High on Wonder: People Who Experience More Awe Are Nicer, Better People

Since awesome just means cool nowadays and not awe-inspiring, then real awe may be a bit like porn at this point—hard to define, but we know it when we see it. Yet, unlike copious porn exposure, researchers say that the more you experience genuine wonder, the better you will behave toward your fellow person as a… » 5/28/15 3:30pm Today 3:30pm

Grow Your Pit Hair Like Lena: Realistic Goals For an Actually Fun Summer

We’re less than a month out from official summer, which wafts into our lives on June 21—and it’s never a bad idea to come up with an action plan. You’re a grown woman; do some stuff. And if you need help getting started, do what I do and look to a famous person. This year, it’s Lena Dunham, who recently posted a… » 5/27/15 1:50pm Yesterday 1:50pm

Does Your Partner Know How Many People You’ve Slept With? No? Good.

It comes up eventually in every long-ish dating scenario: A back-and-forth exchange of not just bodily fluids, but sexual histories—maybe by vague reference to exes or past singlehood, maybe by a specific tally. But research shows most people don’t know want to your actual number, and amen to that. » 5/19/15 12:10pm 5/19/15 12:10pm

Why Hitting on a Freshly Rejected Woman Doesn't Work

Have you ever been rejected by a god among men, so you just surveyed the scene and grabbed the next average dude in sight? No? Me either. Luckily, almighty science has finally gotten around to debunking this popular “rebound” wet dream of regular dudes everywhere that I’m pretty sure was never real in the first place,… » 5/16/15 4:00pm 5/16/15 4:00pm

What Does It Mean to Be Able to Defend Your Relationship?

Who among us has never had doubts about a relationship? Who among us has not also wrestled with which doubts to take seriously, and which to sideline? What if someone told you that, despite your doubts, a relationship ought to be sturdily defensible—that you ought to be able to defend it in a court of law?
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Heels and Winged Eyeliner: What Fun Lady Things Are You Bad At? 

Some lady things take a lot of regular effort with nothing to show for it aside from looking “normal,” and those lady things are the bane of a lady existence: shaving, plucking, waxing, moisturizing. Other lady things pay off visually, and are thus much more fun to play around with: accessorizing, doing makeup, or… » 4/27/15 4:30pm 4/27/15 4:30pm

How to Get Others to See You the Way You See Yourself

Each of us has a narrative we’re peddling about ourselves, an image we think we present to the world: he’s gracious and funny; she’s tough but fair. But does this story line up with how other people see us? According to a psychologist who’s just written a book about the mechanics of being misunderstood, the answer… » 4/24/15 4:30pm 4/24/15 4:30pm

Why Getting Painfully Rejected in Love Is Awesome and Good For You 

Date, fall in love, or otherwise put yourself out there in this crazy world for long enough, and you will eventually develop some kind of narrative about your romantic behavior: You’re a serial monogamist. A manic pixie dream girl. A ungettable man-eater. An expert on the emotionally unavailable. But what happens when… » 4/12/15 4:15pm 4/12/15 4:15pm

It Puts the ??? On Its Skin: Breaking Through My Breakouts

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During what can only be described as a hellaciously stressful past six months, my skin rebelled: the flawless visage I had at 16 became overrun by blemishes — a mutant strain that continued to multiply no matter what over-the-counter washes and drying treatments I used. Coupled with extreme sensitivity, the war I was… » 4/09/15 7:50pm 4/09/15 7:50pm

Going Off Hormonal Birth Control Can Be a Real Bitch—or Not

It can’t be overstated that reproductive control is essential to reproductive freedom for women. But decades of such freedom have also given us the luxury of a next-level set of worries: What is birth control really doing to my body, and what will happen if I stop taking it? The answer is: mostly good things; maybe… » 4/06/15 4:50pm 4/06/15 4:50pm