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    To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity

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    Image of If_I_Had_a_Poodle If_I_Had_a_Poodle
    10/13/09

    In reply to To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity
    as in all things, the question is choice

    she says we have none
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    10/13/09

    In reply to To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity
    If Wurtzel was a real lawyer, she wouldn't have time to ponder this, much less write about it. I do hope she passes the bar soon.
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    Image of Diziet_Sma Diziet_Sma
    10/13/09

    In reply to To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity
    "So it produces a look that some people think is infantile"

    Really? So those people also think cleanshaven men look infantile? Weird.
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    10/13/09

    In reply to To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity

    Oh and also, no debate about the universality of pubic hair customs is complete without this.
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    10/13/09

    @pesematology: ack, it cut off the relevant words. Luckily you all possess sufficient logic to deduce what they are.
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    10/13/09

    In reply to To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity
    I must commend her on her use of the word "asymptote" in this context.
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    Image of BlondeGoddess BlondeGoddess
    10/13/09

    In reply to To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity
    I just had my first bikini wax and I broke out in a violent rash that is most unattractive.

    I prefer my scissor trimmed pubes to red angry welts, thank you very much.

    And to anyone who has any objections, I say: you watch too much internet porn, honey.
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    Image of EdenMoore EdenMoore
    10/13/09

    @BlondeGoddess: I had that when I waxed my arms, and I had similar reactions to shaving my pubes. Definitely not bothering with that again. That said, I've found those electric trimmers to be much more efficient than scissors.
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    BlondeGoddess promoted this comment Edited by EdenMoore at 10/13/09 6:57 PM EdenMoore was starred EdenMoore was unstarred
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    10/13/09

    @EdenMoore: Yes, I use electric trimmers too - much less rash prone.
    And because I'm all for equal rights: some of my (ex)lovers should too. Feeling like you need a machette to cut through the bushes to find the peen can be a little off-putting.
    I'm not asking for a full wax or anything. A little trim will do.
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    Image of LaFemme LaFemme
    10/14/09

    @BlondeGoddess: I am the opposite. Waxing is great for me. Shaving? Depilatories? Horrific. Terrible ingrowns, itching, and one infected ingrown so bad I developed a cyst and had to have it surgically removed. It's the only method I can use to insure I don't have those issues.
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    Image of Candle Jack Candle Jack
    10/13/09

    In reply to To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity
    I just don't find pubic hair 'beautiful'
    (btw: beauty!=sexual attraction)

    I thought about this for a while, and these seem like the sort of reasons/prejudices I hold:

    I like well ordered structures. I don't typically have to see the roots of the hair on people's head. Typically I find well organized coarse curls, loose curls, or straight hair beautiful. Body hair is unevenly distributed and doesn't have well defined borders like the hair on your head normally has. The fact that I can see the roots means that I can see the unsymmetrical, somewhat random orientation of body hair--in denser hair (like on the head), i can't see these ...imperfections.

    There is something about smooth fluid shapes, or at least well organized geometric patterns, that I find beautiful. So, it's not strictly necessary that something is symmetrical, but if it isn't, it's got to be fluid or geometric.
    For me:
    1) When seen through a microscope, the lattice of a crystal is far more pleasant to look at than the coarse, porous structure of bone.

    2) A poison dart frog is just more pleasing to look at than a Surinam toad (seriously, its babies live in *pores on its back*)

    But, even though I don't think pubic hair is beautiful, I don't find it *sexually* unattractive. I don't find it sexually attractive either. I'm sort of neutral about it from a practical standpoint.
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    Bunsy promoted this comment Edited by Candle Jack at 10/13/09 5:54 PM Candle Jack was starred Candle Jack was unstarred
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    10/13/09

    @Candle Jack: You're gay, right?
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    10/13/09

    @Bunsy: No, aspergers.
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    Image of Candle Jack Candle Jack
    10/13/09

    @Bunsy: And now that I've re-read your post, you sound like a presumptous troll, and I'm shocked you have a star.
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    Image of pesematology pesematology
    10/13/09

    @Candle Jack: In the future, you will be able to mate with a droid. Until then, I guess you're stuck with us humans.
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    10/13/09

    @Candle Jack: I HATE the Surinam toad (and all things with organic holes / pores).
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    10/13/09

    In reply to To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity
    I'm a stright male, and I trim the weeds purely out of self-interest. I have found that woman are appreciative.
    NOW, i understand that maybe these women who prefer some gardening should be made to understand that "HEY! untrimmed is nature's way and maybe you should get used to it," but why should it be my burden, at my cost, to fight this fight? The path of least resistence, and the path of greatest self-interest, is just to do the dunuding and enjoy the benefits.
    Why can't a woman reach this same conclusion without being condemend as not being feminist? Seems to me that acting in your own self-interest to maximize pleasure is pretty feminist.
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    10/13/09

    In reply to To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity
    I don't shave, and it works for me. I shave nothing, I like it, wahoo for me. She shaves lots, it works for her, wahoo for her.

    The Brazilian thing is a trend. It will go out of vogue in a while, and we will have something else in its place. I hate it when people are like, "That's how it is and it won't change,". Everything will change. It may not turn into something unrecognizable, but it will alter and different things will be considered "perfect". That's how it is, actually. Maybe 20 years from now, bushes will be in style, and people will be like, "This is natural and it will never change," and I will think it is funny then, too.
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    10/13/09

    In reply to To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity
    I just like the happily surprised tone in a guy's voice when he says "wow, you really are a redhead."
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    Image of Scout Scout
    10/13/09

    @Sugar Boots: i retain my lovely pubic hair just for that very confirmation reason.

    "I'm the real deal, baby"
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    10/13/09

    In reply to To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity
    For me as a male, it isn't about what I find sexier in a woman. I can find either attractive.

    It's just the, not wanting hair in my mouth, that makes me fall on the bare side of the debate.
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    Image of prismatism prismatism
    10/13/09

    @Daveed: Yeah, hair in the mouth is probably the number one reason to shave/wax aside from personal preference.

    And the only reason I'd not be offended if I didn't shave/wax and a guy asked me to. It isn't aesthetic, it's practical... getting pubes stuck in your teeth really takes you out of the moment, and they get up your nose & tickle you. Then you're sneezing all over your lover's junk and that's not very sexy. Or Hygienic.

    But if a guy expects it of a girl, then he should do the same for her.
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    10/13/09

    @prismatism: I'm with you on all counts.
    I shave, everything, but I also appreciate when a man I'm with reciprocates.
    Never understood why it should just be about the woman.
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    10/13/09

    @Daveed: you assume every woman likes oral sex. I'm too orgasmic to deal with becoming someone's buffet

    that said, fair enough - hair in teeth would be annoying
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    10/13/09

    In reply to To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity
    Wurtzel is so damn boring. I don't believe she writes her books and essays for any other reason than to remind us all of her hotness. I saw her speak at a writers' conference once and was stunned by her narcissism. She was not interested in anything but putting on the Elizabeth Wurtzel show for the adoring crowd. I pretty much discount everything she says about anything.
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    10/13/09

    In reply to To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity
    The thing that bugs me most about waxing is that compared to so many other types female grooming, this seems like a relatively new trend. Ever watch porn from the 1970s? It's full of bushy goodness (men and women alike). Compare that to make-up, high-heels, braziers, etc. Those all seem so established, that compared to them, the brazilian still feels like a fad. Time will tell if it is.
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    10/13/09

    In reply to To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity
    I tried having hair for the first time ever last year, because a guy asked me to. Gasp and shock everyone! The guy WANTED the hair!
    Me? HATED it. The second we broke up it was all shaved off again.
    It helps that I'm not at all hairy naturally though, so hair removal for me is quick and mostly painless
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    Image of BeckySharper BeckySharper
    10/13/09

    In reply to To Wax Or Not To Wax: Advice From The Wurtzel School Of Incredibly Depressing Womanity
    "But just because Wurtzel drank that Kool-Aid doesn't mean we have to."

    Word. And I think Womanity should generally go by the rule: "If Elizabeth Wurtzel's selling it, I ain't buying." We'd all be a hell of a lot happier.
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