Since awesome just means cool nowadays and not awe-inspiring, then real awe may be a bit like porn at this point—hard to define, but we know it when we see it. Yet, unlike copious porn exposure, researchers say that the more you experience genuine wonder, the better you will behave toward your fellow person as a… »
We’re less than a month out from official summer, which wafts into our lives on June 21—and it’s never a bad idea to come up with an action plan. You’re a grown woman; do some stuff. And if you need help getting started, do what I do and look to a famous person. This year, it’s Lena Dunham, who recently posted a… »
Is it better to be feared than loved? Do nice guys ever finish first? Are jerks really on to something? And if they are, isn’t it really our fault if they get ahead? What is wrong with us, anyway, that we would let that happen? These questions and more now have answers that you can take directly up the corporate… »
It comes up eventually in every long-ish dating scenario: A back-and-forth exchange of not just bodily fluids, but sexual histories—maybe by vague reference to exes or past singlehood, maybe by a specific tally. But research shows most people don’t know want to your actual number, and amen to that. »
Have you ever been rejected by a god among men, so you just surveyed the scene and grabbed the next average dude in sight? No? Me either. Luckily, almighty science has finally gotten around to debunking this popular “rebound” wet dream of regular dudes everywhere that I’m pretty sure was never real in the first place,… »
Relationships require work, no matter how great the distractions out there, and sometimes the distractions are pretty great, like any site where you can make your own avatar. But know this: If your phone is destroying your relationship, the only person you have to blame is yourself.
Men and women, we all know, are just horny star-crossed lovers, hailing from sex planets that are far, far away. And a new study says men are from Planet Six In The Morning and women are from Planet I Guess I’ll Let You Stick It In Me Late at Night. Did you know this? Did they get your planet right? »
Who among us has never had doubts about a relationship? Who among us has not also wrestled with which doubts to take seriously, and which to sideline? What if someone told you that, despite your doubts, a relationship ought to be sturdily defensible—that you ought to be able to defend it in a court of law?
Some lady things take a lot of regular effort with nothing to show for it aside from looking “normal,” and those lady things are the bane of a lady existence: shaving, plucking, waxing, moisturizing. Other lady things pay off visually, and are thus much more fun to play around with: accessorizing, doing makeup, or… »
Each of us has a narrative we’re peddling about ourselves, an image we think we present to the world: he’s gracious and funny; she’s tough but fair. But does this story line up with how other people see us? According to a psychologist who’s just written a book about the mechanics of being misunderstood, the answer… »
Meeting the parents of your betrothed can be a nerve-wracking experience. But most men in this situation usually don’t have to confront the uneasy knowledge that they’ve had sex with their fiancée's father. One man, however, is experiencing that exact crisis. »
Date, fall in love, or otherwise put yourself out there in this crazy world for long enough, and you will eventually develop some kind of narrative about your romantic behavior: You’re a serial monogamist. A manic pixie dream girl. A ungettable man-eater. An expert on the emotionally unavailable. But what happens when… »
During what can only be described as a hellaciously stressful past six months, my skin rebelled: the flawless visage I had at 16 became overrun by blemishes — a mutant strain that continued to multiply no matter what over-the-counter washes and drying treatments I used. Coupled with extreme sensitivity, the war I was… »
Encouraging high schoolers isn’t the easiest job in the world. But, rule of thumb, papering the school with lists of what “Black and Latina Girls Should Know” and including things like “wearing too much makeup looks like a clown” likely won’t go over so well.
There is a very of-the-moment essay over at Matter that’s incredibly persuasive and enjoyable, called “Against Chill.” In it, Alana Massey cold-cocks the concept, stripping this clamored-for laid-back state of its glassy-eyed pose and exposing it for the zombified, emotionally bankrupt act it often is. But as much as… »
It can’t be overstated that reproductive control is essential to reproductive freedom for women. But decades of such freedom have also given us the luxury of a next-level set of worries: What is birth control really doing to my body, and what will happen if I stop taking it? The answer is: mostly good things; maybe… »