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10/26/09
"I wondered if Carole was jealous of her beautiful daughter - certainly her daring dress suggested she wasn't happy surrendering all the attention to her offspring - but I wouldn't blame her if she was."
Is it really so difficult to imagine that Carole Middleton--lovely at 54--would want to wear a "daring dress" *because she feels beautiful in her own right*? It's one thing for Mehmet to agonize over her own maternal jealousies, but pathologizing other women in the same way seems doubly destructive. #mothers
10/25/09
As a fellow 38-year-old, I can say that if Mehmet hasn't realized this by now, she probably isn't going to. I'm predicting major plastic surgery in her future. . . #mothers
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10/25/09
My niece is 5 years old and she has perfect skin with no wrinkles. Her whole life is ahead of her and here I am washed up at 26 years old.
Sigh. #mothers
10/25/09
I was just thinking the same thing about my unborn child. She's so thin! #mothers
10/25/09
10/25/09
Even then. Ricky Martin was a member of Menudo, yes?
But then, of course, he's a guy. *sigh*
Daily Fail.
With so much else going on in the world, who made the decision that this should bump something like, say, the economy - or our First Lady doing double dutch - off the front page? #mothers
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But of course that doesn't change how much it sucks for her daughter. I'm wondering how much her mother lets the competitive crap get in the way of their relationship. Envy is so poisonous. #mothers
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I feel bad for the mom. I mean she got pregnant young, at 21. That's a lot of fun and partying, and just learning about yourself and what you want out of life to give up. I'd probably be jealous of my kid too if I felt they got to live the "fun, young, single life" that I never did. #mothers
10/25/09
I'm lucky. My mother is not like this and never has been. She has always been generous with her love, never jealous or competitive with it, and she's a wonderful, kind, spirited, beautiful woman who just turned 60.
Many of my friends are not so lucky, and I always felt bad growing up when I'd hear stories about mothers taking out that insecurity on their growing daughters. Girls have a tough enough time as it is, we all need to be kinder to ourselves and each other. #mothers
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10/25/09
Only diff, as Norman Mailer pointed out, is that a father and son are more likely to compete for the same women.
Which kind of points back to the mom's envy--she sees her daughter as being more "covetable" by a larger group of men, across a span of years, while she feels less men want her as she ages, and that matters to her.
But then, how many men does a woman need? (some would be quick to say: NONE. rimshot!) Unless she's going for some kind of Mae West marathon, she'd probably do okay with one good one, right? #mothers
10/25/09
10/25/09
I am over 30! I know of which I speak! I'm polishing my poison apples RIGHT NOW.
Although, really, a guy probably just wouldn't write a piece like this. He'd write a novel about his fear of aging instead and be hailed as a genius instead of a vindictive, shallow shrew.
Oh wait, I *am* bitter. :) #mothers
10/25/09
When will people give up on the idea of looking like they did when they were 18? Why not focus on being a beautiful what-ever-the-age-you-are? And why not define what beautiful means for yourself? #mothers
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10/26/09
'Look everyone! Look how young and pretty she is!'
*tries to keep last meal down* #mothers