While it's true that there are straight women out there with "gay husbands" and "gay bffs" who treat their gay friends like little more than fun, interactive accessories and gay men out there who dismiss their straight female friends as "fag hags" (which I'll say is just as dehumanizing), the fact remains that…
The relationship between girls and gay bars (male-only crowd, for our purposes) is fraught at best. While treatment of queer women at such establishments is another article entirely, a gaggle of straight women in one of "our" spaces can provoke confusion and intolerance on both sides.
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I currently field so many questions about my butt that I feel like I'm its tour guide (we're walking, we're walking, to the right you have the prostate... don't touch it! Photos only!) and I have family members who don't know how my boyfriend and I met, but turn into Sam I Am on the subject of gay buttsex, popping up…
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The National Institutes of Health recently did a study to find out how penis size affects the sexual health of gay men.
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Now that New York's become the biggest state to legalize gay marriage, we'll see whether it will follow in the steps of other marriage equality states in another respect: Seeing more women marry than men.
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It makes me cringe when I hear a straight guy embark on a long tirade about how he could never possibly have sex or be intimate with another guy. I sigh and think to myself, "Not this again. What an asshole. You don't like dick. I get it!"
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Politico reports that gay men are a key element of fundraising for President Obama's re-election campaign, since there are plenty of wealthy gay men who remain enthused by him where others are disaffected. So where are the lesbians?
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The new web series In Between Men chronicles the lives of young professional gay men living "between two societies." It also appears to include lots of beefcake.
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The new Sundance channel show Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys is a "groundbreaking" (their claim) series that explores the relationship between a woman and her gay best friend.
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Growing up, I was freakishly small and no one paid attention to me. There are always some-those gnomes of the schoolyard running in slow motion toward puberty. We sad sideshows were the same as our peers emotionally, if not physically.
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In the recently reignited debate over whether women can fantasize about men who openly like other men, we'd like to offer some photographic evidence that it is, in fact, possible. And we're going to enjoy it.
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Popularized by Margaret Cho and Will & Grace, the archetype of the "fag hag" once had something to offer both gay men and straight women. Now, says Thomas Rogers at Salon, its time is up.
These two men — former boyfriends — were on Judge Judy because the plaintiff was suing for loans he made to the defendant when the two were a couple. They are both kind of ridiculous, but the plaintiff takes the cake since he's suing for a broken table, a cookie jar without a lid, and a broken cuckoo clock. The best…
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The relationship between gay man and straight women goes a lot deeper than a shared love of cock and ANTM. The brains of gay men and straight women are similar, according to a study published this week in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. Researchers using brain-scanning equipment found similarities in…
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[Los Angeles, CA; December 21. Image via X17.]
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