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How Eliot Spitzer's Indiscretions Made His Wife Age Before Our Eyes
Women of a certain age have it hard. They get pushed out of the workforce for younger, "better models." Sometimes their husbands of many decades cheat on them with prostitutes! Which brings us to Silda Wall Spitzer. As the week has worn, the chatter about Eliot Spitzer's accomplished, philanthropic, whip-smart wife — and what she must be feeling, thinking, and planning — has exploded, including commentary by bloggers, internet commenters and Ed Koch (the former mayor of New York), on how the 50-year-old mother of three seemingly aged several years overnight. Curious, we took a look at recent photographs of of the Harvard Law grad and found a marked difference in her face, which can only be described as exhausted and devastated, yet strong*. But that's just us. What do you think? After the jump, a chronological photo gallery of Ms. Spitzer's public appearances through the years. More »
notes on a scandal
Why Did Eliot Spitzer Risk Everything To Pay For Sex?
Yesterday we looked at the Spitzer scandal from the prostitutes' point of view, and now we ask the question: why did Eliot risk everything to bone a hooker in the first place? One possibility, according to the Times of London, is that he's addicted to sex. An anonymous columnist writes in today's paper, "My desire for sex was so overwhelming that I had difficulty breathing." This "John X" says that he was a sex addict because "I wanted to feel nothing; oblivion feels good when you've had a bad day at work, or are hung-over." (It all stemmed from a basic inability to communicate with the opposite sex.) "It's a mistake to associate paid sex with feelings. Better to associate it with a lack of feelings, a big frightening void, an inability to communicate sexually and emotionally with a partner." More »
complicated conversations
Women On Silda Wall: "I'd Have Paraded In Front Of A Microphone With A Knife"
After two days of relentless focus and attention on the now-resigned New York Governor Eliot Spitzer, the news agencies have set their sights on the problem of prostitution, and, of course, on his now-suffering wife, Silda. Her "charmed life slips away," reads an AP headline. "Brainy, beautiful, betrayed," reports CBS News. "Many wonder, 'why does she stay with him?'" writes a reporter for the L.A. Times. (The NY Post's Cindy Adams is all "so what?"). By all accounts, Silda Wall Spitzer was one of those smart, over-achieving women who awe and inspire. She had a strong maternal figure (her mom insisted she list her profession as "home administrator" rather than "housewife", on her college applications), a successful and lucrative law career (she out-earned her husband as a mergers and acquisitions specialist at a top New York firm) and, in addition to raising three daughters, she founded a philanthropic community service organization. And then the news broke about her husband. More »
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Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"
Okay kids, we've got another clip from the Today Show featuring more critique of New York governor Eliot Spitzer's indiscretions. This one features Dina Matos, the aggrieved former first lady from New Jersey whose onetime hubby famously cheated on her with another man. Ms. Matos was thoughtful and sensitive during her interview with Today's Matt Lauer, but we can't say the same for the show itself. First off: What was up with the show's split-screen of footage of Ms. Matos and her ex-husband during his public declaration of infidelity, and that of Governor Spitzer and his wife Silda? (Tasteful blue suits on the women! Red striped ties on the men!) It was creepy and unnecessary. Secondly: What the fuck is Matt Lauer talking about? As explanation as to why Silda Wall Spitzer stood by her man, he said, "Some of these political spouses create their own identity based on their spouse's identity...and perhaps they're worried that if they don't stand by that person at that time they somehow lose their own identity." You sort it out. Clip above.More »
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Yeah, We Know: Dr. Laura Schlessinger Is Full Of Shit
Today Show producers must have been in overdrive yesterday afternoon: The talk/news program was pretty much all Eliot Spitzer this morning, featuring an interview with former New Jersey first lady Dina Matos McGreevey (more on her later) and Dr. Laura Schlessinger, who sent Today Show viewers into fits of fury after she suggested that Eliot Spitzer's wife Silda — and other cheated-on ladies — was somehow responsible for her husband's transgressions. (Choice quote: "These days, women don't spend a lot of time thinking how they can give their men what they need."). Sure, it would be easy to rip Schlessinger a new one but honestly, does anyone really take this woman seriously? She's basically a humorless, post-menopausal Ann Coulter with a physiology degree. And she's been saying this sort of shit about women for a while now. Clip above.
Earlier: Dr. Laura Blames Whiny Women, "Defends" Her Soldier Son
tough questions
Would You Rather Be Cheated On With A Girl Or A Guy?
Obviously, nobody wants the person they're dating to cheat on them. It's shitty to be deceived and lied to. And even though we know that the cheater is to blame, sometimes, we can't help but feel major feelings of inadequacyin our weaker moments. But does the degree of insult and injury vary depending on what sex your BF was sexing? We went to Williamsburg, Brooklyn with Gawker videographer and amateur short-shorts model Alex Goldberg to see what girls in the hipster haven had to say.
women scorned
Just Got Dumped? Maybe It's Time To Scream, Stalk, And Embrace Your Inner Stacy
After hearing about the Herpes Avenger, the Brooklyn woman who plastered the face of an STD-carrying former lover all over her neighborhood and the internets, my first thought was Jesus, what a psycho. But then I read what Moe wrote about her boyfriend and "acting like a typically-female species of psychopath" after a breakup and I thought, huh, maybe the behavior of the herpes harlot is actually semi-justifiable! Because let's be honest. We've all been that girl before. At least I have. I freely admit that I peed on my freshman year boyfriend's porch after he dumped me, and I also might have fucked someone's best friend after he refused to break up with me in person. I polled the other Jezebels, and apparently each one of us has been known to pay a visit psychotown on occasion. More »
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If You Cheat, And Don't Feel Bad About It, Are You A Sociopath?
Cheating on a husband or boyfriend may not exactly be exemplary conduct, but there are certainly worse things one can do, morally speaking. And while we're speaking of morals, what if you don't really have them? Or at least don't apply them to situations like these? Morality is subjective after all. There's an interesting question on the matter in Salon's advice column today. A married woman and a serial cheater writes in that not only does her husband not know about her infidelities, she has absolutely no guilt about it. This led advice columnist Cary Tennis to wonder whether she was a sociopath. (He eventually decided that she probably isn't.) According to a piece on Nerve today comparing how differently Americans and the French view infidelity, it makes sense that an American would think that there might be something fucked up with a person who could cheat and not feel bad about it. But apparently things are different in France:People still wonder why Monica Lewinsky was a big deal — after all, the current president's wife, whom he met when he officiated at her first wedding, spent most of 2005 living in New York with her lover.More »
crap judgment
Why Do Wives Blame The "Other Woman" For Their Husbands' Wandering Weiners?
Today the esteemed British newspaper The Daily Mail ponders that age-old question: When men cheat, why do their wives blame the other woman? I've thought about this a lot, because I've been the "other woman," a fact that brought me a huge amount of soul-wrenching grief for a brief period about four years back that I'd almost completely repressed until she called me up a month ago and reminded me she was still recovering from the aftershocks of my shitty 25-year-old judgment. (Moral: Just say no, repeat as necessary, etc.) I was surprised, however, that she had directed so much anger at me for what was clearly HIS BAD. We were all lapsed Catholics: "adultery" is the mortal sin; "coveting they neighbor's midlife-deranged husband" is merely venal. But I gleaned some insight into the situation when I read a sickening column in last month's Arena by a guy who had never gotten so much O.P. pussy since he tied the knot. The crux of the story was something like, "Women are vile creatures who will do anything to prove to themselves that they are better than other women and what better way to prove that than tantalize a man sufficiently to seduce him into a potentially life-destroying dalliance?" More »
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