Google Exec: Women, Stop Saying 'Just' So Much, You Sound Like Children

Just when you finally got a handle on saying “sorry” so much, turns out there’s another detrimental phrase in your lexicon keeping you from being taken seriously as a woman: “Just.” As in, “Just checking in,” and “Just following up,” and “Just wondering if you’d decided.” A former Google exec says this “permission”… » 7/02/15 3:50pm Today 3:50pm

Why Don't Rich People Talk to Their Children About Money?

Nearly everyone agrees that children need to learn the value of a dollar, but how many parents are willing to tell their children the exact dollar figure of their own income? Turns out, not that many—and the more affluent the parent, the less likely they are to disclose their income to their offspring. The reasons for… » 6/29/15 2:45pm Monday 2:45pm

Having More Sex Doesn't Necessarily Make Your Relationship Better

There’s a popular perception that your relationship’s health can be measured by the frequency of your lovemaking. So it only follows that if you wanted to fine-tune your rapport, adding more sex ought to tip the scales toward greater satisfaction, right? Wrong—according to a new study that suggests that doing it more… » 6/27/15 1:30pm Saturday 1:30pm

Anatomy of the Perfect Harmless Adult Crush

Recently, some of my friends have been lamenting the lack of good crushes in their orbit as of late. All in their thirties, the majority married, they found themselves longing for old crushes who’d faded from their social circles or workplaces, taking their crushability with them. Which got us thinking: What makes for… » 6/26/15 1:30pm 6/26/15 1:30pm

Your Nightmare Boss Could Be Making You Sick

No one needs to tell you that having a mean boss sucks, but studies examining the impact of uncivil workplaces on your stress levels and immune system are a decent reminder of what it really means for you when there’s a dick in charge. A few possibilities: Ulcers, cardiovascular problems, diabetes, and cancer, all of… » 6/24/15 11:50am 6/24/15 11:50am

Male Therapist Wishes This One Female Patient Were More Fuckable

David J. Hellerstein is a self-described “straight male” and professor of clinical psych at Columbia University. In a recent opinion piece for the therapy-centric “Couch” series at the New York Times, he laments failing his patient, Greta, whose dowdiness prevented her from finding real love. Or that’s his theory,… » 6/19/15 1:30pm 6/19/15 1:30pm

How to Get Shitfaced This Summer (But Not Too Shitfaced)

It’s summer. You’re going to some festivals. You’ll be outside, at bars with patios, drinking. If you’re most people, no one ever told you how to drink well or right. Hey, no one told us. More often, people told us not to drink—ever—because it’s bad. But preaching booze abstinence works about as well as sex… » 6/17/15 2:50pm 6/17/15 2:50pm

If You Want to Get Laid, Stop Texting 'Hey' and Make Some Goddamn Plans

In order to physically get with a person, it helps to meet in person, OK? This is not rocket sex science, it is a fact. So if you have met someone you like, do this one simple trick: Try texting them and asking them to hang out with you at a specific place on a specific day at a specific time. Come on guys, you got… » 6/15/15 12:10pm 6/15/15 12:10pm

Is It OK to Have Sex When You’re a Guest at a Friend's Place?

A lot of things need to conspire all at once to find yourself staring down this particular etiquette question, but for most of us it will happen at least once, if not plenty: You will be staying at a friend’s place with a boyfriend, girlfriend or partner—or meet someone new on the town whilst returning home to a… » 6/12/15 3:10pm 6/12/15 3:10pm

The Backlash Against KonMari and De-Cluttering Is Stupid

You have too much stuff. A lot of it is dumb. You’re being lazy about it. Hey, if you don’t want to get rid of it, pile it higher, crowd it in, live your monster life. But if you do de-clutter, it’s probably a good thing. Can we just agree on that? Because this is a fact: De-cluttering is an unassailably good idea.
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Some Women Actually Don’t Want You to Give Them Flowers, OK?

I know it’s hard for some factions of the universe to accept, but not all women are into jewelry. Not all women cream themselves over the very mention of chocolate, either. And some women wouldn’t even know what to do if their intended showed up on their doorstep clutching a $4.99 bouquet from Trader Joe’s, ostensibly… » 5/31/15 12:45pm 5/31/15 12:45pm

Pictures of Children in Bathing Suits Are Not 'Sexy,' You are Gross

My sweet 5-year-old likes to run around naked wearing only a belt, which she ties so that it has a long piece dangling out in front, a piece which she calls her fake penis. She grabs it and shakes it and goes, “fake penis fake penis!” It’s a real gas. I’ve taken a picture of her doing this. I wouldn’t post it on the… » 5/30/15 3:45pm 5/30/15 3:45pm

High on Wonder: People Who Experience More Awe Are Nicer, Better People

Since awesome just means cool nowadays and not awe-inspiring, then real awe may be a bit like porn at this point—hard to define, but we know it when we see it. Yet, unlike copious porn exposure, researchers say that the more you experience genuine wonder, the better you will behave toward your fellow person as a… » 5/28/15 3:30pm 5/28/15 3:30pm

Grow Your Pit Hair Like Lena: Realistic Goals For an Actually Fun Summer

We’re less than a month out from official summer, which wafts into our lives on June 21—and it’s never a bad idea to come up with an action plan. You’re a grown woman; do some stuff. And if you need help getting started, do what I do and look to a famous person. This year, it’s Lena Dunham, who recently posted a… » 5/27/15 1:50pm 5/27/15 1:50pm

Does Your Partner Know How Many People You’ve Slept With? No? Good.

It comes up eventually in every long-ish dating scenario: A back-and-forth exchange of not just bodily fluids, but sexual histories—maybe by vague reference to exes or past singlehood, maybe by a specific tally. But research shows most people don’t know want to your actual number, and amen to that. » 5/19/15 12:10pm 5/19/15 12:10pm

Why Hitting on a Freshly Rejected Woman Doesn't Work

Have you ever been rejected by a god among men, so you just surveyed the scene and grabbed the next average dude in sight? No? Me either. Luckily, almighty science has finally gotten around to debunking this popular “rebound” wet dream of regular dudes everywhere that I’m pretty sure was never real in the first place,… » 5/16/15 4:00pm 5/16/15 4:00pm