I've known for many years that I might be susceptible to premature ovarian failure, as my mom ran out of eggs around the age of 32. I'm 30 now and, while I'm not really wild about the idea of having kids in general, I think that if kids *were* a priority for me, a test like this would make me miserable - because it would increase the likelihood that I would have panicked, rushed into a bad relationship just to get knocked up, and possibly be resentful of both child and partner today.
As it is, I've always taken what I view as an appropriately fatalistic view of the whole thing - *if* I find the right partner, *if* we both want kids, *if* I can biologically have them, then, well okay. If any of the factors don't line up and I still want kids, there's adoption (my dad was adopted, so it's not a foreign thing to my family). Even a generation ago, people just accepted that sometimes one's biology is not meant to reproduce itself, and they found other ways to have kids in their lives.
And yes, a "family" can consist of partners and their relatives - no biological kids necessary.
Personally, I'm much more comfortable with the idea that what is supposed to happen will just happen.
Of course, right now it looks like I'm not keen on having babies anyway, I'm in a relationship with a wonderful man who has one child and wants no more, and I've always prioritized a partner relationship over the idea of a parent-child one, so perhaps I don't understand the mindset of someone who wants parenthood above and beyond all else. #fertilitytest
Couldn't they do something similar to this a long time ago? It wasn't the same but before I was born they did some sort of genetic testing and said that when I had children I would most likely have twins. Which was later supported by the fact that when I ovulate, I usually drop multiple eggs. #fertilitytest
If I could freeze my eggs and know that if I didnt want kiddies when the time came Id be able to give em away I would be the happiest XY ever. #fertilitytest
@clevernamehere: Very few people pressure men into have kids before they're ready. Also, there seems to be some weird myth that men can have a healthy child no problem no matter what age they are. #fertilitytest
@femme-bot: Oh, man, there totally is. People ask me when I want to have kids. The answer is "never", but to avoid an argument, I say "Well, now isn't really the time for me. I'm in school, I don't have much money, I'm stressed out, blah blah blah...".
"But what does your boyfriend think? Soon, you'll be too old to have a baby."
...I'm 22. "Uh, he agrees with me."
"Well, the clock's a-ticking!" (I like to insert a LOL here, because if they were typing, I think they would add one instead of punctuation)
My "boyfriend" never gets that. He is also reminded that my "clock" is ticking. THANKS GUYS. #fertilitytest
Regarding the Fail photo: I think she's weighing whether the sperm "wasted" through oral sex will be regretted in the coming years, as his potency diminishes. Maybe they should freeze some now... #fertilitytest
I don't know, this seems like information I would rather not have. I was still confused in my 20s on who I was and who I wanted to be - not a time to be making lifetime decisions because the clock is ticking early. The test doesn't seem like a guarantee that I wouldn't be able to have kids later, or that I would - it just sounds like more pressure where it isn't needed. #fertilitytest
@McBroken: Exactly. If someone would have told me that it would take over a year to get pregnant with babe #1, would I have started earlier? Done something differently? I have no clue, but I definitely couldn't have made that decision at 20ish, before I was married or ready for kids. #fertilitytest
There are so many factors that contribute to infertility. It's just not as cut and dry as this research tries to make it. Sure it would be wonderful if we could just plan "I'd like a girl first, in October of 2012, and then a boy next in January of 2014." But if everything was easily planned I wouldn't have baby #2. #fertilitytest
When will science identify the douchebag gene that makes certain guys freak out at the prospect of raising children after they're born and a propensity toward sequin tiger t-shirts? #fertilitytest
Michael Pollan talked about Julia on NPR's Fresh Air earlier this week. He loved how she actually cooked, unedited, on her shows; waiting for butter to melt, veggies to be chopped et al
Today it is mostly Dump N Stir shows which don't really teach you about one of the most important components of GOOD cooking....patience.
To me, it is the equivalent of comparing an extended sexual session, complete with many orgasms (female) versus a "quickie" - the former being so much more satisfying.
I'd like to think real cooking will make a comeback
Fuck me I love the incredible edible egg. This reminds me of that episode of Nigella on nostalgia cooking where she made eggs with cream in a little custard pot (the french name escapes me but Julia made them there) because that's what Nigella's mother always served sunday evening. I loved the idea of this socialite married to a big deal politician making her children eggs herself for sunday dinner after teh big sunday roast lunch. Stars their just like us they have breakfast for dinners on lazy sundays too.
Can you imagine how dispiriting it must have been to deal with crappy supermarket produce after the farmer's markets of France?
Yes! She talked about this in My Life in France...thank god American food options have improved since then.
@Mary McCarthyite: She did much to change that--people started demanding more foods like fresh herbs and more lettuce types other than iceberg at their grocery stores.
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As it is, I've always taken what I view as an appropriately fatalistic view of the whole thing - *if* I find the right partner, *if* we both want kids, *if* I can biologically have them, then, well okay. If any of the factors don't line up and I still want kids, there's adoption (my dad was adopted, so it's not a foreign thing to my family). Even a generation ago, people just accepted that sometimes one's biology is not meant to reproduce itself, and they found other ways to have kids in their lives.
And yes, a "family" can consist of partners and their relatives - no biological kids necessary.
Personally, I'm much more comfortable with the idea that what is supposed to happen will just happen.
Of course, right now it looks like I'm not keen on having babies anyway, I'm in a relationship with a wonderful man who has one child and wants no more, and I've always prioritized a partner relationship over the idea of a parent-child one, so perhaps I don't understand the mindset of someone who wants parenthood above and beyond all else. #fertilitytest
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"But what does your boyfriend think? Soon, you'll be too old to have a baby."
...I'm 22. "Uh, he agrees with me."
"Well, the clock's a-ticking!" (I like to insert a LOL here, because if they were typing, I think they would add one instead of punctuation)
My "boyfriend" never gets that. He is also reminded that my "clock" is ticking. THANKS GUYS. #fertilitytest
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"A gummy worm!"
No... that's not a gummy worm... #fertilitytest
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"Why do the French only eat one egg? Because it's un oeuf!"
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Today it is mostly Dump N Stir shows which don't really teach you about one of the most important components of GOOD cooking....patience.
To me, it is the equivalent of comparing an extended sexual session, complete with many orgasms (female) versus a "quickie" - the former being so much more satisfying.
I'd like to think real cooking will make a comeback
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Yes! She talked about this in My Life in France...thank god American food options have improved since then.
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