It’s Not Just Pretty White Girls Who Sext, But You’d Never Guess That From the Media

Everybody sexts. Or, to be more precise, men and women sext, gay and straight people sext, trans and gender-queer folks sext, people of all races, sizes, and (almost all) ages sext. As new research unveiled this week reveals, this impressive diversity, however is almost entirely hidden by the way print media… » 3/22/13 7:15pm 3/22/13 7:15pm

Hardwired to Disappoint? The Crushingly Low Expectations of Men

Young women are more sexually confident than ever before. Hooking up is less emotionally devastating than we've been led to believe. They enjoy unprecedented personal and professional opportunities. Yet the same book that reports this welcome news also describes contemporary 20-something young women as more… » 3/15/13 7:00pm 3/15/13 7:00pm

Hot Girls in Tight Clothes Do Not Keep Boys From Learning

When it comes to what we're taught about men, sex, and self-control, most of us learn one maxim early on: "a hard dick has no conscience." The wording may vary, but the claim is always the same: guys, especially young dudes who are still in or just emerging from the testosterone tsunami of puberty, are powerless in… » 2/26/13 5:00pm 2/26/13 5:00pm

Age Is Never Just a Number: How Girls Got Older Men/Younger Women Right

Age is never just a number. Of all the takeaways from the most-recent episode of Girls, that's one of the most unmistakable. Though "One Man's Trash" has been the most-discussed installment of this season (and perhaps of the entire show), much of the commentary has focused on the mind-blowingly insipid suggestion that… » 2/12/13 4:50pm 2/12/13 4:50pm

'Slut-Shaming Fatigue': Because This Crap Has Got to Stop

It may be freezing cold outside, but as the store windows remind us, spring is on its way. Along with the Easter bunny and the return of baseball, the rapidly approaching season is sure to bring a new round of hand-wringing and pearl-clutching about young women's "immodest" attire. The viral response this month to… » 1/28/13 4:00pm 1/28/13 4:00pm

It's Kinda Like Seeing a Painting in a Museum: Find Out What Gay Men Think About Vaginas

This is funny! I was prepared to be kinda annoyed, but instead, I fell in love with all of these dudes. Without vaginas, there wouldn't be gay boys, because, like, they come out of them. And, as a woman, I want to say, "Thank vagina for that!" Because a significant portion of the most important moments in my life… » 1/17/13 9:15pm 1/17/13 9:15pm

Is a Disney-Free Daughter Really a More Empowered One?

Don't tell my daughter, but before the month is out, she's getting a princess-themed surprise party for her 4th birthday. We've hired a much-recommended princess party service to provide an actress who'll play Aurora (Sleeping Beauty, Heloise's favorite) and show up in full regalia to entertain 10 children for 90… » 1/16/13 2:10pm 1/16/13 2:10pm

The Newest Sex Toys Make Pleasure Serious Business

Please don't call them "adult novelties" anymore. They're "pleasure products" or "sex accessories," and as last week's XBiz Awards and accompanying conference (link NSFW) in Los Angeles made clear, those products continue to grow more sophisticated, more diverse, and more accessible. The Swedish company Lelo was named… » 1/15/13 3:30pm 1/15/13 3:30pm

Poor Pitiful Dudes: Why You Should Defer to Men with Post-Patriarchal Depression

Still grieving over Sandy Hook? While your tear ducts are still flowing, how about shedding a few empathetic drops for a much broader group of victims: depressed and discombobulated white males. Those who once were heroes, filled with a sense of purpose and place? They're now lost young men, reeling from the rapid… » 12/21/12 3:55pm 12/21/12 3:55pm

This Vibrator/Flash Drive Will Send You to Ecstasy and Store Your Important Files

From San Francisco, the sex and technology capital of the United States, which I can say because I live here and I am the apex of both sex and technology, comes a combo vibrator/flash drive that will both get you off and hold an entire season of Arrested Development! Technology, you're the greatest. » 12/20/12 9:15pm 12/20/12 9:15pm

Just Because You’re Hot Doesn’t Mean He Won’t Cheat

If your boyfriend ranks lower on the "attractiveness scale" than you do, is he more likely to stay faithful? Conventional wisdom says yes. It assumes that less attractive people have fewer opportunities to stray, and that the "less hot" partners in relationship will feel so fortunate to be dating "out of their league"… » 12/18/12 1:20pm 12/18/12 1:20pm

Thanks, Guys: Five Ways Men Are Fighting Sexism

These may not be the best of times for women on the Internet, as recent episodes of ugly misogynistic trolling make all too clear. On the other hand the end of 2012 is bringing Good News about Good Guys with a renaissance of passionate anti-sexist male activism, online and in real life. Is this upsurge in dudely… » 12/06/12 3:30pm 12/06/12 3:30pm

Why We Still Fall for the Myth of the Uncontrollable Boner

Could you forgive your spouse for having an extramarital affair? When it comes to relationships, it's hard to think of a more perennial question. When I was in college, my friends and I -– most of us children of divorced parents -– would argue with high emotion about whether any committed monogamous relationship could… » 11/29/12 1:45pm 11/29/12 1:45pm

Why Do We Still Think Guys Just Want Sex?

Men are dogs. Guys only want one thing. The human male evolved to be promiscuous. From Charlie Sheen to David Petraeus, our cultural landscape is littered with seemingly endless examples of men who in one way or another live down to these low expectations. Perhaps men are just hardwired to disappoint, and the sooner… » 11/27/12 1:50pm 11/27/12 1:50pm

'I Know You Better Than You Know Yourself:' Why Men Cheat With Their Biographers

Do women know men better than those men know themselves? Probably not, but the hopeful expectation that they do is one of the most irresistible (and under-acknowledged) drivers of extramarital affairs. The resignation of CIA director David Petraeus following the revelation of an extramarital affair, like the John… » 11/12/12 1:40pm 11/12/12 1:40pm