I cry because I have had too much to drink and accidentally start thinking about the purposelessness of existence. Or, you know, because some things are sad.
My boyfriend cries because of cute old people. Or positive race relations. Or puppies. And sometimes because I occasionally suck. But mostly old people.
My ex-boyfriend cries all of the time, at everything, because he is insane.
I guess my point is, there's a lot of nuance here, gender being the least of it.
@MizJenkins: I don't know about the UK, but a friend of mine who lives in Norway got her HPV shot at school, along with all of her other vaccinations, although I don't think that the hpv one was manditory.
@MizJenkins: When everybody receives health care through the government, they don't have to pay for vaccines. And when you don't have as many people who think everything encourages teenage sex, you can have decent policy.
No joke. One of my closest guy friends told me that when his ex-girlfriend said she randomly cried in the shower once, he was really confused. He said he had no idea that people could cry over anything but physical pain. He was like, "wait, you hurt yourself in the shower?" This blew my mind.
@The Queen of No: Ask him if he cried when he watched "Old Yeller". Every guy I know (including me) that has seen that movie cried at the end. I also cried at the end of "The Color Purple" but that might have been the booze.
@token_illiterate_commenter: My dad cried during My Girl. So did I. I've seen him cry a number of times (that did not involve physical pain) but I have not seen my boyf cry in the ten years I've known him.
@Lymed: Have him watch Marley and Me. I've never seen my husband cry harder. They drag out that dog's death for at least a half an hour.
Btw, that is not a spoiler, but an obvious logical conclusion to the end of that movie. I worry about anyone watching that movie who doesn't know it's coming.
@The Queen of No: I cry all the time, for all sorts of reasons, mainly sad commercials (the Dawn soap commercial w/ the baby animals, I'm looking @ you) but my boyfriend, he cries. He cried during "UP" yes, yes he did.
They don't know if the death is related to the vaccination, just that she got the shot before she died! They could be two COMPLETELY unrelated events, but try explaining that to the idiots who are too high on adrenaline and conspiracy theories to listen to reason.
@FrannyR: they could be unrelated, or there could be something wrong with that batch of vaccine, which is why they're not distributing it. I don't think it's that rash of a reaction.
@schweppes: It's not that rash of a reaction, but it is also important to know that she had an underlying condition that NHS believes was the cause of her death.
@cand86: I'm not much of a crier, either. I can go a year without crying. Sometimes I get tears in my eyes, but I almost never actually cry. It makes me wonder.
I wonder if the men who kill themselves after their wives die would tend to have married younger, older, or no difference. I think the kind of man who would marry very young (in their 20s for example) probably has a harder time being alone than one who has lived on his own before and been single.
I actually tend to worry about my fiance, because we're in our 20s and he doesn't strike me as the type who can handle being all by himself with nobody to make sure he's okay.
Ugh, every time I hear something about the HPV vaccine I regret more and more that my mom had me get it. If I had known better I would have refused it. Who knows what long term effects it could have. :'(
@SonicNapoleonic: Only 0.33% of people who receive the vaccine report an adverse reaction. Some of the reported reactions are innocuous, like headaches or nausea. It appears that the girl who died had a serious underlying medical condition and that the vaccine was not the cause. You shouldn't worry.
@SonicNapoleonic: I completely applaud you for wanting to take your health care into your own hands. I'm a health educator and empowered patients are the best! However, the HPV vaccine is a really valuable tool for protecting yourself against cervical cancer and warts. I went from a completely clean PAP smear to having stage 2 cervical cancer in 7 months and would have been spared alot of money, pain, and long term side effects (including pregnancy complications) if my Mom would have made me get the vaccine if it had been available when I was younger.
Oh, man, I LOVE to cry sometimes. In public, not so much; but at home, on my couch, with a sad movie? Ohhhh yes. Voluntary crying is like a fresh spring rain for your body. It just washes the day away.
There was a This American Life a few years ago about a female-to-male transgender who said that one of the effects he'd noticed after taking large amounts of testosterone is that it was really difficult to cry, and he found it terribly frustrating. That must feel awful-- wanting to cry and not being able to? Yeesh.
@mbot says Spock yeah!: Totally agree about the crying. Whenever Stepmom is on, I've been known to put it on and tell people that I'm busy crying if they try to talk to me while the tears pour down my face.
"I'm worried that all she'll be thinking is, 'God, I wish my mom could have been here to see this.' "
"And I'm worried that she won't. But the truth is, she doesn't have to choose. She can have us both."
@mbot says Spock yeah!: I like to cry sometimes too. After a particularly stressful week, I just want to watch Moonstruck, listen to Fiona Apple, and CRY. I think it's cathartic. I definitely know what I'm going to do this weekend after my exams are done and papers are turned in...
There's so much more to the photographs than the image editing! There's makeup, lighting, and people to take care of every detail. Taking away the digital manipluation will not affect the total problem- I'd like to see the credits for everyone who worked on the photograph to be listed. You know, to show it's more than one person.
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Back in my day we all just went to Glamor Shots! 5lbs of foundation, a ruffle of sparky fabric and Aqua Net = Photoshop. It didn't matter if you were 13 and went with your hip grandma for bonding. You both emerged looking 42 years old.
I remember seeing those Glamor Shots photos we all passed out like a puzzle- it was hard to tell who was under all that glitz and soft-light sometimes. But before we freak out too much about young girls and women being tricked, let's try to remember that back in the day even we knew how much could be done with light and make-up. I'm not saying the images aren't damaging, but that we need to acknowledge that being "real" is not just an issue about Photoshop.
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My boyfriend cries because of cute old people. Or positive race relations. Or puppies. And sometimes because I occasionally suck. But mostly old people.
My ex-boyfriend cries all of the time, at everything, because he is insane.
I guess my point is, there's a lot of nuance here, gender being the least of it.
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Btw, that is not a spoiler, but an obvious logical conclusion to the end of that movie. I worry about anyone watching that movie who doesn't know it's coming.
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I actually tend to worry about my fiance, because we're in our 20s and he doesn't strike me as the type who can handle being all by himself with nobody to make sure he's okay.
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There was a This American Life a few years ago about a female-to-male transgender who said that one of the effects he'd noticed after taking large amounts of testosterone is that it was really difficult to cry, and he found it terribly frustrating. That must feel awful-- wanting to cry and not being able to? Yeesh.
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"I'm worried that all she'll be thinking is, 'God, I wish my mom could have been here to see this.' "
"And I'm worried that she won't. But the truth is, she doesn't have to choose. She can have us both."
Excuse me, I think I have something in my eye...
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I remember seeing those Glamor Shots photos we all passed out like a puzzle- it was hard to tell who was under all that glitz and soft-light sometimes. But before we freak out too much about young girls and women being tricked, let's try to remember that back in the day even we knew how much could be done with light and make-up. I'm not saying the images aren't damaging, but that we need to acknowledge that being "real" is not just an issue about Photoshop.