I can understand the outrage over the Jaycee Dugard "inspired" film (I'd like to let Seth and Amy have a REALLY!? with that one...) but offering a woman who has modeled lingerie and sexy costumes a porn career doesn't seem like a huge leap to me. Yes, not all models of such clothing want to go into porn, but when you have revealing pictures and a sex type already circulating? I can't work up any ire.
@Le Kangourou de Kataroo: I agree to an extent. The place where I pause is that Prejean's sex tape wasn't made for a mass audience. It was taken public without her permission.
Well, supposedly, anyway. I mean it all could have been done for publicity, I guess.
Um, once again, WHY is everybody calling Shane Ryan a pornographer or adult filmmaker? Gah, it's killing me- one article uses that term towards him, and everybody does without checking the facts . . .
The guy does stupid amateur horror/sexploitation films. Exploitative, sure. Porn, it is not. Disgusting? Certainly. Porn? Nope.
@cand86: I think this is a really important distinction - though possibly a reason why the idea of him making a Jaycee Dugard film is MORE disturbing.
This article is about the pornification of inadvertently famous women. I think it makes a good point about the media's sexual objectification of women, but it doesn't exactly apply in the case of the Jaycee film. While I can only speculate on what the film will be, Shane Ryan has not made porn films in the past. It doesn't appear that he is going to all of a sudden start making porn films now. His work isn't like "Nailin Paylin", where a famous woman is replaced with a big-boobed porn star lookalike and put into ridiculous sexual situations. Granted, if it was, it would still be entirely inappropriate. But a look a Ryan's previous films shows that he makes sexually violent exploitation films. Though that doesn't fit as neatly into the thesis of this article, I think it's even more upsetting. Here is a man who has made a career off of portrayals of extreme sexual violence, announcing that he is planning a film based on the story of a rape survivor. It's one thing to make violent films (I personally love horror films, though this brand of exploitation film is definitely not my style). But to take someone's personal story and most likely turn it into an exploitation piece (as that is his M.O.) does strike me as "breathtakingly unkind," to quote the Dugard family.
(I don't want to link to Mr. Ryan's work, but a quick search will show you that many of his movie trailers are available on YouTube.)
Seriously on the Prince thing. I once wanted to listen to "When Doves Cry" and could find NOTHING. Me, queen of finding nearly anything online- could not locate anything of his on the Interwebs.
While it sucks for people who use Youtube and whatnot in lieu of putting on a CD, you gotta admit that he seriously knows what he's doing when it comes to nixing the piracy of his work. #porn
I adore Current and Vanguard in particular, but I skipped this episode because I've seen various incarnations of the subject a zillion times. I get it. Pr0n. People are into it. OKAY. #porn
Interestingly, the porn industry is in the same boat as the music industry
I'm glad you said something about this, Latoya. I've noticed that autotune has been way overused in recently made professionally produced fuckfests. And I really think that it detracts from the quality of the product, and the spirit of pornography. #porn
@morninggloria: Please. Porn today is so manufactured and corporate. That's why I only watch indie porn stars. Otherwise known as my neighbors who don't draw their curtains before getting it on. #porn
@Justine: Licks your clit, of course! I'm too lazy to look it up, but there's a couple of videos on Behindkink.com where they show Tomcat talking about the chainsaw and him and Peter Acworth demonstrating its use while clothed. And LoveHoney just released "Sqweel", a smaller, compact toy with the same principle of "tongues" rotating and "licking" you.
Neither seem like they'd come close to oral sex for me, but you've got to give 'em props for creativity. #porn
Whatever Kink.com is doing to prevent pirating they're doing a great job. Their shit is awesome but really expensive. And the best you can get from free sites is the previews for scenes they themselves put on their own site. #porn
@Snowbunny: I've found some of their videos in their entirety before, but the sound and the video were not synched up, which threw off my enjoyment. #porn
@Snowbunny: I had a membership, and then when I decided to call it off to save some money, they knocked ten bucks off my monthly fee. Argh, those brilliant money-grubbing smut-peddlers! How did they know?! #porn
@Snowbunny: Seriously. I once found a complete Bound Gods video (Dante + Nick!) on Empflix, watched it, was hooked. By the time I had finished watching it and went to watch it again, it had been removed, but I was so impressed with their work that I went ahead and bought a subscription to the site (that went on for about half a year, until it finally drained all my porno funds). #porn
I disagree with the gist of this piece. Wanting to be a good lover is akin to wanting to be a good cook--I want to eat well, and I want the people I love to eat well. Reading or viewing new techniques expands your ability to generate pleasure for both yourself and those at your table, if you know what I mean and I think you do.
To use an example from Jez itself, I'll wager that at least one couple had mind-blowing sex after watching Tracie's Pot Psychology tutorial on how to incorporate a vibrator into their intercourse. A lot of things aren't intuitively obvious in bed. Talking to your partner helps, but how, for example, is a woman who's never had cunnilingus performed on her supposed to know what she likes? It's not something she can do to herself. Having an educated partner would be a great help to her. #sex
@cirocco: I think you're misunderstanding (what I got to be) the point.
I understood this as saying, not that you shouldn't develop Good Sex Skills, but that not everybody's idea of Good Sex is SEXXX. I understood this as sort of saying that being a porn star is not the only way to have good sex. #sex
You definitely can learn to be good at sex. I can tell when someone has put effort into being good at sex, and it makes a mindblowing-ly huge difference. Pun intended.
However, learning, in the sense I mean people should learn sex, has nothing to do with learning moves (although a few help), and everything to do with learning how to please your partner. And this is how I think people go wrong when they think they can learn sex from porn.
From my experience, the people that have been best in bed know how to read their partners. Noise is one way, but that can be problematic because many guys don't make noise and girls can fake. However, you can notice things like toes curling, muscles tensing, back arching....
If you change up what you do every so often and then watch the way your partner responds, you can learn what they like and keep doing it.
Best tip for any guy though, is get the girl off either manually or orally before actual sex starts. Getting past the first orgasm is the hardest part, and it makes coming during sex that much easier if you're already primed. #sex
@Ariadne27: Vis-a-vis your last paragraph, that's yet another of those things that's different strokes for different folks. I know some women who are "masculine" that way--they build up to one big climax, and they lose interest in sex afterward, preferring to rummage in the fridge. With them, the trick is to tease them up to the edge repeatedly without going over it.
Thumbs up to everything that preceded that, tho! Sex is like a website: it can only function well with feedback. Your point about guys being too quiet reminded me of article no. 5 in one of my favorite Craigslist posts ever:
@cirocco: Good point! There I go talking about variety and I forget that everyone isn't like me. The key is learning how to learn your partner, if that makes sense.
And I'm TOTALLY going to use that quote somewhere! Amazing! #sex
i'm a professional sex educator/sex advice giver and 98% of the stuff i get asked is people doing everything in their power to avoid having to just f'ing say to their partner: 'what would you like me to do (to you)?' sex books, sex advice, sex shows, sex coaching, whatever, makes us money because people are terrified of having to have those conversations. they hope that they'll just be 'good' without having to ask. in 98% of the answers, i say "ask your partner FOR THE LOVE OF GOD." #sex
"I have nothing but admiration for anyone who's ever had the guts to simply come out and ask a lover what works and what doesn't."
Really? This is shocking to me. If you're comfortable enough to get naked and let them see you from every which angle, why wouldn't you be comfortable enough to talk about how you like to have sex? They are both really intimate things to do, yes . . . I just don't see how gratifying sex can happen unless you talk about likes and dislikes at least once. #sex
@redparchment: Well, that's the problem... a lot of women don't have gratifying sex because they're conditioned not to speak up for what they want and afraid of hurting men's feelings by telling them they're not pleasing them. The other side of this is that women also learn from porn/porn culture, which often amounts to lots of moaning and very little actual pleasure. With my current boyfriend, I was able to demand what I wanted, but mostly because I was so fed up from years of mostly lackluster experiences. It's not as easy as it sounds for most people, especially in a society that socializes women the way it does in all ways, and socializes everyone the way it does in regards to female sexuality.
I recently broke up with my first- and after four years we had the sex thing down perfectly. One thing we had going for us was how long it took us so to successfully shed our virginities, which made us really creative in other ways.
Now that I've slept with a few other people, I think "good at sex" is a misnomer, and really just means you are sexually compatible. I can't orgasm through intercourse, so for me, a sexually compatible partner would be someone who enjoys going downtown. My sister, on the other hand, hates that and all foreplay. Nothing about sex is universal. What we like in bed is based our bodies, experiences, associations, personalities...etc. #sex
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Well, supposedly, anyway. I mean it all could have been done for publicity, I guess.
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The guy does stupid amateur horror/sexploitation films. Exploitative, sure. Porn, it is not. Disgusting? Certainly. Porn? Nope.
C'mon, peeps.
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This article is about the pornification of inadvertently famous women. I think it makes a good point about the media's sexual objectification of women, but it doesn't exactly apply in the case of the Jaycee film. While I can only speculate on what the film will be, Shane Ryan has not made porn films in the past. It doesn't appear that he is going to all of a sudden start making porn films now. His work isn't like "Nailin Paylin", where a famous woman is replaced with a big-boobed porn star lookalike and put into ridiculous sexual situations. Granted, if it was, it would still be entirely inappropriate. But a look a Ryan's previous films shows that he makes sexually violent exploitation films. Though that doesn't fit as neatly into the thesis of this article, I think it's even more upsetting. Here is a man who has made a career off of portrayals of extreme sexual violence, announcing that he is planning a film based on the story of a rape survivor. It's one thing to make violent films (I personally love horror films, though this brand of exploitation film is definitely not my style). But to take someone's personal story and most likely turn it into an exploitation piece (as that is his M.O.) does strike me as "breathtakingly unkind," to quote the Dugard family.
(I don't want to link to Mr. Ryan's work, but a quick search will show you that many of his movie trailers are available on YouTube.)
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While it sucks for people who use Youtube and whatnot in lieu of putting on a CD, you gotta admit that he seriously knows what he's doing when it comes to nixing the piracy of his work. #porn
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I'm glad you said something about this, Latoya. I've noticed that autotune has been way overused in recently made professionally produced fuckfests. And I really think that it detracts from the quality of the product, and the spirit of pornography. #porn
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Neither seem like they'd come close to oral sex for me, but you've got to give 'em props for creativity. #porn
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To use an example from Jez itself, I'll wager that at least one couple had mind-blowing sex after watching Tracie's Pot Psychology tutorial on how to incorporate a vibrator into their intercourse. A lot of things aren't intuitively obvious in bed. Talking to your partner helps, but how, for example, is a woman who's never had cunnilingus performed on her supposed to know what she likes? It's not something she can do to herself. Having an educated partner would be a great help to her. #sex
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Heartily hearted. #sex
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I understood this as saying, not that you shouldn't develop Good Sex Skills, but that not everybody's idea of Good Sex is SEXXX. I understood this as sort of saying that being a porn star is not the only way to have good sex. #sex
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You definitely can learn to be good at sex. I can tell when someone has put effort into being good at sex, and it makes a mindblowing-ly huge difference. Pun intended.
However, learning, in the sense I mean people should learn sex, has nothing to do with learning moves (although a few help), and everything to do with learning how to please your partner. And this is how I think people go wrong when they think they can learn sex from porn.
From my experience, the people that have been best in bed know how to read their partners. Noise is one way, but that can be problematic because many guys don't make noise and girls can fake. However, you can notice things like toes curling, muscles tensing, back arching....
If you change up what you do every so often and then watch the way your partner responds, you can learn what they like and keep doing it.
Best tip for any guy though, is get the girl off either manually or orally before actual sex starts. Getting past the first orgasm is the hardest part, and it makes coming during sex that much easier if you're already primed. #sex
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Thumbs up to everything that preceded that, tho! Sex is like a website: it can only function well with feedback. Your point about guys being too quiet reminded me of article no. 5 in one of my favorite Craigslist posts ever:
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"It's OK for you to make noise. Otherwise, we feel like we are fucking a ninja." #sex
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And I'm TOTALLY going to use that quote somewhere! Amazing! #sex
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Really? This is shocking to me. If you're comfortable enough to get naked and let them see you from every which angle, why wouldn't you be comfortable enough to talk about how you like to have sex? They are both really intimate things to do, yes . . . I just don't see how gratifying sex can happen unless you talk about likes and dislikes at least once. #sex
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Now that I've slept with a few other people, I think "good at sex" is a misnomer, and really just means you are sexually compatible. I can't orgasm through intercourse, so for me, a sexually compatible partner would be someone who enjoys going downtown. My sister, on the other hand, hates that and all foreplay. Nothing about sex is universal. What we like in bed is based our bodies, experiences, associations, personalities...etc. #sex
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It'll never happen the way it happens on the screen, and you'll probably hurt yourself VERY badly (and maybe permanently) if you try. #sex