractiveness
@hollymar: This is just bad science, and as a scientist I'm offended by it. People who are doing behavioral correlations need to be AWARE of cultural diversification. In different parts of the world, different norms and different genes rule. It's sad to see Hollywood make the standards of beauty more homogeneous, as a matter of fact. #attractiveness
@Snowbunny: HA! Seriously! I thought there was something wrong with me until I dated Arabs, and then I was like, "OH! Our idea of beauty is just totally fubared!" Actually, my husband told me that in Morocco, men who marry skinny women are made fun of by their friends in the same way guys who date "fat chicks" are by their friends in the U.S. Bonus: The male standard for attractiveness is about the same, so they're as likely to work out and watch their weight as American men. ;) And yes, they do have glorious skin tone and fabulous hair. Mmmmm....now I need to go track that man down... #attractiveness
I'm really disgusted that 'medical' people can get away with assaulting children like this and not be charged. Let naive-but-consenting adults take this shot, but stop hurting children for power and profit.
And we wonder why children are confused when we tell them not to let others touch them in ways that make them feel bad, and not to use drugs, but then allow others to force chemicals directly into their bloodstreams. I hate people sometimes. #swinefluvaccine
@Vidya108: WTF? Vaccinating a kid is assault? Hmm, what's worse: a three-second owie or polio? Gee, I dunno.
You know what I think should be illegal? Parents who make decisions that have lasting negative health impacts for not only their children but other people around them.
Also, kids are being vaccinated for swine BECAUSE THEY'RE ONE OF THE AT RISK GROUPS. There's little point in a healthy adult getting it unless they work with children, the elderly or the immune-compromised. #swinefluvaccine
As an average-weight woman, this made me happy to read. I know they're oversimplifying the issues of both overweight and underweight women (men won't like you if you're too fat or too thin!), but it makes me feel more confident about my "average" body. #attractiveness
@Ultraprison!: Good! You SHOULD be happy. Sager's an ass and BBC are insensitive but I don't find anything inherently wrong with either study.
Tomorrow, there will be another study or magazine or talk show telling me that men prefer underweight women with fake boobs and tiny feet. And tomorrow, independent of any external input, I will still feel awesome about my average body and beautiful face. #attractiveness
"Most people who develop eating disorders don't do it so that guys will like them."
Hugs to you Anna for pointing out what should be obvious, but apparently is not to many many people. When I was anorexic in high school, my parents would tell me "Guys want you to have some meat on your bones!" as if it was about looking pretty and getting dates. Dating was the last thing on my mind when I was 14; I was starting high school and panicked about how I would get into top universities. (My parents were classic, pathetically confused ED parents, and also tried strategies like buying my favorite junk foods to get me to "just snap out of it and eat something.")
Even now when I lapse into ED thinking patterns, it is all about isolating myself and feeling like a little girl- which is pretty much the opposite of making an effort to attract guys. #attractiveness
Curious, I'm not in the US and would like to know whether you must pay for the vaccine to receive it. Seems like a pretty hot ticket, is the climate around it that most people want to be vaccinated?
In New Zealand we have been through winter flu season. There was no vaccine available and most people who contracted H1N1 had simply regular flu symptoms. Unpleasant but no worse than any other flu. There were some fatalities with people who had other underlying medical conditions. #swinefluvaccine
@LivingDaylight: We had quite a few deaths here in Aus, in the high-risk groups the Americans are now vaccinating. I think the northern hemisphere countries are using Aus and NZ to model how the virus might play out there. #swinefluvaccine
As Dwight Schrute would say, you can't have a human butterface, humans don't make butter. You can have a goat sculpture out of goat butter or a cow sculpture out of cow butter. Idiots. #attractiveness
This is the kind of shit that saddled me with incredible amounts of insecurity when I was younger, and even now, somewhat. I remember thinking, when I entered high school, that my body was more attractive than my face (a totally fucked up way of looking at it, I know). And while I've never been called anything like "butterface," I've certainly heard it used. A lot. It is one of the reasons I developed severe issues around my body and put a lot of my worth into how it looked. As in, thinness was my "power," because I had nothing else.
In the end it's just fucking sick that anyone thinks like this. #attractiveness
@Penny: I had the opposite experience. I've been a size sixteen since I was sixteen, and you don't know how many times people have told me I have a pretty face. It's not a compliment because what they mean is, "Your face is kind of pretty and, if you weren't so fat, you might be pretty, too." I guess you could say I felt like a 'butterbody' (which is kind of hilarious since I'm a chubby girl, but I digress), and it didn't exactly work miracles for my self-esteem. #attractiveness
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Whoo Minnesota State Fair and the bizzare custom of carving people out of butter! One of my besties (Douglas County Dairy Princess represent!) still has most of hers. #attractiveness
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Plus, ye old, "you should like yourself because men do" trope...yuck. Over it. #attractiveness
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Any ideas? #attractiveness
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And we wonder why children are confused when we tell them not to let others touch them in ways that make them feel bad, and not to use drugs, but then allow others to force chemicals directly into their bloodstreams. I hate people sometimes. #swinefluvaccine
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You know what I think should be illegal? Parents who make decisions that have lasting negative health impacts for not only their children but other people around them.
Also, kids are being vaccinated for swine BECAUSE THEY'RE ONE OF THE AT RISK GROUPS. There's little point in a healthy adult getting it unless they work with children, the elderly or the immune-compromised. #swinefluvaccine
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Tomorrow, there will be another study or magazine or talk show telling me that men prefer underweight women with fake boobs and tiny feet. And tomorrow, independent of any external input, I will still feel awesome about my average body and beautiful face. #attractiveness
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Next week: "Hey cancer, it's me! Stop hitting yourself!" #attractiveness
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Hugs to you Anna for pointing out what should be obvious, but apparently is not to many many people. When I was anorexic in high school, my parents would tell me "Guys want you to have some meat on your bones!" as if it was about looking pretty and getting dates. Dating was the last thing on my mind when I was 14; I was starting high school and panicked about how I would get into top universities. (My parents were classic, pathetically confused ED parents, and also tried strategies like buying my favorite junk foods to get me to "just snap out of it and eat something.")
Even now when I lapse into ED thinking patterns, it is all about isolating myself and feeling like a little girl- which is pretty much the opposite of making an effort to attract guys. #attractiveness
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a) he is probably lying.
b) he is being pathetically superficial and cliche while trying to sound "deep" and "sensitive," which is a guaranteed deal breaker. #attractiveness
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In New Zealand we have been through winter flu season. There was no vaccine available and most people who contracted H1N1 had simply regular flu symptoms. Unpleasant but no worse than any other flu. There were some fatalities with people who had other underlying medical conditions. #swinefluvaccine
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In the end it's just fucking sick that anyone thinks like this. #attractiveness
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