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All the women (and men) in my family who were born and raised in India are well-educated and middle-class, who freely chose their spouses and career goals. So could we please refrain from making sweeping generalizations about other countries?
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and i am not really sure how you being from an educated middle-class family contradicts my point. im sure that the "holiday brides" (who you know, this whole post is about) are very happy for you, but i don't think that you choosing your own career/husband invalidates the claim that the marginalization or mistreatment of these women is based on gender inequality or misogynistic attitudes.
pointing out instances of culturally accepted misogyny does not mean that every individual in a country or from that cultural tradition holds those opinions or act in accordance to them. in this instance, you are making the generalization by holding your own experiences as indicative of the norm for a great diversity of women.
and you know, i do think that the fact that us culture sees women only as sex objects betrays misogynistic cultural attitudes. im not sure why you dont think that it is, or what there is to be gained by saying that it doesnt.
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addendum: upthread you made the claim: "I don't know any woman who isn't highly educated, financially independent and confident"
if that is true, you must travel in a very small and exclusive circle and might benefit from getting to know a greater diversity of women because that is a sweeping generalization that really dismisses very legitimate claims of gender-based inequality. there is not one single country in this world that can claim its entire female population is highly educated, financially independent and confident. hell, there isn't a country that can boast its entire male population meets those requirements either.
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i have launched no smear campaign against india nor was that ever my intent. if you think that that is what im trying to do you're either not listening to what im saying or deliberately misinterpreting so that you don't have to. all ive said is that you gave a logically flawed argument and you counter with assumptions about my intent, background, travel history and geopolitical knowledge. i didn't say anything about pakistan so please don't throw that in as a straw man and assume that i don't know the difference. we really seem to love our evasive arguments and haphazard rhetoric on Jezebel, don't we?
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ETA: Aside from Britney
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Ah! Hadn't thought of that at all.
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Bad idea then, bad idea now.
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Though the people I know that marry back home are women getting the men.
My friend's uncle advertised her in the newspaper (without her permission) and CANADIAN appeared in bold. Oy vey.
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Awesome. And by "awesome" I mean "stop earth, want off."
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Oh wait...
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"Holiday" in British English also means a "Vacation" in American English. So it denotes mariages that occur while the men are on their vacations.
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(Actually I think in this sense "holiday" is more like "vacation.")
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This shit really does write itself.
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Yeah... and probably underage virgins too...
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