Planning a Wedding? Save Time and Sanity With the CTFD MethodTracy Moore 9/03/13 12:05pmFiled to: weddingsgargoylesetiquettetrollsCTFDadvice5193EditPromoteShare to KinjaToggle Conversation toolsGo to permalinkAre you a person who is either getting married or who has ever gotten married via a ritual we call a wedding? Then I have a suggestion for how you might go about it that covers thinking about your wedding, planning it, participating in it, asking others to participate in it, or reflecting on it for the duration of your entire life: Calm the Fuck Down. Sound familiar? You may have heard of this method as applied to parenting, courtesy of David Vienna, who argues that the single most effective form of parenting involves 1) not abusing your children and 2) not getting all worked up about every little thing.