You know the story: You move in with someone, start combining your lives. You're not married, but you share expenses, purchase furniture/art, even get pets or have children. You think if it doesn't work out, you can just walk away without the stigma or cost of divorce. Only it is a lot like divorce, and can still be…
What rhymes with "desperate?"
After 18 years of marriage and a couple of years of rumors about issues in their marriage, Melanie Griffith and Antonio Banderas are getting a divorce.
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Musician and writer Dave Bidini was just minding his business in a cafe getting a sandwich, like you do, when he realized he was right next to a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad, very classic break up. So he decided to the Lord's work and share this humanizing tale with the masses.
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I'm offering you this "brake up" note from a little girl named Rachel as a template for you to use in all other future breakups. Because it pretty much nails it.
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You know what it's like. You are totally over and done with your relationship, but for some reason you just can't quite deal with the fact that it's ending. Oh yeah. We've all been there.
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We all know this feel. You've just been dumped/royally screwed over in the worst possible way and you're pretty much ready to give up on living in society altogether. Except luckily you have a small army of awesome roommates who there to give you just what you need to beat the blues—an awesome night of clubbing on the…
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Ever been at a restaurant and witnessed a breakup from one table over? How about a breakup that occurs using a script made entirely of movie titles?
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There are a myriad of well-trod paths away from heartbreak. You can go the Bridget Jones'/Cathy cartoon route and eat single serving Duncan Hines microwaveable cakes alone while listening to London Grammar. You can declare your friends BETTER THAN ANY MAN! over brunch, or have an temporarily esteem-empowering but…
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A woman in the Lefferts Gardens area of Brooklyn has been posting long, rant-y flyers about her ex, colorfully warning other women to stay away from him.
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I feel like I'm the only person on earth who watched every episode of Tori & Dean: Inn Love—which was the 2007 reality show where Tori Spelling and husband Dean McDermott attempted to open a bed and breakfast while Tori was 97 months pregnant with their first child—because every time I reference it and go up top for…
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Not to exaggerate too terribly much, but we are all hyperbolic as fuck now. No, most things hardly qualify as truly "awesome" in spite of rampant use of the word, and checking out someone's Facebook photos, the ones they posted deliberately with the explicit understanding (or hope) that they would be looked at does…
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You have may have noticed that there's something different in the air lately — the crisp scent of fall decay, a little cinnamon spice, and the odd sensation that your significant other suddenly despises the existence of your face. That's right, it's Breakup Season, that tenuous handful of weeks just up to the holidays…
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Axl Rose's ex is auctioning off some of the Guns N' Roses singer's love letters. Take me down to the paradise city where the grass is green and the girls are petty.
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I’m a 28-year-old professional, and my relationship of five years recently ended. The breakup was friendly, mature, heart breaking and complicated. His family was my family. We had shared assets to divvy up, an apartment to set a timeline on moving out of, and long-formed habits to break like talking to each other…
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One silver lining of getting your feelings stomped all over, is that post-heartbreak, people tend to be forgiving if you must cope by acting like a shithead for awhile. And while there are plenty of ways to act like a self-destructive mess in the wake of a traumatic life event — drinking excessively, crying…
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You know how sometimes it seems like your significant other is breathing too loudly and you either need to 1) move to another room, 2) breakup, or 3) Well, those are kinda your only options. Well, unless you're Gillian Jacobs in this new short film.
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Welcome to Friendzone, Jezebel's column devoted to dealing with the valuable people in your life who you're not humping. Got an issue and looking for guidance? Email friendzone@jezebel.com.
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When it comes to getting over a breakup, you can be a paragon of badassery, restraint, high-roadism and all-around transcendence, or you can be a mopey trainwreck who lies around feeling like shit, trudging the slow road to recovery in real time. But like everything in the world now, if it's all too much to handle,…
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