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11/19/09
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Well, supposedly, anyway. I mean it all could have been done for publicity, I guess.
11/19/09
The guy does stupid amateur horror/sexploitation films. Exploitative, sure. Porn, it is not. Disgusting? Certainly. Porn? Nope.
C'mon, peeps.
11/19/09
This article is about the pornification of inadvertently famous women. I think it makes a good point about the media's sexual objectification of women, but it doesn't exactly apply in the case of the Jaycee film. While I can only speculate on what the film will be, Shane Ryan has not made porn films in the past. It doesn't appear that he is going to all of a sudden start making porn films now. His work isn't like "Nailin Paylin", where a famous woman is replaced with a big-boobed porn star lookalike and put into ridiculous sexual situations. Granted, if it was, it would still be entirely inappropriate. But a look a Ryan's previous films shows that he makes sexually violent exploitation films. Though that doesn't fit as neatly into the thesis of this article, I think it's even more upsetting. Here is a man who has made a career off of portrayals of extreme sexual violence, announcing that he is planning a film based on the story of a rape survivor. It's one thing to make violent films (I personally love horror films, though this brand of exploitation film is definitely not my style). But to take someone's personal story and most likely turn it into an exploitation piece (as that is his M.O.) does strike me as "breathtakingly unkind," to quote the Dugard family.
(I don't want to link to Mr. Ryan's work, but a quick search will show you that many of his movie trailers are available on YouTube.)
11/12/09
While it sucks for people who use Youtube and whatnot in lieu of putting on a CD, you gotta admit that he seriously knows what he's doing when it comes to nixing the piracy of his work. #porn
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I'm glad you said something about this, Latoya. I've noticed that autotune has been way overused in recently made professionally produced fuckfests. And I really think that it detracts from the quality of the product, and the spirit of pornography. #porn
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Neither seem like they'd come close to oral sex for me, but you've got to give 'em props for creativity. #porn
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11/02/09
To use an example from Jez itself, I'll wager that at least one couple had mind-blowing sex after watching Tracie's Pot Psychology tutorial on how to incorporate a vibrator into their intercourse. A lot of things aren't intuitively obvious in bed. Talking to your partner helps, but how, for example, is a woman who's never had cunnilingus performed on her supposed to know what she likes? It's not something she can do to herself. Having an educated partner would be a great help to her. #sex
11/02/09
Heartily hearted. #sex
11/02/09
I understood this as saying, not that you shouldn't develop Good Sex Skills, but that not everybody's idea of Good Sex is SEXXX. I understood this as sort of saying that being a porn star is not the only way to have good sex. #sex
11/02/09
You definitely can learn to be good at sex. I can tell when someone has put effort into being good at sex, and it makes a mindblowing-ly huge difference. Pun intended.
However, learning, in the sense I mean people should learn sex, has nothing to do with learning moves (although a few help), and everything to do with learning how to please your partner. And this is how I think people go wrong when they think they can learn sex from porn.
From my experience, the people that have been best in bed know how to read their partners. Noise is one way, but that can be problematic because many guys don't make noise and girls can fake. However, you can notice things like toes curling, muscles tensing, back arching....
If you change up what you do every so often and then watch the way your partner responds, you can learn what they like and keep doing it.
Best tip for any guy though, is get the girl off either manually or orally before actual sex starts. Getting past the first orgasm is the hardest part, and it makes coming during sex that much easier if you're already primed. #sex
11/02/09
Thumbs up to everything that preceded that, tho! Sex is like a website: it can only function well with feedback. Your point about guys being too quiet reminded me of article no. 5 in one of my favorite Craigslist posts ever:
[www.craigslist.org]
"It's OK for you to make noise. Otherwise, we feel like we are fucking a ninja." #sex
11/02/09
And I'm TOTALLY going to use that quote somewhere! Amazing! #sex
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Really? This is shocking to me. If you're comfortable enough to get naked and let them see you from every which angle, why wouldn't you be comfortable enough to talk about how you like to have sex? They are both really intimate things to do, yes . . . I just don't see how gratifying sex can happen unless you talk about likes and dislikes at least once. #sex
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Now that I've slept with a few other people, I think "good at sex" is a misnomer, and really just means you are sexually compatible. I can't orgasm through intercourse, so for me, a sexually compatible partner would be someone who enjoys going downtown. My sister, on the other hand, hates that and all foreplay. Nothing about sex is universal. What we like in bed is based our bodies, experiences, associations, personalities...etc. #sex
11/02/09
It'll never happen the way it happens on the screen, and you'll probably hurt yourself VERY badly (and maybe permanently) if you try. #sex