The word bossy is not a bad word as words go. It can even be kinda great. It's when someone is aggressive to get shit done. Anyone can be bossy — go ahead and tell me you've never met a bossy guy without a title in sight. But you don't need a study to tell you this is a word usually reserved for women who give orders, who are more likely to be perceived as out of line or unfeminine when they demand anything. See bossy's bitchy sister, "nag." But there's only one problem with this word: The people who use it incorrectly.
That's right: The problem with bossy is that some people are full of gender bias and uncomfortable with women in leadership roles, and they are dino-fucking-saurs, these people who use it only for women when it should be applied to men and women! Let's ban them instead.
I'm kidding. Well, only sorta. But consider this: "Ban Bossy" is a campaign led by a trio of mad-powerful bosses who very well may have been bossy as children, and that is a good thing: Lean In/Facebook exec/billionaire Sheryl Sandberg, noted formidable political powerhouse Condoleezza Rice (so powerful she has TWO Z's IN HER NAME) and Girl Scouts CEO Anna Maria Chávez. These ladies are a thousand percent correct and smarter than everyone when they say that, yes, there's a reason it's harder for women to climb to the top, and that reason is loads of hot bias, and the result is that women are only five percent of CEOs of Fortune 500's, and that hasn't changed in a decade, and it needs to, pronto. And yes, this is a lifelong problem for women, being told they don't belong at the top with all the $$. From Lindy's first report on the campaign: